Teenage|Pregnancy., ... Options

[DaCandy]

About a week ago one of my best friends told me she was pregnant. She's 18 ( OK she's "legal" ) But i think she doesn't have the maturity that it takes to raise a child.
But she says she's happy and that she really want it.
While teens, don't we all girls, at a certain point, want to be moms ? Well I had that moment lol.
I just told her that it was going to be hard but if she was happy with it i could only support her.
She havent told her parents yet, And knowing them as I do, they wont be " that happy".

"You're 17 .. What you know about that ? "
Well I have two younger brothers and I had to take care of them and trust me it was SOOO NOT EASY .. Cuz babies do look cute and adorable (and they are) but they also pooh/pee (LOOL), have to eat and they cry alot !.
Anyway I think she's fantasizing about being a mother, she works and he has a house, but its like under his parents' house and they dont like her much.
And i can see it coming .. You can say I'm being negative but I know both of them and I know both of the families, and I can feel that in future things will not work as she expected.
She'll end up moving to his place, because of her parents, and even when you're in love living with someone its a huge step and especially when we're young things don't really work out, cuz its too much, plus she is going the have a baby and stop working and he'll have to find a job to support both + the baby, HE'S IN HIGHSCHOOL and never worked in his life. I have so much to say that I could stay here all night long.
But anyway ... I think it's too soon for her, and she's not seeing the both sides. But I'm her friend and I wish her luck.

Mais ... What would you do in a situation like this ?

[ChangeofHeart]

she going to wish she never had a kid once she looks at the price tag! Babies are so damn expensive, and she will have to devote alot of her years to that child. I would get an abortion if I could in that situation.

[LoveToMySilas]

Well...I think you should have a talk with her about the baby. A baby isn't a toy that you can just toss away when you don't feel like playing or taking care of it anymore. Ask her what she wants to be when shes older and that if she'll still be able to furfill these dreams with a baby on hand. You can go through different options with her, ask her whats best for the baby. I mean, I understand that you're concerned but in the end, it is the mother's decision. She still has time to figure out what she wants to do with her baby, I wish you the best of luck. If you need someone to talk to, you can come to me. My friend recently gave birth to her child a few weeks ago.

[Glamourouz]

Well I've never dreamed of having a child before marriage & success in a career & I'm a 19 yr old college senior now...but If I were you, I would do nothing but be a friend. I mean all you can do is give advice, but it's clear that this is what she wants, it's her life & her decision to make & she's gonna have to live with it. Just be there to support her as a friend & nothing less. She might regret it, she might not, everyone's different. Who is anyone to judge.

[DaCandy]

Just be there to support her as a friend & nothing less. She might regret it, she might not, everyone's different. Who is anyone to judge.

Yup... That's what I'm saying.

[karmakiller]

Don't hold this against her. Some people will surprise you, trust me. We had a lot of teenage pregnancies when I was in school... and there were some girls that you would think wouldn't be good mothers, but they ended up doing well for themselves. I'm sure she's taking a lot of crap already, so try not to give her any. I'm not one to say "ooooh yeah go out and get pregnant, it's okay" but I've seen how people treat young mothers. But there really are girls out there that can handle being a mother at young age, both emotionally and financially and et cetera.