Online Relationships Options

[Xia]

What do you guys think about online relationships? Do you think they can work? Or are the couple destined to break up. Every case is different, nothing is 100%. But let's make a nifty list of all the pros and cons.

(Also, it's because I'm sorta in one. Well, sorta. =P)

[Faith]

First of all, I have heard many success stories out of online relationships. So banish all the doubts you may have! I'll make several points, and you can determine if they're pro or con.

With online relationships...

• ...you lack the physical contact and communication between two people. A lot of people believe that physical presence isn't important to a relationship, but it's definitely something that makes two people who are attracted to each other more stronger, and more serious.
• ...you get to explore personalities, and nothing is based on outer appearances. But the problem with that is, there is a difference between a person's real personality and their online personality, most of the time.
• ...there are no transitional stages involved. You talk online everyday, exchange love, possibly do a phone call or two, but it doesn't move on from there. It will constantly and always be "an online relationship".
• ...trust is an issue. How do you know that this person is faithful or true to his or her word? You don't know him or her. You don't know his or her friends. It's taking a great leap of faith.

There's more, but I hope this helped a bit!

[Dr3aMeR]

Just go to your school and find a guy...kindof simple is it not?

[Xia]

I never said I wanted a guy. I just want to know what y'all think. I can deal with being single. Actually, I prefer it.

[COLDasICE]

I've gotta agree that all types of relationships has its pros and cons.. So it doesn't make any difference right?! Just as long as you take it step by step..

[xjjajeengx]

wel... i dont really think online relationships is a good idea, but i mean, its just my opinion. you can have one for fun i guess, but if ur looking into a real solid relationship, then i suggest not to do online dating. why? cause u cant see the person, you cant tell if their lying about their age, gender, etc.

[xDREAMxgirlx]

wel... i dont really think online relationships is a good idea, but i mean, its just my opinion. you can have one for fun i guess, but if ur looking into a real solid relationship, then i suggest not to do online dating. why? cause u cant see the person, you cant tell if their lying about their age, gender, etc.

Yeah, have to agree. I have a realy nice and strong relationship that's a real one and it's like, a lot of people can lie about themselves cuz u really can't see them (Unless of course it's like a webcam--but that's still not like being right there in front of them)

So i would say NO to online relationships -- sry to all that have them.

[conster]

i dont like online relationships. its like wuts the point wen all u do is talk online.. dont u do that wit ur friends? lol

[k00alah]

dang.. almost all of you guys are against online relationships.. i think its cool just as long as you take time to get to know the other person.. with an online relationship you see what the other person has to offer.. you see their inner self.. their true personality.. its not all about the looks and the package.. its whats inside that counts.. haha..

[ObliviousAsian12...]

i had one ONCE...eventually i broke it off since i noticed all he did was typing to his friends saying "I GOT A GIRL! HAHA SEE!" so then it wasn't real stuff... oh well...i would advise people not to get one though...it can hurt emotionally

[applecyder]

hmm.. I guess it depends on ppl.. I mean, yeah some ppl do succeed with online relationships. But personally, I'd prefer face-to-face relationship, which means no online relationships. I'd like to see the opponent by my own, not see online-only. You know? I know some ppl hide their identity and stuff.. (well, I'm not going any further cuz it just goes on and on)

anyways, yeah.. that's what I think. =P

[dzbemark]

u should just fing 1 at your school

[xjjajeengx]

yup. majority wins- NO TO ONLINE DATING!! x] seriously. find one at school

i might work for sum ppl
and might not work for sum ppl

[Alk3]

Excuse me, but for the people who said "just go to your school and find one".. that's not very simple. Especially for myself, since I go to an all-girls school. Unless there's a male student dressing up as a female student, I don't think it would be very easy for me to find a guy in school.

Anyway, I think online-dating can definitely work. There are many bad things about online relationships; such as the distance (if you plan on meeting each other) and of course the whole "not REALLY knowing who you're talking to" problem..

But aside from those things, I think it can work if both of the people are committed to the relationship.

I know a couple from Australia that met online. After a few months, they met offline. They've been together for four years & are currently engaged.

[shorty_oc]

I had a friend who was once in an online relationship. Thank goodness that guy wasn't a rapist/psycho/murderer. But, if you're wondering about it's destination? Well, it's not always destined to fail. But make sure you know the guy, before you commit yourself too much. And stay safe. (lol..that sounded corny)

[k00alah]

yeah its just common sense.. if the person you talking to online wants to meet you right away.. then that means he/she is a criminal.. haha it takes time so be patient..

[Baptismapyros]

Just don’t have online relationships. Why? Well let me tell you something. Love isn’t a feeling, it isn’t flowers, and it isn’t gifts. Love is a state of mind, where you’re willing to sacrifice for the betterment of another person. You really can’t sacrifice much for someone when he or she lives 50+ miles away. Realize that the vows you make at your wedding are promises to God that you will love and cherish this person until your time here upon this earth comes to an end. This also means, that if you had the choice between saving your child or spouse from death, you would sacrifice your own child to preserve the life of your kindred spirit. That is how deeply important the vows you make at your marriage are and that is true love.
Now answer me this. What evidence do you have that this person, who you have never met in person, will honor you and hold you above all, second only to God in their lives? You cannot gather any such evidence online. Eventually, for your relationship to move forward you will have to meet in person, but until you do your relationship does not grow and remains stagnant. Why be in a relationship that goes nowhere? Why waste your time with someone who you will never marry? Why give up your heart so freely to someone, whose reputation and integrity you cannot know?
I have seen enough heartache from friends who have been in these relationships. They are not healthy especially to the females who participate in them. These relationships provide a false sense of security, and when things end the heart hurts over a relationship that didn’t have a chance to begin with. I am disgusted by the boys who have online girlfriends and I won’t go into detail about it, because I must sleep. Let me clarify though, there’s a difference between a long distance relationship and online dating. A long distance relationship usually starts out normally, but then the couple is separated through some unavoidable reason. The online relationships I’m writing about are the one’s that are online with miles and miles of space in between, with that being all the relationship has ever been. I’ve got more beef with this subject, but I don’t have time to organize my thoughts. Take care everyone. This is just my two cents.

[Dr3aMeR]

For the girl who says you can't find one cause you go to an all girls school there is usually an ALL GUYS SCHOOL nearby.

[Alk3]

For the girl who says you can't find one cause you go to an all girls school there is usually an ALL GUYS SCHOOL nearby.

Actually, no. There is no all-boys school nearby. They usually aren't. Our "brother schools" are in the Bronx and Queens. My school is in Manhattan.

[Dr3aMeR]

?? It seems like you really want to give the online thing a try. Well be my guest because there are peoples AIM SNs here.

Yet, there gots to be people at your school who has bfs that are not online. Wonder how they did it? Maybe they went to the mall or there was a public high school right across the street from your school because there are guys at a "non-brother school". Maybe you can hit up central park or the walk up and down around time square.

[Alk3]

?? It seems like you really want to give the online thing a try. Well be my guest because there are peoples AIM SNs here.

Yet, there gots to be people at your school who has bfs that are not online. Wonder how they did it? Maybe they went to the mall or there was a public high school right across the street from your school because there are guys at a "non-brother school". Maybe you can hit up central park or the walk up and down around time square.

LOL.. No, I do not wish to have an internet relationship.. I was just saying that it isn't always easy for people to find boyfriends. I'm quite happy being single, thankyouverymuch.

[Dr3aMeR]

I am happy that you are happy that you are single. But i don't get the point of "thankyouverymuch" with no spaces. Was that a dis to say im not worth the time to press the space key 3 times?



FOr those people out there IM AT LEAST WORTH HITTING THE SPACE KEY 4 TIMES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Alk3]

I am happy that you are happy that you are single. But i don't get the point of "thankyouverymuch" with no spaces. Was that a dis to say im not worth the time to press the space key 3 times?



FOr those people out there IM AT LEAST WORTH HITTING THE SPACE KEY 4 TIMES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay.. "thank you very much" ..happy?

[*eunie03*]

Okay.. "thank you very much" ..happy?

OH-- are you gonna take that?

edit: where do you go, alk3?

[Desperado]

i haven't put much thought into this but my 5 cents is:

can u have real sex through online??

are you gonna marry someone online??

no. so go out and have some fun.

[Dr3aMeR]

ALK3...
...No not really, but thank for the effort.


Eunie03...
...Heck no im not going to take it. That was an attack upon my self-worth and II know you felt the sarcasm in """Okay.. "thank you very much" ..happy?""" So this is what I'm going to do:
1) I'm going to drive to NY
2) Find that all girls school in Manhattan
3) Park my car at the school
4) Walk into alk's english class
5) Hit the dumb teacher(if its a guy) for not doing his job and teaching his kids what spaces are for
6) Staple a paper to Alk's desk that reads "When writing thankyouverymuch use spaces between the words."

[so0o_contagious]

egh...people.. its just an opinion...u cant tell other people if their wrong that you cant go to another school and find a boyfriend... because its just an opinion... think what you wanna......and in my opinion.. does a relationship HAVE to have sex? ..lol.. mmkay.. bye!! .. i dont mean tah offend people okay? lets just all be friends.. muahaha..lol...

[L00d]

the only online relationships i have with girls, are just friends, who i just talk to cuz they're fun to talk to and stuff, but it's never gotten to anything more serious than that.

[darkestdesire]

Umm ok lets see.  I almost got into one but i guess it didnt work out.
Requirements for me if i would have to have an online relationship would be.

- Not lying about anything
- Shows a picture of the TRUE him
- and all the other things i would look for in a guy...

LoL.  Well im owt

But actually in other words nothing would really even happen so theres actually no use in doing this online realtionship thing at all...

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

i bet teh long distance trust will kill someone~

[Alk3]

edit: where do you go, alk3?

I go to Cathedral

Dr3aMeR, you seem to be taking this a bit personally. I thought it was all in good fun¿ Heh.. I'm not here to start something.

And what's wrong with typing "thankyouverymuch"? It wasn't a sarcastic comment or anything.. Just the way I felt like typing out that phrase.

[Dr3aMeR]

alk3...

i thought it was all good fun too but you just killed it with ""Heh.. I'm not here to start something."" oh and itisokaytotypethankyouverymuchthewayyoudid

[*eunie03*]

Okay, so we all agree it's all in good fun. Let's leave it at that, shall we.

[Alk3]

Oh.. Well I must've read it wrong then. lol.. it's hard to tell how a person's actually responding through the internet.

[Dr3aMeR]

Numero uno...
eunie...you are too cheery, happy, want to get alongy...stop it

Numero dos...
alk...haha (slight laughter at the humor of it) i agree (says it in a calm matter, with slight head movement in the forward way to show agreement) its very hard to know (still calm and in agreement). (pauses to think) i recall lots of miscommunication caused by mis-interpretations of what a person wrote (waits for you to nodd your head in understanding) but i am glad we got this thing settled (slight friendly, non threatening smile)

Numero tres...
don't remember who started this topic but i am deeply troubled my by lack of caring to not be trying to help your problem or address your topic but instead engage in conversation with alk and eunie. (solemn voice) my deepest regrets (says this with head bent down)

[k00alah]

moving on..

[Dr3aMeR]

k00alah does not like me feel some reason...i can feel the animosity for a lack of a better word

[k00alah]

haha nah im just trying to make peace..

[COLDasICE]

Where is the love?

[k00alah]

yes yes.. black eyed peas.. where is the love??

[Dr3aMeR]

the love is gone

[dollii]

I don't really believe in online-relationships... Trust issues-- you not knowing them as a person... I mean, they could be sending you pictures of someone else. Or having their friends call you. It could even be a sick joke... I don't really trust the online relationship deal.

Yeah, I know from experience... It was fun while it lasted. It was like having sex and not being able to get pregnant...lol

[*eunie03*]

Numero uno...
eunie...you are too cheery, happy, want to get alongy...stop it

Actually, it was my warning to you to cut the crap.

[melface]

Dr3aMeR ... I'm not sure why you're here trying to start things with other people... So what if alk didn't use spaces... You really shouldn't take things like that so seriously... and plus, she can type however she wants... but for one, maybe you should see how the word "nodd" is really spelled... and then take a look at 'Dr3aMeR'... -- and yes eunie.. I agree that she should cut the crap... kthanksbye....

Onto online relationships... If you really want to devote yourself to that person, sure... meeting people over the internet allows you to reach beyond being shallow and you get to be exposed to a lot of different people... especially if you're living in the same little place you've been living in since you can remember and being around the same guys/girls since you were in middle school... I think it's cool that people are willing to open up like that... but be sure you know what you're getting yourself into... because the distance separating your embrace... gets very irritating and may get under your skin and one day you're longing for their touch and it will just explode and you'll want to move onto something more real....

[Dr3aMeR]

DAMN

omg_melface...
Shut up cause you misunderstanded..don't act like you know when you dont...and stop tryin to kiss ass to eunie

eunie03...
the "beach" of this forum...don't ever msg me with the stuff you got to say cause i don't care. i have a right to talk and if alk doesn't say anything about it don't get all krazy....who the hell are you stickin ur butt in other people's buisness.

alk...
i apologize if you were hurt or offended by any of my comments

*****Though if anyone is offended by comments anyone makes its kinda sad...it shows you have low self-esteem, self-worth, self-value to let what someone say get to bother you so much. Its a forum people will say shit, in real like people will say shit...you can't go "that was your warning" and warn them and think the person will stop...

[*eunie03*]

don't ever msg me with the stuff you got to say cause i don't care.

i have a right to talk

who the hell are you stickin ur butt in other people's buisness.

A mod, actually.

[so0o_contagious]

misunderstanded..

ummm.. i dont think theres an actual word for misunderstanded.. i think its misunderstood? but im not tryin to start anything here okie? please stop fighting... the love is here.. but people just arent showing it..lol.. ..mkay.. i hope you guys start to get along soon.... lol.. ^^;;

[*eunie03*]

Haha... I'm willing to let go whenever he does.

[so0o_contagious]

lol..

[*krnxswat*]

DAMN

omg_melface...
Shut up cause you misunderstanded..don't act like you know when you dont...and stop tryin to kiss ass to eunie

eunie03...
the "beach" of this forum...don't ever msg me with the stuff you got to say cause i don't care. i have a right to talk and if alk doesn't say anything about it don't get all krazy....who the hell are you stickin ur butt in other people's buisness.

alk...
i apologize if you were hurt or offended by any of my comments

*****Though if anyone is offended by comments anyone makes its kinda sad...it shows you have low self-esteem, self-worth, self-value to let what someone say get to bother you so much.  Its a forum people will say shit, in real like people will say shit...you can't go "that was your warning" and warn them and think the person will stop...

Sheesh, what crawled up your butt?
Here's your first warning from me.

and think the person will stop...

If you don't, we can make you.

[conster]

cant we all get along...

[so0o_contagious]

yes.. get along!! lol.. please? ...

[so0o_contagious]

DAMN

omg_melface...
Shut up cause you misunderstanded..don't act like you know when you dont...and stop tryin to kiss ass to eunie

eunie03...
the "beach" of this forum...don't ever msg me with the stuff you got to say cause i don't care. i have a right to talk and if alk doesn't say anything about it don't get all krazy....who the hell are you stickin ur butt in other people's buisness.

alk...
i apologize if you were hurt or offended by any of my comments

*****Though if anyone is offended by comments anyone makes its kinda sad...it shows you have low self-esteem, self-worth, self-value to let what someone say get to bother you so much. Its a forum people will say shit, in real like people will say shit...you can't go "that was your warning" and warn them and think the person will stop...

umm.. why are you people making this such a big deal.. okie.. maybe it ish a big deal.. but.. yah dun gotta make it bigger then it already ish..lol.. okie.. bye now!lol

[melface]

You really shouldn't think so highly of yourself... the word is misunderstood, by the way... and no i really didn't... and sucking up to eunie? No... just speaking my opinion of you and it's pretty hypocritical that you say that you have the right to talk and you turn around and tell me to "shut up"... come on, Dr3aMeR, dear.... grow up, eh?

[so0o_contagious]

haha.. i told you it was misunderstood! i told you!! lol.. but realy.. lets try to make peace!!

[GinaDaQueen]

I think the mods took care of this situation graciously, so I have nothing to say about that. Now unto the original topic:

Did you hear of eharmony.com? I heard a lot of people end up marrying the people they find there, so online relationships are not all destined to fail. Just don't think that you'll find true love in those creepy chatrooms though. You never know who you're talking to.

Hey who knew? There's a whole scientific method behind match-making.

[dasturbd]

online relationships are not that far off from real life relationships. It's all based on your maturity level and if you can handle it or not. On-line relationships are based solely on trust...due to the fact that you can't physically see that person or "check up on them".

I had an online relationship...and we are now married with a 3-1/2 month old son

[dasturbd]

did I mention I met my hubby on Xanga??

[Dr3aMeR]

I love men!

[fragrance]

just as long as u know what ur getting into...then online relationships are ok.
dont take it too seriously though..u'll get hurt more that way

[dat_da_busit_hai]

i had about 2, they neevr work out... they always cheat on you.. lol n uh, yah

[colorsarenice]

i think the good thing about an online relationship is that you get to know a person based on what they're like and stuff. the bad thing is that you dont really know who you're talking to. sure they can show you a picture but they can also be a hairy 35 year old man whos fat and slimy. you never know . i guess the pros and cons overweigh each other, depending on how you look at it. but really its about what you think of it.

[aj637]

i somewhat got out of my "online relationship" i always see online relationship not real and completely fake but i met a guy whos not that far from me online and he seems like a nice kid (sweet, charming etc) only to realize he has an online relationship with another girl (who i hate because shes the ex of the guy i used to talk too) from hawaii (we're from cali) so pretty much what i'm saying is ONLINE relationship is whack because fortunately there are those who believe in it and who are trustworthy (like my guy) and faithful. its kinda like he tells me their relationship is not real and it is fake becuase he believes they wont ever see other (unless it is plan) but he still choose her to be wiht then me whos in the same state with.

^^ i really didnt know what i was thinking to get in a relationship like that but i guess my emotions were too strong for the guy that i fall inlove. blahhhh!!!

[d1nonlyqty]

its never going to work.

[S0ULd0UT]

-_- im against that

[LatinaLady]

i think online relationships are stupid.i dont like them and i dont se the point. i would want to see my oyfriends and to be able to hug, kiss etc... so yeah

[princess_tracy]

just be careful

[axprincezz]

whatever you decide you should be careful because there are deceptive people out there who are not who they say they are. and i'm sure no one would want to see you get hurt and lied to

[phanaticalazn21]

it doesn't last long

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

What do you guys think about online relationships? Do you think they can work? Or are the couple destined to break up. Every case is different, nothing is 100%. But let's make a nifty list of all the pros and cons.

(Also, it's because I'm sorta in one. Well, sorta. =P)

0nline relati0nships CAN w0rk .. but the chances are n0t likely that m0st will l0st .. it depends 0n the pe0ple and what they have in c0mm0n .. if they find themselves c0mpatible .. if they live a decent distance away t0 see each 0ther .. etc. .. t0 th0se in 0n line relati0nships .. best 0f luck .. if y0u really want it t0 w0rk .. just try y0ur best t0 pull thr0ugh and it sh0uld w0rk 0ut just fine .. =]

[thedilenquent]

i have a friend who did online dating i guess she thought it would work because they lived in the same state and what not and would eventually meet. she was so gah gah over this guy and turns out he was e-dating everyone and they momma ... not to mention i dont see what you can get out of an e-relationship.. its boring u never get to go out and spend time together and ... no

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

i have a friend who did online dating i guess she thought it would work because they lived in the same state and what not and would eventually meet. she was so gah gah over this guy and turns out he was e-dating everyone and they momma ... not to mention i dont see what you can get out of an e-relationship.. its boring u never get to go out and spend time together and ... no

yes.. that's an0ther pr0blem with 0n line dating .. y0u really have t0 establish s0me h0nesty s0mewhere .. and if that isn't p0ssible .. it may n0t be w0rth the risking thr0wing y0ur heart 0ut t0 s0me0ne y0u d0n't really kn0w .. and i agree that it's hard just having an 0n line relati0nship .. affecti0n and the such is lacking and makes it hard t0 have true feelings f0r s0me0ne .. on line relati0nships enable 0ne t0 put up a fr0nt and be any0ne they want t0 be .. y0u may never kn0w the true face 0f the pers0n y0u're talking t0 .. s0 always be careful!! there have been s0 many articles 0n pe0ple wh0 met s0me0ne 0n line and then went t0 meet in pers0n and were abducted, raped, etc .. it's a huge risk when y0u cho0se t0 meet a stranger like that..

[tiffsezgrr]

no no no

[SorMui]

I disagree, the relationship is kind of 'vague' ? Unrealistic ? It won't last long either, because you're not actually living with them? That means, unknowing their personality, habits etc...?

[blah3868]

online realationshipz hardly eva work out u neva knoe wah da otha personz doin wif who or what and if u think about it u cant kiss him/her or not even a hug from him/her

[iloveyou07]

i personally think online relationships are stupid

[conair]

But let's make a nifty list of all the pros and cons.

You may think there's "pros" in an online relationship, but I can't see them being valid because it's based off a typical physically interactive (gesters, hugs, expressions, etc.) relationship. So an online relationship would be the same, just with holes. Usually each person creates their own images to fill those holes and show validity in their online relationship.

If the people take an "online relationship" for what it is. Then I think it would be better to define that as a good friendship.

[psychoticangel]

Hrm.. well.. I don't really have much time to read what dah others said buh... It's a 50-50 kinda thing.. If you're serious bout it then.. you really gotta exert a hell of a lota effort to make it work. Buh if you're just playin like most internet couples do then... no need to worry bout nefink I guess.

Mai baybee's overseas, so we usually talk either on the phone or through the internet.. it's fine so far. He's dat "loyal" kinda guy so yah. Depends on dah conditions~! and dah will to make it work o.o

*iono wth I'm saying buh..yah *

[ThePrincessofTKD]

ive had two online relationships...(fer fun only)

HORRID AND A BIG MISTAKE...

one was ugly and looked like he was on crack and he was younger than me..

the other said that they were a lesbian pretending to be a guy calling ME the lesbian...plus he/SHE said that they couldnt contact me at all cuz they were GROUNDED...

my friend had 3 online relationships..

first one got angry at her and started to ignore her...
second one sounded gay on the phone and wouldnt stop bothering her...
third one did it to make her feel like a fool sayin it was all a lie..cuz he was 16 and she was 13 and he was BEST friends wit a guy she knew but never saw dat 16 year old...

so...

yeah...

and da guy i like who likes me too dosnt have online stuffs so its VERY much all good...talkin wit yur man online aint dat good...its betta on da phone

[imalilpeanut23]

i think it totally depends on what kind of people you are for an online relationship to work. personally, i don't like them. but i have had friends who made them work really well. one of my friends met a guy and started dating him online, and soon after they met and they've been dating for almost 2 years now. they even talk about marriage sometimes. i think to have an online relationship u can't rely on all of the physical aspects of it and you have to have a LOT of trust.

i don't know.. i think it all depends on what kind of people they are

[dani41790]

i dont realli think online relationships would work.

[Senorita_Babo]

online relationships did work when it first started, but then u get peverted men and child molesters tryin' to pick up kids online, that's just not kool. and as much as we'd like to say that "looks don't matter," it really does. itz just creepy that u can talk to a person online and not even know wha they look like... i just think itz a lil creepy.

[jatti]

yeah i personally dislike online relationships...=\

[angel-roh]

heh....... thats how i met my bf, justin! lol.... well actually... i was online chattin' and i was jus bored...so i went to da relationship place... hehe i was like........heehee...4th grade...HAHAHA... newais i neba tried it that time..so i wanted to check it out...newais lols someone IMed me... heh i was in yahoo.... heh and i said hi... and he said hi... lols he said he read my profile..... so yeah..and he start to speak korean to me...and start on cussin' at me.......................... i was so mad at him...so i logged off... cus i was scared...lols newais da otha day he mailed me... it was like he was stalkin me... lols in the mail, he said "u are reallie pretty in ur profile pictures...do u have more?" i send him my baby pictures...lols...he said i was still beautiful...... ay... so i was online in yahoo messenger...and someone added me...so i checked it out...and it was him again...lols i was scared and start on cussin in korean at him...but he ignored...then we start to have a conversation..and start to get to kno each other...he made me laugh a lot... we were crackin and laughin' our heads off...lols.... then he gib me his cellular phone.. so i called him.... i was scared at first, but i wanted to try......... and i called him and he said hey and wassup? i kinda liked him... cus we were kept talkin for like everyday...hehe but like 2 months later... my computer had a virus...and we didnt talk online for like a week...and i couldnt call him...cus i qot trouble by my dad...he found out i was talkin to a 3 year older than me...lols...haha... nd' then... i went to my hip hop dance club... heh where there is a lot of korean ppls and japanese ppls...hehe newais.. we were doing our dance routine that our leader told us to do... and so yeah newais our leaders told us to find some ppls to join us...so we can have more ppls^^;; nd' i had these papers with me...to pass them on...to azn kids... heh newais justin didnt send me pictures of him... so i didnt kno how he looked like to let u kno.. nd'...heh i walked pass by this guy...who was kept starin at me....then i smiled... i dont kno y...then he was following me... i was so scared... i ran...then he ran... lols... i qot to my skool... cus i thot it wuld be safe... and he still caught me... i screamed... and he asks me "can i have the paper u have to? cus i reallie luv hiphop and i wana join too" lols i felt very stupid... then he winked at me... i was very shyyyyyyyyyy at that moment... and then he said, "hey sung min (my korean name)... i missed u".... i was shock... i mean i dont kno this guy...lols hehe that time i didnt kno who he was...then he said "it's my kangsu or u can say Justin park... we used to talk a lot...we were doing online relationship...remember?" i was shock...cus he was soooooooooooooo cute! lols... hehe but too bad i had a bf that time HAHAHAA jp... hes not my bf... but we act like one...lols cus we hold hands many times....keke... yeah justin had a huge crush on me for like a year...then stopped...then he start to went out with michella my homie! and my otha homie, amiee^^;; heehee... then my otha friend... sehee... heh.... and now...................... we are officially qoin' out hahaha............. im very happy with him..... we went out on february 11, 2004!!^^;; so i have known him for like 6 years!! wow heehee

[Soleil]

You can have one...but i wouldnt want one.

[verlorenrivets]

Online relationships? They hardly exist, how can it even be feaseable to be loyal to someone who:

A: You've never Really seen, so you're just totally trusting images of them whether they be real or not.

2: You may never actually meet in real life, and if you do, then that's a REAL relationship, and if anything in that situation is even the slightest bit off for either party, it's over before it starts.

#: You can't know through their words alone. There's alot of talking that can only be done with chemistry.

Consider pr0n.

[NgocQuyen]

lols i can't make a list of pros and cons...but ill just type stuff how about that...

i think in online relationships you're able to explore the personality rather than actual physical attractions. i think its easier to communicate because perhaps you feel more comfortable typing rather than talking face to face.

bad things are that if you wanted physical affection you wouldnt be able to get any of that very often...and its just online and you dont really have that person you want to hold you know?

hehe..thats all i have

[sw33tii_kagome]

im in a online relationship.. and its a long distance too.. and it sucks.. and 3-4 yrs age difference

[ParanoidAndroid]

lols i can't make a list of pros and cons...but ill just type stuff how about that...

i think in online relationships you're able to explore the personality rather than actual physical attractions. i think its easier to communicate because perhaps you feel more comfortable typing rather than talking face to face.

bad things are that if you wanted physical affection you wouldnt be able to get any of that very often...and its just online and you dont really have that person you want to hold you know?

hehe..thats all i have

yup exactly!




another con is that who knows? You might be talking to a lecherous old man

[sw33tii_kagome]

all true all true.. online relationships r also kinda dangerous.. or sumthing like tat.. tat person yu like. might lure yu into meeting him or her.. mostly likely him.. and den he might lure yu into doing "things"... and yu might get kidnapped.. or murdered..

tats wut mi mom said...

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I don't think it would work out at all. If you meet you boyfriend online and have never seen them in real life, who knows if their some 80 year old fat guy. but I think if you know them in real life and start to get to know them better by talking to them online, that's a different story. Just as long as you don't do everything online =\

[hottiebheibi]

bein' in a online relationship doesn't mean the relationship is stagnant or not working because you can't see each other.... im not biased 'coz im in one but come to think of it... it's easy to avoid temptations in physical contact such as *premarital sex* and you'll know the person more because you'll be able to talk about everything.... it's like bein' also in a ldr *long distance relationship*... if you really like each other, or serious on the relationship.. it will work... i knew someone who had an online relationship... guess what?!! there married now and living happily....

[chaoticchrissy]

oh my gahh.. i think they are awesome. becuase you not just like the person for what they look like, and you get to i unno talk to them more, and its just so much coolerr that way.. i so want a online relation, however we must meet up every so oftenn... =P

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

Go for it. I've done it!. But guess what your missing!

-kissing
-holding hands
-touch
-hugging
-looking deeply at each other
- & not being able to fill to each other desires!..

PLUS+

how would you know what each other are doing? exactly you wouldn't!.

[sw33tii_kagome]

true true... oh yea.. i got dis problem.. how can yu tell if tat person (tat ur supposely going out with) is lying or not.. im having trouble

[ceara cecilyrose]

Hehe
Do what I did - fall for the guy and then meet!

Personally I don't think that relationships conducted entirely online work well in the long run but I also think that the net is an entirely valid place to meet people.
I met my boyfriend over the internet although we weren't in an official relationship until after we met. I really think thats probably the best way to do things. You can show interest online but I don't think you can really know until you actually meet the person.
When my boyfriend and I met, it was incredible and we've been together ever since, but not everyone will have an experience like that.

Check out this thread if you want to know more about my experience with meeting my boyfriend online: http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=111582

[*not_your_average*]

Well, it all really depends. Like everyone else said, there's no physical contact, so that's a big minus. Also, you don't know if you're really talking to the person you think they are. The biggest thing is meeting with the person. You'd have to take precautions before meeting up with them.

You wouldn't have those same problems IRL.

[sheddingtears]

online relationships + long distance = doesn't seem as romantic or reliable to me.


"absence sharpens love
presence strengthens it."

[Just_Dream]

I think they can work. I mean, it just trully comes down to trust, right?

All relationships are based on trust. Some people meet wonderful and incomparable people through the internet.

Oh yea, and one of my half-sister's best friends married a guy that she met through the internet. :D