girlfriend troubles Options

[clahky]

I've been dating this girl for over 2 years. Ever since i met her she's been amazing, shes the one girl i want to be with for the rest of my life. For a bit of time, she's been asking me if im "hurting" her and i can't lie to her because i love her too much. A long time ago i looked at other girls naked, not for a while now, and the other day she got me to admit that i occasionally check out other girls at school. I go to college and i sort of subconsciously look at other girls, i dont necessarily check them out and think about their bodies, i just look sometimes without noticing. Now she asks me everyday if ive hurt her, and i cant help but say yes because i see a girl walking down the street and i might acknowledge if shes cute or not. Its impossible to go through a day now because im thinking about it so much, im afraid every day because its like when a sign on a door says dont open the door, you want to open it right? This makes it impossible. I love this girl so much though, and i'd do anything for her to stay. I dont wanna lose her because she really is everything to me. I dont know how to handle this...

[tokyo-rose]

Now she asks me everyday if ive hurt her, and i cant help but say yes because i see a girl walking down the street and i might acknowledge if shes cute or not.

That's natural for anyone to do, whether they are single or taken. Your girlfriend can't fault you for that. Just because you're committed to her doesn't mean that you're not allowed to look at other girls.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i believe your stressing yourself out too much on this. yes, it's natural for you too look at girls. i'm pretty sure she looked at a boy down the street too (just assuming, don't take it intentionally). i can see how you "hurt" her, by looking at other girls.. but in reality, that's like saying every girl you look at even if they're your friend as in talking to them. you "hurt" her.. and i don't think your giving yourself a chance to think it over. talk to her, and tell her that you don't mean to, be reasonable about it to her. your girlfriend should understand what your trying or mean to say since you guys have been together for 2 years. i don't think she'll give up on someone who really loves her (;!

don't stress about it, just talk, and tell her that you don't mean too. good luck ^__^

[Tomates]

^ I agree when you see someone walking your attention does sometimes draw to them.

Maybe your girlfriend is feeling like she isnt "pretty" enough or "perfect" enough for you and is thinking that your looking at other girls maybe to wish she had something they had.
That might not be entirely true but i know that ive had friends in situations like this who have felt that way.

[clahky]

she just broke up with me, but im not sure if shes regretting it or not, i doubt shed be quick to act. Shes been in this sort of on and off attitude for a few weeks, what should i do now....? I want to go to her, shes like an hour away, but im not sure if its best, i know i should defend myself, but it doesnt work, i tried

[Joss-eh-lime]

she asks you : are you hurting me?
in those words?

[Flaunted]

is this really that big of a problem to her?
Have you guys had other issues?

Maybe something else is bothering her (that isn't necessarily dealing with you) and she's just more stressed and being all antsy for the past weeks.

I think you need a serious talk to make sure she really wants to let your relationship end.

Good luck.

[Castaway]

she asks you : are you hurting me?
in those words?

I'm confused with that part too.

Anyways, you should go see her in person asap. So what if it's an hour away.
I'm sure the long distance relationship is just worrying her and she doesn't want to be cheated on or something. You need to get her to trust you. She also needs to face the fact that you check out other girls. If other girls mean nothing to you, tell her that.

[fameONE]

I look at other girls all the time. You can't help it. They're every where. And it doesn't help when you go to school and there they are at 9am dressed to go to the club right? Its like, for real, really? You had to go that far? I appreciate it, but you didn't have to.

I mean, can you just be a man, and look at other girls, and admit that its natural, and when your girl asks if you're "hurting her", can you say... NO!?

Co-Sign.

[towntown2]

You looking at other girls is a perfectly natural thing.
Just because you love your girlfriend doesn't mean that suddenly every other girl needs to look ugly.
Knowing that some girl is cute does not constitute cheating.
You're not sleeping with them, so it's no big deal.

She's overreacting.
There's no way that she isn't at her school checking out other guys.

Btw, what does looking at girls naked mean?
Porn?

[fameONE]

Btw, what does looking at girls naked mean?
Porn?

If so, then there's nothing to worry about. Pr0n is good to go.

If you're a voyeur, spying on women in the showers, then all I have to say to that is, "ewwwwww, you's a perv!"

[rnicron]

i'll tell my girlfriend if a girl is good looking...

[sixfive]

If so, then there's nothing to worry about. Pr0n is good to go.

If you're a voyeur, spying on women in the showers, then all I have to say to that is, "ewwwwww, you's a perv!"

More like,

"ewwwwww, you's a perv! "

[fameONE]

^lawlz.