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[xknuckles]

its been two months since me and my ex broke up, shes already found another guy and she doesnt want to talk to me, if you read my last post youll see why. anyways we dated for 17 months and shes on the rebound i guess if thats what you call it, did our relationship mean nothing to her or something?

[espressive]

maybe it's cause you cheated on her?

perhaps she's with this guy to make you jealous, to put you in her shoes when you decided to cheat on her. now that's a pretty bitchy move, but not out of the ordinary. people do crazy things when they are hurt by a loved one (at least she's not like a crazy psycho killer right?) OR this guy is not a rebound and she really likes him. perhaps another reason for your breakup may be that she developed feelings for this guy. those are just two possibilities.

i don't think that your relationship meant nothing to her. if it meant nothing to her, she would not have put up with you for 17 months. i think she's just trying to move on with her life and it's just easier to emotionally detach herself from you by not communicating with you (plus, the cheating on your part didn't help) i mean it's a little immature, but cutting off all contact is seriously the best way to get over somebody. so give her that time; she deserves it. don't be selfish and try to meddle with her life just cause YOU want to see her. that won't make her want to talk to you any more. give her space and then see where it goes from there. maybe when the emotions die out, she'll be willing to be friends. maybe it'll stay the same and you guys just won't be friends, which would suck, but you just have to accept that.

bottom line - i wouldn't stick around and wait for her to come back. and when you're thinking about stuff like "did i mean nothing to her?" and the what if's, you're just digging a deep hole for yourself. it's not worth it to think about it. IT ALREADY HAPPENED; you can't change it, so just learn to accept it and move on.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i think it did mean something to her. but it's just that it kinda hurt her for the cheating part. you seem like a really nice guy, but i don't think you should be so attatched. no offense or anything, but i do believe that it takes time, and you just have to live day by day by not making the same mistake you did. and she'll probably come along realizing that what she's doing is wrong too.