my friend cuts :( Options

[alli]

my friend...shes 14 her dad died about a yr ago and shes been depressed and now shes cutting herself...i told her its not good and she should stop but she wont listen to me...and im scared that she mite do somethin more serious to hurt herself and i dont no what to say or do! HELP!

[ch33sylici0us]

Sometimes its better to not force her to stop or pressure her into listening to you. I have had many friends that cut, and its really hard because I know how it feels to not know what to do.. sometimes its best to just ask her to go walk with you or spend some time together in a peaceful place.. don't tell her what your up to though, just say you are a little tense and you need some place to clear your mind.. once you get there maybe share a few funny stories and then say some things that are frustrating in your own life, once you've done that ask her if she has anything she'd like to share or get off her chest.. remind her that it helps to share some thoughts that are bothering her. If she does share anything shes feeling, just listen, don't say anything unless she asks for your advice.. if she lets you talk ask her what was the best/happiest thing that she has done or has happend to her lately. This will remind her that her life still has something happy to look at. If you continuously do this with her and ask her something happy she has expericenced you might be able to pull her out of her depression.. if no improvement happens maybe talk to her mom and suggest some outside help from a counseler [i have no clue how to spell that]. I hope that helps.

[chanleythemanley]

Talk to her sounds corny but you should try it. I never found out about my friends cutting until after they had done it. It made me wish I could have helped them. Tell someone.. If you want to keep her around, get her help. She might be mad you told someone but in the end, she'll thank you..

[babixlilac]

talk to her or maybe talk to a adult that can help.go out wid her more to keep her away from sharp dings.

[alli]

thanks everyone for ur help!! i pray she stops...

[xsweetdreams12x]

I've never been in this sort of situation before, but I suggest not forcing her into anything. Just act as normal as possible, and, I know this may sound a little "tattle-talish" but if you must and get a little too into her cutting, tell her parents, or an adult. Until that time, try to hide her sharp tools when you're there...

[Archana]

This might sound corny, but I guarantee she'll listen to it, and think about it. Ask her why she does it. Pain doesnt feel good. And maybe she wants more pain so the cause of her depression doesnt feel that bad. And ask her what she gains out of this. By doing it, shes hurting herself, and so why does she do it? How does it help her? My friend used to cut, and I said that. And she really listened, because she realized that the cuts didnt make her feel any better about her deperession, it made her feel worse about her life.

[cutielilsuga]

take her to see a couselor and to help her deal with her problems that are taking affect in her life

[LatinaLady]

get her some help she is already hurting emotionally dont let her be hurting herself physiclly.

[AGlobalThreatPun...]

hey thanks ch33sylici0us that was rather some good advice you gave, A really good friend of mine cuts herself , and i didnt really know a way to approach her but thank you

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[oOjenniOo]

eh.. i don't want to sound bad, but half the peopl ei know cut.. one for attention or two they can't just sit there doing nothing when they're dying inside, you know?

I've seen girls cut, ive seen them do it and ive seen what happens afterwards..my best friends cuts and sometimes i have to give her wristbands to wear

depressoin is a big thing here, not suicide tho... Just wait and see what happens, and if she keeps cutting tell someone

[IIO__oII]

o no... make sure she knoes that u LOVE herr!!! =[
or tell SOMEONE.

[fresaqueen]

i've never had a friend that cuts..but if i were you i would tell someone..like an adult who could really help ya know? talking to her might help..its sad when ppl cut themself cause they're so depressed!! There's only one way out of depression(and no thats not suicide!!)..it thru Jesus' love!!

[x rOck mai sOcks...]

ya knoe...honestly i used to cut because on the first day of school, my grandpa died...and he was like my dad...so i was in a deep blue funk...but people started to get worried...and so they talked to me...and it was so great to have a that sudden feeling of love...all around you...thats really what you need to realize...you need to make them feel loved

[smallymollyLINDA]

well....if yooh have a friend that cuts herself....try talking to her or getting a adult to tok tew her....i have a friend that wants to cut herself but when i toked to her and always toked about happy thinqs and not about why she is depressed, that really worked. everytime you see her and wok by her juss say hi and how ya doin and be a friendly person and she'll get all betta

[someflipguy]

I heard horror stories about my ex in a bathroom with a big butcher knife about to kill herself...I wasn't to sure if it was true and I respected her to much to even ask...not until she went physco on me one day that I realized that it was true...when I say physco...she really went physco..like I had to put her in a physco hospital...yikes!!!

[x hYpErRoSeY x]

omg thats scary about your ex- i heard of a sitch like this but im not sure exactly, i think you should talk and not pressure her or anythin

[lostinmydreams09]

What ever you do, dont rat her out. Dont get others invloved. Dont tell any parents with out her allowing you. Dont spred it around. Dont make her feel like shit because of it. Dont make her feel like she isnt human for cutting.
Do let her know you care. Do tell her she is a good person, and show her who all cares.
Maybe let her talk to someone who has gone a little far in cutting.

I have scared a few people out of cutting. I am not very proud of my scars, but when people make me into a lesser person becuase of my past and because of my scars it just hurts more.
I am one who went to far, cut to deep, and maybe shouldnt be alive.

Thats all i can say.

-BRi-

[islandkiss]

aww..

okay. this is really serious. she's really depressed and hurting herself.. did you try talking to her yourself? if talking to her doesn't make things better I suggest that you take her to see a therapist.. I hope things work out..

[death_kitten]

Okay ..... Sigh I used to be a cutter I stoped because it was a choice if I stay a cutter my b/f was gonna brake up with me and if i stopped he would stay with me ... I'm sorry out friend is going threw the depresstion but I bet she needs some time alone i know i have a hole bunch of shit on my back cuz parents are drunkies and they beat me sometimes always yelling and well eveyone is scared of me or they hate me yes im a Rocker/ Gothic so i like to be left alone the only person i love to talk to is my b/f so if you are a good friend give her a week or two and then take her out somewhere let her forget about cutting just let her relax it is a addiction and someone said no one likes pain who ever said that is wrong when your a cutter you like the pain it we blame everything on ourselfvs so we think we have to punish ourself so if u have questions about what a cutter thinks just reply and ill read but one thing I stopped cutting for a reason the reason was my b/f find her a reason to stop telll her what she wants to here she wants to here nice thing i bet she is sick of all the shit people put her threw and she is using S/I t her the poeple around her ..... okay well now this made me sad i was trying forget i was a cutter it makes me sad cuz well my b/f almost broke up with me for it and i love him to death and i g2g now so ttyl bye

[ichiban]

Yeah I think you should have a serious talk with her .. go to her house and throw away her cutting tools .. .. maybe you should tell hur parents bout it and they can figure it out

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

my sister and one of my ex girlfriends cut, u cant really stop them,just suggest them try new things to releash their pain, and just make sure they dont cut to kill themselves, u shouldnt worry much , unless ur friend is super suicidal.......

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

there's not much you can do to stop it .. try to just be supportive and help them when possible .. and if it becomes that serious you might seek help for her ..

[xpiixeespriitx]

i had a friend the exact same way,a nd i just made sure to talk to her, and show her a good time, and show her the great things about life. show her how important she is, maybe even try showin her otehr ways to grieve, or look up a story on the net abt maybe how someone could of dies from cuttin herself, and it mite be a reality check that it could happen to her too.

[defjam_gangsta]

GREETINGS!!

i've frens who cut their wrists. they are overcomin their grief. by feelin pain in themselves, they hope their worldly pain will be overcome. this is all psychological. but being da concerned fren, it's best tat ya be at her side. dun try to force ya way in. just be there for her. she will overcome it. sooner or laterz. even if it's gonna take centuries, at least there is a sane person wit her. if worst come to worst, seek professional help or talk to ya skol counsellor or somethin rite. dun worry. our prayers are wit ya and ya fren.

CHEERS CB!!

[sunshiNe_sweeTi_]

telling her that it's not good won't mean that she won't do it....sit her down n hav a talk...tell her that u don't want her to do it cuz u care about her and luv her as a friend....and tell her that her dad isn't worth cutting herself and that they're other peoplez in the world that care about her...she'll understand n there's a good chance that she will stop...

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

my sister and my one of my ex girlfriend cuts,yea its not nice knowing they cut but i did ask them to try to find another way to releive pain and well my sister stopped and iono about my ex i dont talk to her anymore just ask her if she only cuts to reliev pain,and its not some suicide attempt,clear that up.

[inthemudhole]

GREETINGS!!

i've frens who cut their wrists. they are overcomin their grief. by feelin pain in themselves, they hope their worldly pain will be overcome. this is all psychological. but being da concerned fren, it's best tat ya be at her side. dun try to force ya way in. just be there for her. she will overcome it. sooner or laterz. even if it's gonna take centuries, at least there is a sane person wit her. if worst come to worst, seek professional help or talk to ya skol counsellor or somethin rite. dun worry. our prayers are wit ya and ya fren.

CHEERS CB!!

^Wow.
For once.. I actually agree with you, defjam.

[sheepy]

i dink you should tell an adult. or you could tell her how much other ppl are always caring for her, and that its kinda selfish if you just cut yourself. because its gonna and IS causing a lot of pain for everyone around her. someone CARES for her and shes never alone. let her noe dat.

[XxBeExOHxX]

talk to heR? psh, ya right, force her to stop, yell at her, be angry at her, make her feel guilty wen she cuts herself, threaten to rat out on her, make her feel like **** wen she cuts. that'll teach her.

[XxBeExOHxX]

talk to heR? psh, ya right, force her to stop, yell at her, be angry at her, make her feel guilty wen she cuts herself, threaten to rat out on her, make her feel like SHlT wen she cuts. that'll teach her.

[SH0RTAYE]

tell her to stop in a playful-but-serious way . lol , am i making sense ? well show her that you care .

[sammi rules you]

you should reccommend her to a psychiatrist, or reccommend some anti-depressants. they worked for me..

[waccoon]

you should reccommend her to a psychiatrist, or reccommend some anti-depressants. they worked for me..

[black_cloud10]

*clutches skizzors* i'm glad none of you are my friends
lol kidding
i quit cutting in april i think
my boyfriend threatened to stop takin his insulin if i didn't quit (he's diabetic)