Here's a problem with arranged marriages Options

[Simba]

I was talking about this in cBC, but decided to turn it into a topic.

Alright, so I got this friend who found out that she's caught up in an arranged marriage. The guy's decent and all, she had no real problems with him.

However... Knowing that he she was gonna end up with this guy no matter what, she just let herself go and starting eating everything and anything she wanted, and started being lazy and unkempt.

LOL, sucks for the guy.

Anyway, if you knew you were gonna be stuck with one guy/girl, and held down to it, how would you have reacted?

[hi-C]

Oh gosh. I don't think the reaction she should've had is to stop caring about herself. I understand that it's depressing but jesus.

But how I would've reacted: probably thrown a fit, yelled at my parents. If the guy turned out to not be an a-hole, I'd try to get into it, give the guy a chance. But if he's a lame ass, DIVORCE. Or annulment. Always a way out.

[rnicron]

I was talking about this in cBC, but decided to turn it into a topic.

Alright, so I got this friend who found out that she's caught up in an arranged marriage. The guy's decent and all, she had no real problems with him.

However... Knowing that he was gonna end up with this guy no matter what, she just let herself go and starting eating everything and anything she wanted, and started being lazy and unkempt.

LOL, sucks for the guy.

Anyway, if you knew you were gonna be stuck with one guy/girl, and held down to it, how would you have reacted?

[Simba]

lol...

Perhaps I should fix that.

[Tomates]

Poor girl. Though i kinda agree with Hi-c.

If my parents were going to do an arranged marriage for me i would probably just argue back on how i didnt want to and just try to convince them not to put me through it.

[jerusalem]

Runnnawayyy!
Some arranged marriages work, others don't. They should be able to say NO.
There have been cases in the past where the wives have recieved abuse, but it's hard to get out of arranged marriages. I'd hate it!

[idkuchoose]

honestly. i would cry really hard.
cuz it'll be way harder to fall in love with a person yuh have to marry.
i think arranged marriages r stupid. O_o;

[[ no offence to the ppl who like em er arrange em. ]]

[Insurmountable]

Psh, I wouldn't have stuck with it. If I had to no matter what I would die or something then I would be a complete bitch to the guy every day, and I would make sure to stay in the marriage until he wanted to give up and then I would take everything that he was worth and then go out and find the love of my life :D


I feel bad for the guy that your friend is stuck with. I mean I don't think she should become a lazy slob especially for a reason like that.

[queen]

hrm it depends on the answers to the following questions:

is the guy hot?
am i single?

if the answers are both yes, i probably wouldn't mind. lmao.

[Teesa]

^hahaa.

almost all of my relatives have had arranged marriages and i seriously loathe the idea of the whole concept. my parents know how i feel about the situation, but they still want to pick a bunch of indian guys for me and have me pick. i'm like, uhmmm NO THANKS lol.

but i totally understand your friend's reaction, but i wouldn't do that. i would keep myself in shape and if the marriage didn't work out, then i would still look good for another guy ;)

[Gigi]

hrm it depends on the answers to the following questions:

is the guy hot?
am i single?

You should probably add "is he rich?" to those questions.

[hi-C]

^ Trufax.

[coconutter]

I would never end up in an arranged marriage. I'd run away from home and find shelter with a family member until I could buy my own place. That's so silly arranging marriages, parents should not force love upon people. Their children will probably be very unhappy.

[hi-C]

It's not "silly." It's really practical when you think about it. It's also deeply cultural, and it should be respected as such.

And what do you think is going to happen if you run away to find shelter with a family member?

[tokyo-rose]

I would get to know the guy and see if I could tolerate being married to him (and learn to like/love him, if possible), but ultimately I'd be angry and frustrated that I was forced to wed someone that I didn't get to pick.

[Blyat]

Poor girl
i dont think i could go with an arrange marriage
like what happens if your happy with a boy you like and he likes you and then all of a sudden your parents are like "your marrying the man we choose"
i would argue back

[rawtheekuh]

arranged marriages can suck, but some of them do work out. it's not always bad.

[Simba]

HI RADS

[demolished]

arranged marriages arent that bad.

[libertie]

I suppose having been raised the way I was, it seems strange in this day to think about arranged marriages. I don't want to come off as ignorant or unappreciative, but I was brought up with the idea of free choice pretty much hammered into my head so it seems weird to me. Anyway, if I were in this situation (assuming I had no real problems with the guy) I guess I'd just try to live with it. I wouldn't let myself go thinking I've already nabbed a good one, just because I take care of myself for me and not for anyone else. :P

Then again I'm a tough one to keep tied down, so I dunno. xD

[towntown2]

You might just end up falling for the guy/girl.

But no.
Generally speaking, I'd reject the idea of an arranged marriage only because I most likely would not like the guy my mom would pick.

[coconutter]

It's not "silly." It's really practical when you think about it. It's also deeply cultural, and it should be respected as such.

And what do you think is going to happen if you run away to find shelter with a family member?

A trusted family member, that feels the same way and wouldn't tell. I'm definitely not one for tradition, and sure, if it's what people want to do all actions should be respected different or not. I still think it's silly (in modern america).

but to add to what I said
It would make sense to have an arranged marriage in some cases: status, money, etc. In those cases though, it's highly unlikely to maintain fidelity though. The only sexual experiences those two will have together will most likely be forced, or for children. Marriages are nothing but a mere illusion for governmental purposes. Anyone who thinks otherwise is ignorant.

[rawtheekuh]

HI RADS

SUP JUNA.