Best friend with the opposite sex... Options

[scoobypoo36202]

I've been best friends with this boy since I was about four, and now he says he wants to hangout in groups because he doesn't want people thinking the wrong idea. I also got the vibe that he thinks I want him. We don't really hangout as much as we used to, but we are the types that don't have to see each other in order to still be close. What should I do about this situation without ending our friendship?


Have you ever ended up dating a best friend of the opposite sex?

[Tomates]

May i ask how old you are? I noticed that happen a lot with me around middle school he will grow out of it.
As for dating a friend, yes and im currently still dating him we have been together for 4 almost 5 months now.

weird things happen i guess between friends

[scoobypoo36202]

We are 16. We have been fine until these past few months..its just weird for us to go through something like this. I kinda think part of it is his parents. They are really religious so I think that might have something to do with it, like they think if we are in the same room im gonna try to have sex with him.

[mytangerine]

do you want to date him?

[rawrcelle]

Dating friends can be a tricky thing. The best thing is that you already know your friend enough and friendship is a really good basis for a relationship. But, on the flip side is that if thing go bad, your friendship might be torn. It all depends i guess.

[Joanne]

I think you should sit this guy down, and tell him exactly how you feel. You don't actually like him that way, right? So tell him. If he's still acting funny towards you, then explain to him once more that what he's doing is super annoying and that all you want to be is friends.

I've been in a situation similar to yours before... there's this guy I've known since I was six, and we were pretty close friends for a couple of years in high school. I started having these feelings for him when we were in grade 10 and he found out. It got a bit awkward, but I got over it and I made SURE he knew. We got back to normal after that... but now we've kind of drifted apart. But that has nothing to do with this.

[scoobypoo36202]

I off and on have feelings for him, but right now I have a boyfriend and I don't really like him. If I ever found out he liked me I would date him though :]

[james9]

I also think that all the relationships start from some words. So dating with a friend is not weird according to me so you don’t worry you can’t date with a person to whom you are not familiar is called blind dating.
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[*paperplane*]

Wait, do you want to date him or just to know what to do about him not wanting people to think you're dating?

[brooklyneast05]

i'm dating a best friend of the opposite sex. our parents have been best friends since we were 5, so we basically have too. we never dated for the first time until we were 17ish.

i don't think he should push you out or anything like that, but it is hard if you guys are just friends. people do always assume things about friends like that and that used to get to me becuase i didn't want girls i liked to think i was already taken.


but yeah, like everyone else said, i don't know if you actually like him or not.

[sixfive]

I think you should sit this guy down, and tell him exactly how you feel. You don't actually like him that way, right? So tell him. If he's still acting funny towards you, then explain to him once more that what he's doing is super annoying and that all you want to be is friends.

I've been in a situation similar to yours before... there's this guy I've known since I was six, and we were pretty close friends for a couple of years in high school. I started having these feelings for him when we were in grade 10 and he found out. It got a bit awkward, but I got over it and I made SURE he knew. We got back to normal after that... but now we've kind of drifted apart. But that has nothing to do with this.

Idk bra, are you aware of the average maturity level of a 16 year old male, and how well they deal with women being emotional? Now I know there are exceptions, and those who deal with it quite well, but think about the average male. Also, try to analyze the way the OP is typing, think about what kind of boy would date her. Not intended as an insult, but it doesn't seem like the super mature type would be dating her.

[only-tuesdays]

I'm dating my best friend right now as a matter of fact. We just got back together. We dated a few times in high school but weren't quite mature enough at that age. It is possible to not date them though...

[Glamourouz]

I'm dating my best friend of the opposite sex...we've been friends for 6yrs & dating a yr & a half...I feel it's all based on maturity...If you make your feelings known then there won't be any problems, but if you happen to like him & he feels it's weird, then he will try to distance himself a little, but if you haven't told him you like him; he shouldn't push you away on account of what others might think. people are gonna formulate their own opinions regardless; as long as you two know the truth, nothing else matters...

[fameONE]

Idk bra, are you aware of the average maturity level of a 16 year old male, and how well they deal with women being emotional? Now I know there are exceptions, and those who deal with it quite well, but think about the average male. Also, try to analyze the way the OP is typing, think about what kind of boy would date her. Not intended as an insult, but it doesn't seem like the super mature type would be dating her.

Preach on, bruh. Preach on.

[kittkitkatbar]

its hard, but props if you do it

[creole]

If I ever dated a friend I've known long, I would feel uneasy and awkward. If you can, try to go on a date with him and try to go on an activity that is reminiscent of previous years....

Good luck. (;

[LoveToMySilas]

If it really bothers you, then you should just ask him whats up with that? Guys are usually straight forward anyway.

I happen to have a best guy friend and we've never went out but a lot of people think we're done stuff because we're so close. Lol, I would probably go out with somebody else thats close to me...just not him.

[pinayprincess]

well i first dated the guy before he became my best friend... We only went out for two-three months, and after we broke up we became closer than ever... yeah we had some sort of friends with benefits, but ever since then i was always comfortable to come w/ him about anything