Give some advice for this old heart will you all?, I don't know if I need it, but better to have options than none ri Options

[EyeLuvMeesun]

Okay I'm not new to this relationship business. I've been around the opposite sex for quite some time now and honestly think that I know what to do in almost every situation that may arise.

My problem is this:
I'm described by most girls as, "cute", "hot", "romantic", etc. I'm what you call a talented guy. There is rarely a point in my life where I can't get a girlfriend (I'm TRULY not conceited at all). I have a twin brother. He's also as talented as I at obtaining one of the opposite sex. We're both oddly very similar in personality. The thing is the only difference between us is the way we talk or act when on the phone or in person. If a girl talks to the both of us on the phone, then she falls for me, and if a girl who likes us goes and hangs out with us somewhere, then she falls for him. However, if a girl hangs out with us AND talks to us on the phone; he still ends up having her fall for him.

So the thing is:
Is it more important to females on how the guy acts while he's around her as opposed to how well he speaks on the phone?

My brother "bleeds" is emotions on people who surround him. If he's happy the group is happy. If he's angry, then you bet that there'll be an angry group of Asians with him.

I make bad emotions go away. If there is a sad person (regardless of gender) I can make them smile and feel good about themselves. If they are happy then I make them even happier. I don't "bleed" like my brother does. I seem to "inject" good feelings into people.

Is there a big difference? please share your opinions
Again I'm only asking this because I need more input and want to think less of it

[EyeLuvMeesun]

Sounds to me like you need to work on your personal skills. Plus, who would bring their brother to their hook-ups...

No no no.... this happens only when a female friend comes to my house to "chill" lol I would never bring him on one of my hook-ups

[Cujiine]

I'm a bit confused on age range because you go from Old Heart to hook ups... I guess I'm not getting something?

But anyways, I love talking to my guys on the phone but it's just that much more important to be able to carry yourself in person. I'm the same way you are. I make people happy. I'm always smiling and happy and the rare times I'm yelling or crying or whatever they know something is wrong. But anyways, For me at least I can't have a phone relationship. I need that in person clicky-ness...

[EyeLuvMeesun]

I'm a bit confused on age range because you go from Old Heart to hook ups... I guess I'm not getting something?

But anyways, I love talking to my guys on the phone but it's just that much more important to be able to carry yourself in person. I'm the same way you are. I make people happy. I'm always smiling and happy and the rare times I'm yelling or crying or whatever they know something is wrong. But anyways, For me at least I can't have a phone relationship. I need that in person clicky-ness...

I'm actually 17 years old (so title may be misleading?)

I mean I'm good in person too, but it's not like I'm bad in person. It's just... (I don't know how to explain it sorry )

[AimeeLynn]

There is rarely a point in my life where I can't get a girlfriend (I'm TRULY not conceited at all). I

COCKY!!
Jk I have the same problem. Guys like me but idk if they just want to get in my pants.

Yeah well, I think u benefit since you are positive.
Ugh I hate negative people because I'm positive with my friends but I can be negative.
I hate people who are negative because it makes me sad and annoys me.

well I say act as cool you are in the phone. I talk to a guy on the phone and he is cool and everything then when I talk to him in person he is so weird.
Then again I know a guy that hates talking on the phone and acts wicked cool in person.

Yes I'll take the cool guy in person than the cool guy on the phone since you want to have a personal feel and you can connect more though discussion wise then presence.

Hope I helped a little

[tokyo-rose]

It's important to communicate well both on the phone and in person, but I think in person is more important. It's just that it's harder to take that step from interacting on the phone to doing so in person. From your description of how you and your twin affect the people you're with, I'd rather be around you. I don't think you should worry about it that much. If a girl would go better with you than with your twin, then she'll fall for you when hanging out in person.

[EyeLuvMeesun]

COCKY!!
Jk I have the same problem. Guys like me but idk if they just want to get in my pants.

Yeah well, I think u benefit since you are positive.
Ugh I hate negative people because I'm positive with my friends but I can be negative.
I hate people who are negative because it makes me sad and annoys me.

well I say act as cool you are in the phone. I talk to a guy on the phone and he is cool and everything then when I talk to him in person he is so weird.
Then again I know a guy that hates talking on the phone and acts wicked cool in person.

Yes I'll take the cool guy in person than the cool guy on the phone since you want to have a personal feel and you can connect more though discussion wise then presence.

Hope I helped a little

You did help until the part that confused me:
"Yes I'll take the cool guy in person than the cool guy on the phone since you want to have a personal feel and you can connect more though discussion wise then presence."

^^ I didn't understand this one. Either that or I am reading it wrong 6 times in a row ^^

It's important to communicate well both on the phone and in person, but I think in person is more important. It's just that it's harder to take that step from interacting on the phone to doing so in person. From your description of how you and your twin affect the people you're with, I'd rather be around you. I don't think you should worry about it that much. If a girl would go better with you than with your twin, then she'll fall for you when hanging out in person.

The most helpful of all the posts I got. Thank you SO much. This is actually what I could not come up with in my head, but thanks to you I've got it all clear now.

Topic closed Thank you to all who tried to help, and all who cared to read my post.

[tokyo-rose]

You did help until the part that confused me:
"Yes I'll take the cool guy in person than the cool guy on the phone since you want to have a personal feel and you can connect more though discussion wise then presence."

^^ I didn't understand this one. Either that or I am reading it wrong 6 times in a row ^^

I think Aimee means that she'd rather date a guy who can interact better in person than on the phone, because IRL is where things actually happen (hanging out, hugging, etc.). You can't have a good relationship based just on talking well on the phone.

Aw, glad I helped you. =) PM me if you need this reopened.

Topic closed.