Which one of your parents, is more acceptant of your relationships? Options

[IzzyGrace]

Ugh, my mom and I joke around about me getting a bf later on but I can rarely tell when she's serious. (She jokes about it all the time.) But my dad, on the other hand, never jokes. He automatically takes a disliking to any guy I talk about, boyfriend or not. Eesh, I'm surprised he still lets me go to public school.

I'm about to go into 8th grade (only a year till high school, aaah!) and I don't wanna be the freak who has no life what so ever. They always have a reason I can't hang out with my girl friends, they won't let me hang out with guys. Period. And when I wanna take a bike ride/walk they're all 'who are you gonna meet?' God. It's annoying as hell.

Do/did your parents act like this?

[Joanne]

I think they are just being worried and protective. My dad was like that back then too, but he's stopped making such a big fuss about me going out with friends now. You're 13! They're supposed to care too much at this time. Don't worry though... they'll eventually get used to you having a social life and stop. =]

[mizzkewl06]

both of my parents seem chill about it now that i'm older. although i'm almost certain my mom is the more serious one in this matter, mostly because when i was younger she was the more overprotective/paranoid one. I totally understand why now and i know it's hard to deal with, but you have to understand that they have their reasons. i'm 20 and my parents still freak when i go out alone or with friends. give it time so that you can gain their trust. i know it's hard but thats life. what i can suggest is for you to invite you friends over (with your parents consent) and have them meet your parents. have like a movie night or something. that's what i started doing my 8th grade year, because i wasn't allowed to go out or anything like that.

[IzzyGrace]

Hm... I should :)

1st Step) Make friends across the country. We're about to move, so yeeeah. My mom likes a whole bunch of my friends, just. Dad. Ugh.

[loveylovely]

not really. everyone's parents are different. my parents always trusted me with my choices of friends and going out, ect, but maybe they will change their minds once you get into high school?

[AimeeLynn]

Ugh, my mom and I joke around about me getting a bf later on but I can rarely tell when she's serious. (She jokes about it all the time.) But my dad, on the other hand, never jokes. He automatically takes a disliking to any guy I talk about, boyfriend or not. Eesh, I'm surprised he still lets me go to public school.

I'm about to go into 8th grade (only a year till high school, aaah!) and I don't wanna be the freak who has no life what so ever. They always have a reason I can't hang out with my girl friends, they won't let me hang out with guys. Period. And when I wanna take a bike ride/walk they're all 'who are you gonna meet?' God. It's annoying as hell.

Do/did your parents act like this?

Wow you a young'n

Anyways relax they want to protect you. Your way young. You will have opportunities in High school for relationships but relax and live your middle school life.

My parents use to be like that but flexed as I got to high school.
No sweat. You will get your chance.

[*absinthe*]

They always have a reason I can't hang out with my girl friends, they won't let me hang out with guys. Period. And when I wanna take a bike ride/walk they're all 'who are you gonna meet?' God. It's annoying as hell

I mean, you are young.

If your parents are really over-protective, it'll only get worse. Trust me.


I'm not really open about my relationships with my parents. Sometimes I think it's unnecessary to discuss it. I don't know. My parents are weird about this subject. Don't ask.

[AnnahhbeL]

Lol, when I was 15, 16...17, only until now they start to chill out about me having guy friends and a bf.

They hate me being around guys.

[pinayprincess]

My mom. My dad doesn't know that ihave a boyfriend and have been dating since i was 13? and i am 17.

I am sure my dad has already gotten the hint though

[MiKKiBOO]

Well, my mom is like that. Its like i cant go to the mall or the movies because she thinks i will be meetin up with some guy. Or if i wanted to stay the night at one of my friends houses, she says she has to talk to my friends mom first. now thats annoying. my friends would ask me "is your mom home?" i would say yea, and they would be like "o0h well that means you cant go no where huh?" GRR. im tired of this. haha. but my dad is cool. he is like my bestfriend, and i can tell my daddy ANYTHING! haha so yeah i feel your pain kid!

[IzzyGrace]

Heh, glad I'm not the only one. I miss my aunt. She was a lot closer to me than my mom, but we don't get to talk a lot, since she lives in the Philipines and stuff...

I used to be able to tell my mom stuff, but now she just criticizes and tells my dad everything. And my dad acts like I'm going to go have sex with whatever guy I talk to. Eesh.

[imnoxonesmemory]

ok well 8th grade? you must be 12? 13? right.both my parents would always joke around about me gettng boyfriends. my dad just stayed out of it really when it got serious, he didnt mind but he just didnt like to talk about it, but i dont think it bothered him. my mum was always really supportive... she still is now. but now it's a bit more awkward because she's worried about getting too serious whilst im almost finished high school. so. yeah. (Y) good luck and maybe try have a serious talk with your mum just ask her how she'd really feel if you got a boyfriend :)

[Just_Dream]

lul I dated 2 guys in high school, but I kept it a secret from everyone in my family except my niece and my sister (two years older than me).

Well, after I proved that I was responsible by getting good grades and stuff in high school, I finally told my mother about two weeks before Senior Prom, and she told me she knew for a year! WTF, INORITE?! My mom and everyone on my mom's side knows that I have a boyfriend and they are all accepting. I don't think my dad knows, but my dad's psycho so the rest of my family hides everything from my father. Pretty much. I think my mom knew since she saw my boyfriend driving me in high school, but she didn't tell me.

But seriously, I was hardly allowed out of the house! I mean, I would only be allowed to stay after school for like an hour, then I rode the school bus home with my boyfriend, and then I'd have to go straight home since my mom picks me up at the bus stop every day. My family was really strict on letting me go out, until junior year of high school. My father HATES guys and he even cursed at his friend's son! He thought he was some random guy! Ooooohhh my father got shit for that! haha serves him right.

Anyways, seriously, if you want to prove that you are responsible with having a boyfriend, try to figure out what qualities your parents might want to see in a boyfriend. Honestly, it's much nicer if you find a guy who your parents will approve of, rather than someone they'll really dislike, because they might not take kindly to it. Also, having a boyfriend does NOT mean you have to spend all your time on/with him. Meaning, don't change your lifestyle, or otherwise it'll be obvious.

Of course, I've been dating my current boyfriend for 5.5 years so I think my family is pretty happy with my boyfriend.

[AimeeLynn]

Heh, glad I'm not the only one. I miss my aunt. She was a lot closer to me than my mom, but we don't get to talk a lot, since she lives in the Philipines and stuff...

I used to be able to tell my mom stuff, but now she just criticizes and tells my dad everything. And my dad acts like I'm going to go have sex with whatever guy I talk to. Eesh.

Filipino parents are strict... I'm filipino too.

Trust me my dad says the same thing too but he just is being protective but when you turn like 16 or something they will be happy that you are straight to say the least.

Your way to young to care to be in a relationship but if you are that desperate then hide it but it never ends pretty. They will get pissed that you hid this relationship from them.

[Insurmountable]

Uhm my dad I would say.

Hes comfortable with me and my boyfriend and how were in a long distance relationship. Because when we do visit each other were pretty much living with each other and sleeping in the same bed and stuff.

My mom on the other hand is completely against it. She likes my boyfriend and everything but she doesn't agree with how comfortable my dad is with it all.

[Rachel]

Dang ya'll have some crazy parents. I think the more you hide it, the more angry they'll be if (and usually when) they find out. The best situation is just create an open and honest relationship with your parents. Breach the subject of guys and dating, because tbh you are getting to that age where people start dating. Let them know that although there is no one in your life right now, when there is one you'd like to know that it's okay if you bring someone how for them to meet. Maybe they'll have rules, like you can't date until you're 16 or something, but that's probably for your own good. The open and communicative you are with your parents, the better the outcome.

[IzzyGrace]

Psh, they know. They read my emails and I wouldn't be surprised if they read this thing right now. Stupid internet tracker thing. He can hack into any technology I have. He used to be part of a band of web hijackers or something when he was younger. Stupid smart dad. My mom's just nosy, going through my notes and stuff.

Ahaha, I forgot to mention, I've had 'boyfriends' before, but it's not like we went out places or anything. I'm really picky about my guys. I like a lot 'emo guys' as friends, but I haven't really dated any. My dad gives off the 'emo guys are stupid and gay' vibe. I tend to avoid talking to him about my friends because 1) I have a lot of bisexual friends, 2) most of them are guys, 3) they dress 'emo' and my parents don't get to know them before judging them.

D: It's so annoying! My dad used to tell me how much he hates my clothes (my usual was baggy jeans, ripped at the heels because they were too long), and I'm like... well would you rather me wear miniskirts and show off my crotch? Eesh, seriously. My mom tries to change me into her, because she never got the chance to do this and that... My dad just wants me to be successful.

I make straight A's (except for PE cause I hate the uniform and refuse to wear it), I am straight, no matter how many bi/gay/lesbian friends I have, and I will be a virgin when I get married. . . Wow, long rant. Sorry, I had a bad day. :(

[mackenziee]

My mom would probably accept a relationship more than my dad would, I'm not sure why, but he gets uptight sometimes, although, my mom can too. So I guess it goes back and forth between them.

[Rachel]

I make straight A's (except for PE cause I hate the uniform and refuse to wear it), I am straight, no matter how many bi/gay/lesbian friends I have, and I will be a virgin when I get married. . . Wow, long rant. Sorry, I had a bad day. :(

Kay WTF does having gay/lesibian/bi friends have to do with YOUR sexuality?? Do you really think that it's like contagious or something? Shit son, gtfo.

PS good luck on staying a virgin, get back to me in a few years and tell me how it worked out. LULLZ

[Smilessss]

0.o;; hahaha wow for me surprisingly is both of my parents are into relationships XDD *n.n* they already loved my boyfriend to death and already talking about us getting married??? when we're in college freshmen/junior XD

[jaeman]

In high school, both my parents were very accepting. I guess it's because of the fact that I was a boy and they felt like they could loosen up a bit on their restrictions. I remember the only thing they were afraid of was getting a girl pregnant. Other than that, I was free to do what I wanted. And now, they still remain the same, actually.

[na-nancy]

ughhhhh, for me its the same to both of my parents.
x], urgh asian parents are strict - fyi =(
they say to us we can't date until we're 18 or have a job.
whta?????????...but yah, > <

[thatonegirl143]

definitely my dad. my mom never wants to give anyone a chance mainly because once she lets down HER guard && starts to like someone..they do me wrong or break up with me or something. my dad is just non-chalant about everything..