I hate it when a guy doesn't get the tab..., and I have to pull my money out and that looks bad. |
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 Aug 27 2008, 01:23 PM
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 here, here, and here  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103  |
Ugh, I'm dating a guy that is a cheap ass. I go out with him I have to pay for everything and I drive him when we go out. I'm sick of this.
Do you have a guy that is a cheap ass and doesn't want to pay for anything and uses you as a taxi driver? And guys, do you hate to pay for everything? Do think it's best to split the bill? Where are the hopes? Where are the dreams? My Cinderella story scene? When do you think they'll finally see?  |
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Aug 27 2008, 01:25 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
guys should pay 2/3 of the time. That's how I always do it. I don't even have to tell my girl that when we date. She should know I'm not a BANK and can afford to pay EVERYTIME. Although guys should pay more often than girls though imo. But yeah.
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Aug 27 2008, 01:31 PM
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I am more even. Equal payments. Generally I don't think dating should be so gender bias for payments. That's just me though.
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Aug 27 2008, 01:54 PM
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here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
QUOTE(Tungster @ Aug 27 2008, 02:25 PM)  guys should pay 2/3 of the time. That's how I always do it. I don't even have to tell my girl that when we date. She should know I'm not a BANK and can afford to pay EVERYTIME. Although guys should pay more often than girls though imo. But yeah. I don't mind paying for half, but now and then I would like him to at least pay for the food and I pay for the gas. I have to pay for gas and food. |
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Aug 27 2008, 02:04 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
i try to be equal. we usually split things, like he'll drive his car and i'll buy food. or if we go to the movies i'll buy the tickets and he'll pay for food. i know he has to work just as hard as i do for his money, so i don't mind paying. of course if he never paid and always expected me to take him everywhere and pay for everything, i'd be pretty pissed. you should straight up tell him that you're nobody's sugar mama and that if he wants anything to cotinue between the two of you he should split the costs with you or atleast give you some gas money.
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Aug 27 2008, 03:00 PM
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 mercenary on call Group: Member Posts: 926 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,606 |
I pretty much trade off. Like I would drive, and she would buy food or etc. Though it's shows you love them if you pay for both once in a while. But most of the time, half/half or a pair.
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Aug 27 2008, 06:27 PM
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lol. sux4u. one of my exes was also a scrub. i paid for everything, ranging from dinners and movies to simple things like cab fare. stupid imo, 'cause at the time he had a full time job, and i was freelancing. never again.
of course i'm always willing to pay for half and even all of it, but now i'm with a true gentleman, who would never ask me to lift a finger. that's how it should be. |
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Aug 27 2008, 07:13 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
I think, in this day and age, girls should at least offer to pay.
If the guy turns the offer down, then he gets bonus points. If not, then going dutch isn't such a bad thing. Generally, though, the guys should pay for stuff more than the girl. You're in an uncomfortable position because money's always an iffy issue with everybody. Let him know that you'll pick the tab from time to time, but you're not exactly pooping out dollar bills. |
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Aug 27 2008, 07:36 PM
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here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
QUOTE(kreios @ Aug 27 2008, 04:05 PM) Well, it's better that you drive when you guys out, rather than having his parents drive or worse walking, that is... if he doesn't have a car. I can understand that if you're dating someone that they don't have a car and that would put you in a position that whenever the two of you go out, that you will inevitably be put to drive. But I agree with Tung on the 2/3 deal. I've also been a strong believer that if you are the one that is inviting someone else to dinner (i.e. you ask him, wanna go to dinner tonight) than you shouldn't be able to ask him to pay for you. He does have a car  Then he would be saying I don't have money, then I drive him to CVS to buy whitening for his teeth.
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Aug 27 2008, 09:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 282 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 601,342 |
^^ Your dating a 8========>. Dump his ass in the gutter where his broke ass needs to be.
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Aug 27 2008, 09:45 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,938 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 667,832 |
well overall i think your guy is a bit of an ass
tell him straight up you cant do this ALL THE TIME i think (if i had a guy) that i would let him pay if he offered but overall i would chip in cause i would feel guilty then |
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Aug 28 2008, 04:33 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
All the boys that I've dated pay all the time...... haha.
I offer to pay once in a while because I feel bad, but yeah. I guess I have been brought up and am rather spoiled that way.. |
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Aug 28 2008, 05:31 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
QUOTE(mizzkewl06 @ Aug 27 2008, 02:04 PM) i try to be equal. we usually split things, like he'll drive his car and i'll buy food. or if we go to the movies i'll buy the tickets and he'll pay for food. i know he has to work just as hard as i do for his money, so i don't mind paying. of course if he never paid and always expected me to take him everywhere and pay for everything, i'd be pretty pissed. you should straight up tell him that you're nobody's sugar mama and that if he wants anything to cotinue between the two of you he should split the costs with you or atleast give you some gas money. I agree. I NEVER expect someone to pay for me, but for me to pay for them all the time is just unfair. Even when I go out with friends it's usually a "Oh, you got it last time. I'll get it this time." deal. |
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Aug 30 2008, 12:09 AM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
i think its too muhc to ask to always split the bill or trade off driving every single time, but you should try to keep it even.
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Aug 30 2008, 12:20 AM
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Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
Trading off on who gets to pick up the tab is best.
Though it shouldn't be so systematic. Have you talked to him yet? |
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Aug 30 2008, 01:36 PM
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 cvchango Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717 |
QUOTE(aimeesayswhat @ Aug 27 2008, 02:23 PM) Ugh, I'm dating a guy that is a cheap ass. I go out with him I have to pay for everything and I drive him when we go out. I'm sick of this. Do you have a guy that is a cheap ass and doesn't want to pay for anything and uses you as a taxi driver? And guys, do you hate to pay for everything? Do think it's best to split the bill? Where are the hopes? Where are the dreams? My Cinderella story scene? When do you think they'll finally see? Do you make your own money? Do your parents give you money? Are you just worried about looking bad? I went out with this girl whose parents gave her tons of money. Therefore, she paid a lot of times, and she didn't mind. We were both happy. Sure it kind of looks bad, but I don't care... I can use the 50 dollars I save to buy myself 50 double cheeseburgers. |
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Aug 30 2008, 04:00 PM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
Haha, wow I would dumb that guy.
I don't know, most of the time Josh drives around but sometimes I will. I think I scare him when I'm driving because I hate slow drivers and I yell at people >_> But when it comes to going out and stuff we usually split it up, or he'll pay this time and I'll pay for something the next time. Or he'll pay for the movie and I'll pay for dinner after. Something like that. |
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Aug 30 2008, 05:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Aug 30 2008, 02:00 PM) Haha, wow I would dumb that guy. I don't know, most of the time Josh drives around but sometimes I will. I think I scare him when I'm driving because I hate slow drivers and I yell at people >_> But when it comes to going out and stuff we usually split it up, or he'll pay this time and I'll pay for something the next time. Or he'll pay for the movie and I'll pay for dinner after. Something like that.  DAM, HOLLY.You are one hell of a kind. 
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Aug 31 2008, 11:24 PM
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Psssst, cheap-ass. He should be pay for ya shizz and He should be the one drivin'...not the other way around...its like he's using you...&& he's not being a gentlemen. But don't expect guys to pay for everything...you should talk to him fareal tho, let him know whats up...
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Sep 18 2008, 05:28 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 79 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 646,343 |
The title of the topic is catchy ;) lol
i never had to pay while im on a date,but i no how iit feels liike :( just tell him that he's the MAN and he should pay & drive lol :p or just ditch him ;) |
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Sep 18 2008, 06:46 AM
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My boyfriend is only sixteen and doesn't have a job, so I know what it feels like, but it honestly doesn't bother me. I know he's trying to get a job, so it's not like he's worthless.
I drive and pay for almost everything, and it doesn't bother me because I love my boyfriend enough to do that. If it bothers you so, talk to him about it. BTW- I love Avril too. :) |
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Sep 18 2008, 09:03 PM
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 ◕ ◡ ◕ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,779 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 416,697 |
 he ugree anyway tho |
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Sep 18 2008, 09:09 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
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