kiss, always gets me Options

[Dabme]

so i've broken up with my girlfriend maybe once or twice and now we are back together. the problem is that she does things that i dont understand like for instance she lies about some of the dumbest things...and there is really no need for that. everytime i start having my doubts about being with her and im at the edge of a break up, one kiss is all it takes and its like nothing else matters.

does any one else have that issue?
any suggestions..

[xxstarpower]

I know you probably like her a lot, but who honestly wants to be with someone who can NOT be absolutely honest? Honesty is one of the most important qualities needed in any relationship, be it just a friendship or a love relationship, either way, it's not good.

I know what you mean with the lying about dumb arse shit. I went to prom with this twat who lied about bloody stange things. The one I can think of on top of my head is that he told me he had 10 older brothers, when infact he only had one younger one. *shrug*

I don't think it would be a healthy relationship until she decides to be honest with you. I would say you should back off or talk to her about it, maybe she doesn't think it's a big deal at all.

[Tomates]

^ I agree.

Honesty is deffinatly one of the biggest things in a realtionship.
If she cant be honest to you then there could be a line of bigger ordeals through out your relationship.

Talk to her, tell her that if you want your relationship to work then she has to be more honest with her and that if she cant then this relationship will probably not work out since honesty is a big in a relationship

[MissFits]

I'd say talk to her about it. She can't fix something she doesn't know is bothering you. Tell her how much she means to you and how she needs to be completely honest with you, or you can't be with her. Relationships can't go anywhere without trust, and you obviously can't trust someone that lies to you all the time.

[Dabme]

I know you probably like her a lot, but who honestly wants to be with someone who can NOT be absolutely honest? Honesty is one of the most important qualities needed in any relationship, be it just a friendship or a love relationship, either way, it's not good.

I know what you mean with the lying about dumb arse shit. I went to prom with this twat who lied about bloody stange things. The one I can think of on top of my head is that he told me he had 10 older brothers, when infact he only had one younger one. *shrug*

I don't think it would be a healthy relationship until she decides to be honest with you. I would say you should back off or talk to her about it, maybe she doesn't think it's a big deal at all.

right right.
but the problem is that when i confront her about it im dead serious about it, and she thinks that im too stupid to see right through her lies. i think that shes catching on though...i can see it in her eyes.

[MissFits]

I understand you like her a lot. It just seems as though she doesn't respect you at all.
Not only does she lie to you, but she thinks you can't tell even when you confront her about it?

I think this a doomed relationship unless she starts to shape up. It's not fair for you to put up with that shit if she's not trying to do anything to change even though you have brought it up to her.

[Dabme]

^ I agree.

Honesty is deffinatly one of the biggest things in a realtionship.
If she cant be honest to you then there could be a line of bigger ordeals through out your relationship.

Talk to her, tell her that if you want your relationship to work then she has to be more honest with her and that if she cant then this relationship will probably not work out since honesty is a big in a relationship

she always bothers me with this whole honesty ordeal. i told her that i dont make promises but i keep my word, and yet she 'makes' me promise. and its not like im super attached to her, i mean i was once but all i want to do now is try to make things work. if in the end she doesnt change, then i guess im calling it quits.

[Dabme]

I understand you like her a lot. It just seems as though she doesn't respect you at all.
Not only does she lie to you, but she thinks you can't tell even when you confront her about it?

I think this a doomed relationship unless she starts to shape up. It's not fair for you to put up with that shit if she's not trying to do anything to change even though you have brought it up to her.

exactly what i have been trying to get her to do. and i think that if she really cares then she'll realize the obvious and make that change. because i would do the same. and yet some how it feels like im asking for too much. but then again its the only way to work things out, and i feel like ive done my part.
thanks again =]

[MissFits]

No problem.
I was in sort of a similiar situation. My ex wouldn't give me ANY attention. He wouldn't sleep with me, sit with me, kiss me, tell me he loved me, we hadn't even had sex in like 3 months. I told him what was wrong and what I needed from him to make the relationship work, and he wouldn't do it, he actually did the opposite of what I asked him to do. So, even though I loved him very much I broke up with him. He just wasn't treating me fairly and I didn't deserve that. I know it's hard, but it seems like she doesn't care as much as you do or she would be at least trying to meet you half way.

[towntown2]

Keep in mind that you already broke up with her twice.
This has been an ongoing problem, so unless it's fixed, I think you should move on.

She's pretty much taking advantage of you.
Don't let her!
Give her an ultimatum.
Be honest or move on.

[espressive]

stop letting her kiss you & see if you still feel the way you feel now when she doesn't. chances are, you probably will - and you should probably do something about it instead of letting it pass all the time. seriously, dont let her use her girly seductive charms on you. don't let her play you like that. and p.s., you're not alone with that issue. it's easy to forgive somebody you like, especially when the he/she kisses you with reassurance that everything is fine. but how long can you go on pretending everything is okay when it obviously isn't? if you don't confront the problem, it'll keep resurfacing - i guarantee it. if you don't tell her something isn't right, she'll never know and she'll keep doing it and you'll keep getting hurt in the process.