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[princess2113]

sume parents tell their kids its ok to have sex when their ready.....do u think thats ok??? for parents to like...encourage them to have sex? will u tell ur kids thats ok???

[JlIaTMK]

as far as i no no parents tell their kids to have sex when their ready.... and i wouldnt exactly say thats encouraging....
and i wont tell my kids that

[stryker76]

i wouldnt call it encouragement...that is a kinda onesided statement...but i also kno that my parents told me growing up in which in many ways i still am doin....that if you have sex be responsible about it....i mean they never once told me it was ok to go and just have sex with someone.....that would be wrong...but they also never told me it was a bad thing...but face it....sex isnt bad...well sometimes it can be.....but ill leave that alone. Over the years tho i have formed my own values on the subject of sex.....1. Not until i have found the right person....its a special thing that just shouldnt be thrown away for ne one. 2. If you are responsible enough to have sex(protected or unprotected) then you are responcible and mature enough to handle the consicoinses(sp).....And i also feel that practicing Abstedance until married is kind like wierd i mean when you are married you should plan to be with that person for the rest of you life....now i kno many people arent...but i mean if you do wait and then realize that after waiting that person is how you hoped they would be then what....cuz sex is honestly part of a good relationship....it doesnt have to be a regular thing but if your not comfortable enough to be with that person like that then do you think you should really be married to them???

[ur_my_sweety20]

being catholic i think that if you love someone enough to have sex before marriage with them then you should love them enough to marry them... i got that from my 8th grade religion teacher, mrs. peloquin...man i miss her (not a lesbo)

[baybietenshi]

it's not encouraging...it's just saying when he/she is ready, they have permission. if they say it like that at least they can tell them to use protection and talk about it and such...it's better than saying "HEY YOU'RE NOT ALLOW TO HAVE SEX. IF YOU HAVE IT, IMMA KICK YOUR BUTT!" they kid would NEVER ask for advice, therefore, having unprotected sex and then end up pregnant and...god knows what else...or in the father's case...if he's responsible [that is], then he'd be stuck with a kid and a low wage paying job...most likely

[angel-roh]

no they shud have sex wen they get married....not before marriage and not like when they are ready... i think thats wrong wen parents encourage their kids to sex when the kids think they are ready and all... i mean thats kinda stupid and messed up. i know that a girl like a guy so much that she thinks shes ready to have sex...well to let u know... after sex...the girl gets a baby sooner or later, but then she do an abortion and kills the baby... parents can make their own child to a worse life.

[Retrogressive]

human function, like sneezing, itching a scratch. we all need intamacy and love. why censor something like that? thats like making people stop eating. dance, make love, and be merry.

[T00000]

my mom knows i have sex with my boyfriend, and she said she doesn't like it, but she can't change it because she knows i will anyways. so instead she just encourages me to use protect and yeah

[Mini]

well parents dont exactly encourage their kdis to have sex. i know my friends' parents are like i dont like it but i cant stop you, just use protection. its not really encouraging them, but if someone wants to have sex, they will no matter what their parents say. the only person who can stop you is yourself. its not like the parents are like go ahead and have sex.

[Spirited Away]

I don't think one has to wait to get married to be able to have sex because that would drive people to marry only so they could try to see if sex was good with their partner and then get a divorce when things don't work out.

Nor do I think that it's okay for parents to tell kids to have sex when they're "ready" because the child can be so sure that they are, but regrets it the morning after. I think parents who say that are irresponsible OR they just don't know what to say (ex: it's a taboo subject when girls ask their Dads instead of Mom) or something like that.

[mai_z]

i wouldn't say that it was bad, but chances are, the kid is going to do it when he/she thinks s/he is ready, whether the parents allow it or not.....saying stuff like that will show that they are open, and will promote their kids talking to them, and coming to them for advice...

[faithin_felix]

whoa...some parent...but really, would that be a good or bad thing?

[EmeraldKnight]

Back to the original post..

sume parents tell their kids its ok to have sex when their ready.....do u think thats ok??? for parents to like...encourage them to have sex? will u tell ur kids thats ok???

Define "ready". I mean.. if they truly knew the consequences and the risks they take.. then yes, safe and well-informed sex shouldnt be a problem.. the main problem is.. that it simply does not happen.. I had sex education.. 4 years in a row.. and by the 2nd year already.. it got repetitive.. just looking around at the class.. the vast majority were off in their own world.. not realli paying attention.. they listen and know the information.. but they dont readily apply it

A parent shouldnt encourage their kids to have sex.. what they should do is
a. make sure their kids know the risks involved
b. neither encourage nor strictly forbid it.. because by prohibiting it, they might cause some kids to have sex.. as an act of rebellion..
c. if they know their child is sexual active, they shouldnt punish them.. because the kid will still continue anyways.. instead, they should make sure that participating in safe sexual practices..

The real problem at hand.. is that teenagers dont listen (myself included..) to their parents to such a degree as they did beforehand.. and especially not to lectures and forewarnings.. it realli is appalling.. the number of sexual active teens.. (*remembers overhearing discussions of sex lives in chemistry class X.x); and there simply isnt much adults can do about it.. punish them once, the teens are still going to do it

[cailean]

Parents need to educate their children about sex and how BABIES are made. I wouldn't say that parents should encourage their children to have sex...cause that's just weird. But I do believe that parents need to tell their children about safe sex and inform them of all the sexually transmitted diseases their are out there. A parents' duty to their child is to prepare them to be sent out into the world. You wouldn't send your child out in a car without them having learned how to drive and have their driver's license and insurance would you?

[Missing_You]

I'm a christian and I believe in saving yourself for marriage. My mom said that she doesn't want me to but if I ever did that I should tell her so I can get on birth control. And I know a lot of people say that because of their religion they choose not too. But I don't think your religion should JUST be the reason you don't. It's a dission you make wheter you really want to or not. I just think teens these days are being raised that sex isn't bad---which it isn't when it's with your one and only. There is just way too many consequinces. And if your boyfriend wont wait for you then obviously he doens't really love you. Cause somebody who does would wait. Don't settle for less. when you deserve more.

brit*

[bhrama]

I'm a christian and I believe in saving yourself for marriage. My mom said that she doesn't want me to but if I ever did that I should tell her so I can get on birth control. And I know a lot of people say that because of their religion they choose not too. But I don't think your religion should JUST be the reason you don't. It's a dission you make wheter you really want to or not. I just think teens these days are being raised that sex isn't bad---which it isn't when it's with your one and only. There is just way too many consequinces. And if your boyfriend wont wait for you then obviously he doens't really love you. Cause somebody who does would wait. Don't settle for less. when you deserve more.

brit*

I completely agree with u. Im catholic and I believe in saving myself before marriage. I agree with the comment emeraldknight made too. Kids have to know all the risks and consequences that come with sex; STD's, pregnancy, abortion, loss of respect from peers. I would problably lose a bunch of really good friends if i told them i had sex for instance. I think kids today don't know when they're ready and they get pressured into doin it. i think parents should take the time to talk to their kids about it and not really restrict it or allow it. You don't want to be like someone i know and end up pregnant at the age of 13.

[syLph`tommy]

if my son was gonna have sex ill get him condoms xp for protection..

[LiNHy POO]

umm.. i dont think they're encouraging them.. they're juss giving them their approval i think..

[alwaysalone]

I wouldn't say it's encouraging, it's more of a..."When you find some one you really love." sort of statement I think.

[diezelbabygrl_xo...]

i only think its right for parents 2 encourage their kids 2 have sex wen tha kids are like 45 yrs old and single so dat tha parents gotta push em out tha door n say, "go get laid n dont come back until u gotz me a couple of grandchildren!"

LOL

[jo3]

I don't think one has to wait to get married to be able to have sex because that would drive people to marry only so they could try to see if sex was good with their partner and then get a divorce when things don't work out.

if 2 people got married so they could see if sex was good with their partner, then their relationship is VERY shallow. there's no love whatsoever in that relationship

if you love someone, then even if he/she isn't a good sex partner, you'll still make it good bcuz of your love for him/her

[d3v1l1ci0us]

approval. not encoruagement. :D if they were encouraging, itd be more like.. "SEX IS SO GOOD FOR YOU-SEX FEELS AWESOME--DO SEX ITS A NICE EXPERIENCE-ETC" haha, just pointing that out

[Devastation]

big big thing to me. wait till you found the RIGHT ONE.

[JessJR1022]

it's prolly not a good thing to encourage them to have sex, I know my parents aalways said now....except my mom....but she's a *cough*...slut..... and told me that it would be ok, but I def won't tell my kids its ok

[iheartsimba]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

[Corianboi]

Face it guy's hormones are out of control when they hit puberty, and girls from a young age want boyfirends, and this is not everyone but the majority. Sooo if anything, you should support and educate the child...that is best...the biggest mistake parents make is that they forgot they were kids too.

[aud_chua]

i'd beat the living crap out of my kids if they had sex while they're piss drunk! lolz..!!
but seriously... i think that parents should talk about sex with their kids and explain what happens and like.. the consequences.. that way, kids can make an informed decision.. of course i wouldn't allow them to have sex when they're not yet 18... really now! i don't believe that all people are mature enough at that age. all i'm saying is that they should be responsible for their actions. i don't want my kid to have sex with someone then get in trouble, i.e. have babies or contract STD's. that's just wrong....
if the main issue in question here is pre-marital sex, i think that it's alright as long as they they know what they're getting into and that both parties consented to it.

[Spirited Away]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

Uh, that's all fine and dandy you believe in something, but don't be calling what other people believe in "shit".

I happen to believe in that "shit" for myself, even though I don't think that's going to be the case for me. Some people believe strongly in saving their virginity for someone special, and that takes a hell lot more will than giving into your physical desires.

[[i]LLMATiC]

ya my moms tells me that if im gonna b havin sex that i shud b responsible `nd have safe sex wit condoms

[princess2113]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

uhh i believe in that...its not sh*t

[flip_dorkette]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

i`d say the same .. and if i myself have any kids, i`ll tell them that it`s fine to have sex; as long as they`re responsible about it and i meet whoever they`re going out with to be sure that they`re not just gonna be fxcking some man-whore/slut.. i`m christian, but i`m not really into my own religion .. so yea.. i learn from everyday life instead of obeying something all these people say you should listen to.. sex after marrige? good choice.. good choice.. but i`d say it`s up to a person if they want to save their virginity or not. i think you should save yourself for someone you know you truly care for.. ((weather you`re married or unmarried you should at least feel like you`re sure about eachother)) but hey, that`s just my oppinion.. people don`t have to keep their virginity if they don`t want to.. .. but it`d be nice.. and i`d tell my kids that it`s up to them; but it`d be appretiated by most if they`d wait. it`s not exactly encouragment.. it`s approval and to the kid it`s a sign that they can be open about it; instead of being secretive.

[Guarneri]

puhahaha... even if my parents encouraged me to go and sleep around, I WOULDN'T DO IT.

why? cause i'm smarter than that.

[whomps]

sume parents tell their kids its ok to have sex when their ready.....do u think thats ok??? for parents to like...encourage them to have sex? will u tell ur kids thats ok???

It's not exactly 'encouraging' them to have sex. More like.. giving them the thumbs up when they finally decide to do it. I think that's okay.

[KaraBaby]

OK this is the way I think...
I think that that advice is good. If you know your parents are going to KILL you if they found out if you had sex then that's just a reason to keep it from them. Wouldnt you rahter know if your child was having sex than have her sneak around and do it behind your back? You should STRESS waiting until marriage. But don't threaten.

*trying to he helpful*

[sammi rules you]

They're not really encouraging it, they're telling you not to, actually. They're saying, "If you know you're not old enough or ready for the responsibility of possibly having a kid, then don't have sex." I'll be telling my kids it's Ok to have sex when they're ready. I don't wanna be like, "YOU KIDS WILL DIE VIRGINS BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HAVE SEX! RAWRRR!!!" cause that's just mean.

[pbear]

^ What Sammi said.
Especially since my parents have brainwashed me into the whole abstinence thing.
I want my kids to be able to choose for themselves.

[Spirited Away]

^^ Next thing you know your 10 year old will be humping his/her girlfriend/boyfriend because his/her Mom is so cool about letting him/her have sex when he/she is ready.

[xtiffysweetzx]

my parents never wanted me to have sex b4 im married...bein raised dat way doesnt necessarily mean ull grow up dat way..i mean..look at me..lol...but yeah...i think kids r gonna do it anyway...parents might as well teach them bout protection n STDs n wha not

[shawty_redd]

well parents dont exactly encourage their kdis to have sex. i know my friends' parents are like i dont like it but i cant stop you, just use protection. its not really encouraging them, but if someone wants to have sex, they will no matter what their parents say. the only person who can stop you is yourself. its not like the parents are like go ahead and have sex.

i completely agree

[Spirited Away]

Parents who say "have sex when you're ready" or those that do not dissuade their children from sex until they're older than 16 or 18 are basically saying "go ahead and have sex". The least you can do, as a responsible parent--or even as a mature adult, is to tell your children about the consequences of sex: STDs, unwanted pregnancy, whatnot.

[Guarneri]

that's bad parenting.

if you want to be a good parent and you want your kids to grow up and become respectable persons, then you should encourage abstinence right from the beginning. abstinence will teach self discipline, higher standards and morals, self-value, commitment, and etc.

guidance is what kids need. guidance is what parents give. telling them "when they're ready" is not guiding. kids don't know what being ready is.

[[i]LLMATiC]

If you think about it its not reallie encouragement . encouragement would b to buy them condoms.. my friends mom buys him condoms but yea i think its when there ready

[Chlorie]

no, i think that this is how aid and hiv got started....bad parenting

[Devastation]

sex is cool.

[Devastation]

and u posted on another topic about intellectual replies?
pertaining to topic: i believe in abstinence+

lol, intellectual replies dont always have to intellectual, sex is cool is refraining as either the thought of sex or in the process of it. sex pertains to either pleasure or need.

[Chlorie]

You go girl...abstinence all the way!

[elmogurly]

my solution...have sex when you get married. so that you can get married and say that your losing your virginity to someone that you have vowed to be with forever and ever. that's something special you can share with your spouse.

[Spirited Away]

sex is cool.

Not when your 11 year old is having sex with her 29 year old teacher.

[xmissrachiex]

i have many friends that believe in saving themselves for marriage, I respect this opinion but I don't believe in it. This opinion also includes not living with someone till you're married to them and I don't agree with this either. Marrying someone means spending the rest of your life with them, and I know that now, you can get a divorce as easily as you get married but that shouldn't affect the vows you make. Sex is a big part of a relationship and if you get married and find that you aren't happy with your wife or husband, too bad, because you're stuck with them.

This is why I believe that you should have sex when you're ready, not when you're married. If it means you're not ready till you're married, then fine, that's ok. But I don't think marriage should determine when you have sex. It should be you're own decision.

What if you're still not ready when you get married. What should you do then?

[princess2113]

Not when your 11 year old is having sex with her 29 year old teacher.

lmao

[sikdragon]

sex before marriage is morally wrong because it promotes an already growing population rate that cannot be controlled due to lack of parents. If you love somebody and are dedicated to each other, you dont exactly need a piece of paper saying you are married, when u just know ur with the person u will be with forever you can seek the blessing of God on your coupling. but you can not be divorced either way you choose to be married, because it is adultery for both you and your new partner.

[sweetdreamsx3]

sume parents tell their kids its ok to have sex when their ready.....do u think thats ok??? for parents to like...encourage them to have sex? will u tell ur kids thats ok???

Personally, I don't think the parents care about their kids that much if their going to say it's okay. I mean what about pregnancy? What if the child is ready, but she doesn't have a job yet? I guess all the support and everything goes to the mom to care for. And no, I don't think that's encouragement. It's more of like "I don't care what you do" statement. Hm... And HELL FCUKING NO I wouldn't tell my kids it's okay. Shoot...I'll beat their asses.

[vivieeeen]

well.. my parents(actually it's just my mom) she tells me that it's normal.

but just don't do anything when you're without financial aid..
just in case a condom breaks and everyone's happy.

[inthemudhole]

Hm.
I don't think it's okay, but yet I sort of do.
They're saying they want you to be ready and not.. not ready, XD and that shows that they show concern for you.

But yet, some kids might take it as encouragement.. which isn't good.. a parent "encouraging" their son/daughter to have sex, even though they pretty much aren't, but some kids might take it the wrong way and see it as encouragement.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

i think its ok if their parents to say its okay...lol?

would i tell it to my kids?
i think ima say something like this "i know u wont listen to everything i say,but if u do intend to do it,just make sure we dont find out"

[Spirited Away]

^ Okay, tell me where you live so I won't raise my kids near your neighborhood.

[mouse_3k]

i think its better then having the parents lock them away until their like 30..but thts just me

[MeanBastard]

Sure, if I ever have kids they can have sex when they think they are ready. If they get pr3egnant or get STD's, their life. Learn from their own mistakes.

[is2diexd]

Well in the states kids have sex even when they are not ready... and yes i think i'll tell my kids you can have sex when you are ready but i would't encourage them and tell them to go screw anyone..

[toria66622]

yea cause if not they are jus gunna b rebellious and think there iz somethin exciting about it cause ur not allowed to do it

[KiLaLamYlOve]

kids should not have kids.....

[*not_your_average*]

If you're ready to have sex and you're not married, then go ahead and have it.

I see no reason why parents would be "encouraging" their children to have sex if they're telling them about protection. That's smart, not bad.

[BOLIN_Vee]

i dont even care what my kids will do. they can go out get pregnant get HIV, get drunk, shoot ppl......shoot themselves....i dont care...it aint my problem.


HAHA JK!!

i'd tell them to wait till marrage or i'll kick em out. settled.

[Mulder]

i guess im ok with that.


i wouldnt tell my kids that..but still..i can see the logic behind it.

[sheridan_whitesi...]

because it promotes an already growing population rate that cannot be controlled due to lack of parents.

This is a foolish notion on several levels. First, teenage pregnancies have been down over the past 15 years despite "moral" messages about sex before marriage on the decline. It's due to the increase of condom sense. (sorry, bad pun) This is hardly contributing to the population problem. Most reproduction in America is done in the 20's, a time when the parents should have enough responsiblity. If indeed the population growth rate is the problem, then the problem lies in developing nations where the birth rate has yet to decline with the death rate, creating a huge distance between the b and d curves. However, the problem with human population isn't a problem of rates. It's about the carrying capacity of the earth, it's K value. Human population is already over that level, if American standard of living is applied, and American resource consumption rates are applied to everyone. As we know this isn't the case, and efforts to control birth rates have all been foolish measures with little or no impact. The problem of population growth lies in consumption, and should not even be broached in a debate about premarital sex.

[miixxtapelove]

I don't think they are encouraging it. I think it has a lot to do with when you tell someone not to do something - it makes them want to do more so then if you tell them they can. It's not like the parents are saying 'Go have sex!' It is just letting them know that in reality it is there call on what they do and when they do it. No one can really control what you do except for you. I know tons of kids that have sex even though their parents says don't. I think a parent would rather have their child confide in them. That way the kid can get whatever birth control they will need.

As for what I would tell my kids. I don't know exactly. I don't really plan on having any, but I would probably tell them the same thing my parents told me.

[vash1530]

wow...what an akward position a child would be in hearing that from their parents.

[le_gion]

i am assuming that "my kids" will have sex before they get married. I am also assuming that i will want to know as much about their lives as possible; so in saying they can have sex when they are ready- i might throw on, but you should talk to me about it. mixtape- im basically just saying right on.

[simx]

I'd just tell them to have sex when they're ready... as long as it's not at like.. 12 or something

[le_gion]

what if the kiddos start fornicating before you tell them its ok?

sticky situation

[*mipadi*]

what if the kiddos start fornicating before you tell them its ok?

sticky situation

No pun intended?

[sense.n.style]

heck no.

[saintruthanne]

human function, like sneezing, itching a scratch. we all need intamacy and love. why censor something like that? thats like making people stop eating. dance, make love, and be merry.

do you really think that if someone doesn't have sex their whole lives, then they will die, or not function right? cuz if you do...well then you're wrong, but if you don't, then that whole statement isn't right. and besides, you can have intimacy and love without having sex. no?

but anyway, definitily NOT going to tell my kids its okay to have sex until their married.

if you assume that your kids are gonna have sex before marriage, then they probly will becuz you're not doing anything to stop it.

[*mipadi*]

do you really think that if someone doesn't have sex their whole lives, then they will die, or not function right? cuz if you do...well then you're wrong, but if you don't, then that whole statement isn't right. and besides, you can have intimacy and love without having sex. no?

but anyway, definitily NOT going to tell my kids its okay to have sex until their married.

if you assume that your kids are gonna have sex before marriage, then they probly will becuz you're not doing anything to stop it.

What's wrong with sex before marriage? Sex before marriage != wanton promiscuity.

[le_gion]

i wouldnt say sex is a required function for one specific being to live, but i would say your["saint" ruth's] view of sex is radically conservative.

if you assume that your kids are gonna have sex before marriage, then they probly will becuz you're not doing anything to stop it.

good point there^. If they are to "function" on their own, you assume they will have sex. funny how that works out.

and if you are 'definitly NOT' going to tell your kids its ok, tell us why?

[saintruthanne]

i wouldnt say sex is a required function for one specific being to live, but i would say your["saint" ruth's] view of sex is radically conservative.

good point there^.  If they are to "function" on their own, you assume they will have sex.  funny how that works out.

and if you are 'definitly NOT' going to tell your kids its ok,  tell us why?

well....my blog name is, as you write, "saint" ruth becuz my last name is Saint. Not becuz I think I'm a Saint...just to get that out there. Man maybe i should introduce myself and get that out of the way.

anyway, you're right, I am conservative, but I'm not Republican (not democrat either) and thanks for being respectful. I don't want my kids to have sex becuz a) the Bible says its wrong, b) i want it to be special for them, and c) they will regret it.