Paranoid about Boyfriend's Past? Options

[angel-roh]

Any of you girls who are dating right now...

I have a question.

Do you always ask questions to your boyfriend about their past with their exes?
Like I have a problem of asking about his exes a lot... like.. a lot.
And he tells me that he has memory problems so he can't really remember a lot.

:( And that really bothers me. As if that's his excuse of saying "I don't want to talk about it."

D:

Is paranoid even the right word for this? Like I'm always so curious and concerned??
I mean.. I love him, but why do I have this feeling? -__-;;

He gets so angry with me cause I always ask questions to him about his past with his exes D:
Is it because I had problems with my exes with trusting issues in the past? Is that why I keep asking?
Or maybe because I just want to make sure he didn't do this and that with his exes in the past?

HELPPPPPPP D:

(I hope my sister and my boyfriend and my boyfriend's sister doesn't read this topic, since they are all registered here LOL)

[Maccabee]

i dont think u are paronoid. i can see y he doesnt want to talk about it but i see y u want to know. not sure wat kida guy he is but yall could tlk about it. i mean i have always wanted my girlfriends 2 have never had bf's b4 cause the thought of them loving someone else just...cause once they give some of their heart away its gone

[angel-roh]

Like he told me other reasons he forgot is cause he wanted to forget the bad memories.
But I'm sure there are good memories too, and I wanted to know about it bad.

Oh and the paranoid part, I was scared that he might be hiding something from me.
I know I shouldn't ask createBlog. But just some advices would be very nice right now.
So even if I ask him about it, I don't think he will tell me the 100% truth since he said he's having "memory problems"

D:

[imperfectionistx]

There's two sides to this issue: he could really be having memory problems, or he doesn't want you to find things out about him. I find the second one more probable. Everyone has pasts in relationships and you shouldn't base too much judgement on someone off their past, unless you are seeing signs that they are the same way (in a bad way) in their current state.

You are not paranoid, it's best to know atleast a little bit (if not all) about your partner and what they are like; but in this situation, it seems like he isn't too proud of something that happened, or he really must have disliked whatever happened. You shouldn't force the issue too much, but ask here and there. It's not cool of him to get mad at you for just asking. You have a right to know certain things; you're his girlfriend. I say, give it time. If he gets more shady about his past and you get more concerned, it might be a good idea to consider how much trust you both have in this relationship if you can't even talk about things like this.

[datass]

he doesnt want to think about the past and just live the present. that's how people should be. who wants to delve in the past and think about what their past ex's when they got a girlfriend right in front of them. that's probably what he thinks. dont worry about it.

[fameONE]

If women were to judge me on my past in regards to prior relationships, past one-night-stnads, or relatively poor choices in short-lived flings; then I would never be able to get a girl.

Don't judge him based on his past. What if you had a past that was less than flattering? You wouldn't want someone to call you a whore now for what you did a few years ago, right?

[Insurmountable]

How long have you two been dating? I mean if not long, then I can see that you asking about his exes would be fine because its just something most people do when they are dating and get it out of the way in the beginning. Now if you two have been together for a while now and you two have talked about the whole exes thing before and your the one with the memory problems that can't remember the answer to some of the old questions then I think you really need to stop. Guys generally don't want to talk about their exes their about whats going on now not then. But if you two have just started dating and your getting to know each other going through the whole "get to know your past" is completely normal so I wouldn't say your paranoid if this is the case.

But if he really doesn't want to talk about it and shoots you down all the time, then make a list of the top priority questions and tell him you know once I ask you these questions and you answer me honestly then I won't ask about your ex's anymore. You have to meet him in the middle somehow.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

You shouldn't judge someone from their past. I get it that your very concerned about his past, but it's best to not worry. You might start regretting to be with him and that could ruin your relationship. Try not to ask him so much, maybe that'll help? Try to focus on the present and the future, than his past. (:

[shoryuken]

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[hypnotique]

And he tells me that he has memory problems so he can't really remember a lot.

God that is the greatest man excuse ever.

Man i wish veritaserum existed.

Yes I do ask a lot of questions about one's past and just like a criminal history it can and will be used against you.

I have a rule to not bother with someone if i come to find they have cheated multiple times no matter what the excuse is.

I also don't bother with people who feel the need to conceal certain things about exes,I mean i don't want you to kiss and tell but i do want a short and simple summary about why the relationship failed so i know what boundaries i cant push with them.

[Tomates]

Ive asked my boyfriend about his past exes...he wont tell me.

[firechild]

its the past, let it go.
you can't change what happened.
that's what i told my girl

[Simba]

dunno but 50 cent sez

don't indulge in my past f*ck what happened before you/ cause their be some honies gonna hate you that never saw you

[Tomates]

idk for me wanting to find out became more of a curiosity. Especially since he wont share it with me.

[*BOSS*]

Ive asked my boyfriend about his past exes...he wont tell me.

inb4steven

[Blyat]

I Think you should wait a while, then ask him again. but mabey he really doesn't want to tell you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings

[shoryuken]

dis thrad funni.. HAHHAAH.. sum ill advvicc lol

[slipper]

i've learned to not ask too much about ex's and pasts. i found myself comparing myself to them, and my ex comparing me to them. just asking urself to be hurt later on. i wouldn't ask too much, plus, that's annoying as hell being asked about ex's.