do i need to chill out? Options

[T00000]

Okaaay so I love my boyfriend so much. And I've been with him for over a year. I've been deeply in love with him for over a year... and last year I moved away from Portland, so our relationship is long distance.

Am I too paranoid for worrying about other girls all the time? I know like everyone at his school (my old school,) so if he cheated on me I'd most likely find out. But still, there's the fact that I'm not there and I really worry, like when he goes and hangs out with his friends who are girls and shit. Like once he went to get ice cream with his friend Lindsay, and she picked him up and drove him and shit and I was really uncomfortable.

I trust him... I just don't trust other girls. And I don't trust the fact that he has a dick, and people who have penises tend to cheat more easily that people who dont. If he ever did cheat on me, I knew he'd regret it... which is why I'm so worried, because some girl might seduce him and he'd make a bad decision...

Do you think I should just chill out? If so, how? It's very hard to do, I've tried before. It's just that the idea of him cheating on me would be the worst thing ever... and even if he did, I probably wouldn't break up with him because I love him so much. I would just be devastated... and depressed, and stuff. He's never actually cheated on me, but he's done this one thing with this girl that I honestly didn't like, and not many would. Mmmm... advice...?

[Winter]

It's only natural to feel that way when it's long distance. I feel the same way too.

You just gotta not let it bother you. Do you honestly trust him? If you do then you don't have to worry about him.

I think in a way, you do need to chill. I don't really know how you can do it... But for me, I threw myself into other stuff. I filled my free time with activities and stuff so I don't think about it.

After a while, you just find yourself not caring. o.O Or at least that was how it was for me...

[mai_z]

i don't blame you for being suspicious, but in any relationship, trust is key, especially in a long distance relationship

[huihead]

it's normal to feel that way, but just don't let those feelings control yu

[LiNHy POO]

im in a long distance relationship myself... but i trust my partner completly!!! well its nothing wrong to be worried about him when he's with other girls.. is it jealousy of sum sort? juss try not to think about he's doing... yehh sounds wierd... but thats the only way i know that would stop you from worrying..

[ThePrincessofTKD]

you don`t need to chill out. you have every right to feel worried about your boyfriend cheating on you. he should know the consequences of cheating on you. then that gives you all the more right to hunt his a$$ down and punish him for what he did to you.

[pbear]

You should chill out, but also stay alert.
Don't completely go lax and not care about what he does with other girls.
Just tone the paranoia down a bit.

[pm3k]

Since u love this guy sooosoooosooo much.... I think u chose someone that is at least smart enough to know that cheating has its consequences...

and.. is he someone that is easily pressured to doing stuff.. like sex?

and.. it's always good to chill. so u won't grow grey hair at an early age or get wrinkles in below your eyes...

[lilbabicarmi]

it's aiiz to feEl dat way bout yoor bf cuz he did something against yoo in da past buh ib he ish cheatin on yoo, jus break it off. it's goin to hurt now buh either way dat will happen. just have a lil <3 to <3 talk wif him. meEt out one day and just trust him and his friends
-carmi

[SarahxJoy]

i don't blame you for being suspicious, but in any relationship, trust is key, especially in a long distance relationship

I second this.

[inthemudhole]

Hrmm. I would wonder a lot, too..
I don't think you need to chill out.
But yeah, he should be trustable.

[mouse_3k]

I trust him... I just don't trust other girls

thts tru..me and my bf live like 20-30 minutes away from each other and go to different skools. I always get jealous or start to wonder whts going on because theres always like his good friends *tht are girls* always like:

"cant wait till skool starts so i could see you!!!"
"I love and miss you, hope u come back to our skool so i could have my best friend back" <<<Tht one really got me MAD
"I miss yooooU!!"
"Cant wait to see you"

and so on..


grrrr... if those girls touch him, i am going to bust sum caps around hurr..

just try talking to him. ask him how things are going with him and stuff. Me and my bf usually talk about these things and i have questions and yea he gets mad but, u must clear ur suspisions..

then again, im just one of those jealous gf tht stays quite..

[enticing.]

long distance relationships are always hard. me & my boyfriend live 30 minutes away. i feel like i can relate to you because i do trust him but i've heard of the types of girls that go to his school & i just don't trust them. but if your relationship is strong then you'll be fine.

[strwbrryluv8]

it's all about the trust...

[Darkpekkle]

i think you have a right to be suspicious and to give other girls the evil eye, because some girls you just have to be wary of (especially those flirty, touchy-feely types). But there's also a fine line between being suspicous and being obsessively/overly suspicious. Your bf will definitely get annoyed if you keep bugging him about all the girls he knows and hangs out with. I guess just give him room to chill with who he wants to chilll with, but also keep an eye out for the girls you don't like.