Is Marriage A Lose/Lose Prospect For Men? Options

[teresa57]

I read this today, and although it is very harsh- I don't see anywhere in this where there is anythng that isn't true.
http://loseloseprospect.blogspot.com/

[CocaineNoseJob]

The person who wrote the stupid article obviously can't get any ass.

[only-tuesdays]

That's written by the same guy who came on here and posted the topic about how post feminist movement women are the bane of creation.

He's got some mommy issues.

[creole]

Would you believe in this?
The article is obviously based on OPINION instead of facts.

[Insurmountable]

I hope no one really wasted their time reading all of that.

[Becks539]

is he gay?

[creole]

I hope no one really wasted their time reading all of that.

Everyone probably skipped through it.

is he gay?

Either the writer of the article is homosexual, a big boy who is living with his 79 year old parents, or just someone with no life.

[Insurmountable]

I'm going to go with a 40 year old that lives with his parents and has nothing better to do than to find negative attention through the internet.

He laughs at us when we talk badly of him online, but in real life he knows he's the biggest loser.

[karmakiller]

Probably the same person, although nothing matches, haha.

These stupid topics need to stop.

[Insurmountable]

Delete them

[teresa57]

Even though the article is very harsh, there wasn't anything in it that wasn't true. It is true that young men are just not getting married anymore because of the unfairness of the divorce courts and must arrest policies of domestic violence laws. My son was arrested for domestic violence even though his wife was the one who assaulted him and he didn't even hit her back. So I started reading about it and it turns out this happens all the time because of the laws. That is how I found this article.

[coconutter]

That's written by the same guy who came on here and posted the topic about how post feminist movement women are the bane of creation.

He's got some mommy issues.

I was thinking the SAME thing, it even has the same pictures!

Marriage is nothing though, really, it's really just an agreement so people can live and share finances with each other. It's important to maintain fidelity in all relationships, but some people don't. That's why people don't when they're married too, it's because marriage is nothing but a legal agreement and it has everything to do with the relationship between the two people.

People think marriage is more than being in a relationship with a boyfriend, and the fact is, it's just not any different. People really need to change their perspectives on marriage in order for them to work.

[only-tuesdays]

^It was written by "reality2008". Which is the same username.

To stay on topic, marriage isn't a "lose lose" situation. It's all about the maturity level, and readiness of the people. To say that all women are like that is silly.

[datass]

that guy just hates woman

[Insurmountable]

No, I think if men actually were smart they would know to get a prenuptial agreement before they get married.

[teresa57]

No, I think if men actually were smart they would know to get a prenuptial agreement before they get married.

But dear, by saying that you are only reinforcing what the article says, because by saying that you are implying that women by and large cannot be trusted. You're really saying that if men were smart, they would know a woman cannot be trusted and they need a prenup.

What is more, I work for an attorney and I can tell you that women have been fighting prenups for decades and winning in court. The most popular way attornys use around a prenup is to claim that the woman was not in her right mind when she signed it or under too much stress or intoxicated.

Have you ever been married?

[only-tuesdays]

First of all, it is not an article. It is a blog posted by just some random tool.

Secondly, if men are or were so concerned about marriage they would get a prenup "just in case". Of course, if they were that worried they probably shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

People by and large cannot be trusted. It has nothing to do with the gender of a person. It has to do with character. Which, sadly, it seems a lot of people are lacking these days.

[datass]

by the way, doesnt anybody realize that the blog poster has a lot of 'deleted comments', and the only comments left are the ones that praise the blog post?

[only-tuesdays]

Yeah. He did that on his other blog he posted here too. Why bother allowing comments that don't support his insanity?

[Joss-eh-lime]

why does it seem like girls are so much more excited about marriage than guys?

[karmakiller]

I'm highly convinced that this is reality2008, but nothing matches. I don't understand the point of this topic. It isn't a debate, because like I said in reality's topic, debates are based on fact. This is just a matter of opinion.

And no, getting a prenup does not mean that women cannot be trusted. I'm going to get a very solid prenup if I ever get married. I don't trust many people of either sex for that matter. Prenups also make it easier to figure out what belongs to who, not just to save your own ass and your own finances.

Are you sure that your son didn't do anything to his wife? I know that he's your kid and therefore it is harder for you to admit to yourself that he actually did anything. This happens all the time, not just to married couples. You're taking a statistic that belongs to a more vague picture and apply it to only one issue. Your making one hell of a hasty generalization if you are basing EVERYONE's marriage on your son's.

[teresa57]

Actually my son was seriously injured and had to go to the hospital that day, while his wife didn't have even so much as a mark on her. She simply stated to the police that it was an act of self-defence because she felt 'threatened.'

Are you not familiar with VAWA? The article explains the many, many problems with the legislation towards the bottom. False accusations of DV are now so commonplace that they now have become the norm, not the exception. Women use these laws to gain property, custody of children, or use them out of vindictiveness.

Enter 'false accusation of domestic violence' into Google and there are 230,000 results. These laws are also used by women from outside the U.S. to gain citizenship. Sadly our divorce courts have become very, very corrupt.

Or a woman can simply file a restraning order out of nowhere claiming she felt 'threatened,' to also use as leverage in divorce court, even more common. Restraining orders today are so easy to obtain that a mentally ill woman successfully filed a restraining order against David Letterman because she thought he was stalking her through her television. Read here:
http://www.courttv.com/people/2005/1222/da...tterman_ap.html

Working for an attorney, I see much more than the normal person. All of these issues may not be of concern to a woman, but for a man these laws and the court system today is extremely troubling and a deterrent to marraige and why so many young men are refusing to either marry or co-habitate with a woman.

Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence?
http://www.patrickjcrawfordlaw.com/Practic...ic-Violence.asp

"As in many sex crime cases, domestic violence and abuse situations are often based upon false accusations. Unfortunately, some spouses, domestic partners, or significant others believe that they can gain the upper hand in any related family law legal matters by accusing another family member of domestic abuse. I am dedicated to determining the basis for these accusations and aggressively standing up for your rights and justice."

[DoubleJ]

I can say that for me, I wouldn't want to get married at a young age. It makes no sense to get married during your prime years, when there is easily somebody else that can take your heart away from somebody.

Divorce is a whole nother' ball game. Women will always have the upper hand in that, because the courts sympathize with them. I have seen a few celebrity marriages, where the prenups meant shit in court.

[Glamourouz]

I hope no one really wasted their time reading all of that.

yea; he clearly has too much time on his hands...he's busy writing senseless blogs which is why he's so miserable

[creole]

I see no point in this topic. :/
A mod or admin should close this..

[datass]

its not exactly pointless, there is still something worth discussing about it. like whether you agree or not?

[teresa57]

I see no point in this topic. :/
A mod or admin should close this..

'Why men shouldn't marry' into Google search engine = 231,000 results.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=w...mp;aq=f&oq=

I have to say there is nothing more unattractive than a smug attitude from someone who is uneducated and uninformed.