I'm sick of it.., he's become a different person. Options

[BillyShakespeare]

There are several things that are beginning to bug me about my current relationship. We've been together over a year and a half, but these problems have just surfaced recently.

A.) He was gone for the past week. I get he'll want to talk about that. However, I was sick when he called. I wanted a word of sympathy, maybe an "I'm sorry babe" or something. NO. He just waltz on over that like it's nothing.

B.) He's started to ignore me. Not bad. I personally like it. He's been a bit clingy for the past 3 months. But it worries me. Especially when he seems to be more concerned about some girl he met at the camp then me. BTW, he set her up with one of his friends. He was wondering what was going to happen.

C.) He doesn't seem to worry that I might be pregnant. I mean, I'm a two weeks late. It's not normal for me. I bring it up, and yet again, the topic is changed. I don't know if it's his way of dealing with it or what, but it hurts.

&& Finally, the most annoying:

D.) His older brother is back. I can put up with his older brother until my guy gets around him. Then it's like my guys' completely different. The boy I know won't cuss unless upset. The boy around his brother cusses up a storm. My boy is suppossed to be a christian; but now I see all these Juggalo things around. From what I can tell, Juggalo's claim to be a branch of Christianity but aren't. Maybe someone can correct me on that, I already know it off-branches from ICP, but that's what I can tell.

Basically, I miss the old boy. I miss him caring about me. Everytime I mention taking a break, he gets all upset. This is very hard on me. I can't seem to get through to him what's wrong though. When I try to discuss these issues maturely, he immediatly goes into "I'm a screw-up" but doesn't change his ways.

Any advice on what I should do?

[tokyo-rose]

Basically, I miss the old boy. I miss him caring about me. Everytime I mention taking a break, he gets all upset. This is very hard on me. I can't seem to get through to him what's wrong though. When I try to discuss these issues maturely, he immediatly goes into "I'm a screw-up" but doesn't change his ways.

You already have your answer in that last paragraph. If he's changed so drastically into someone who doesn't make you happy and doesn't even care that he's making you unhappy, you should break up with him. Even if you still care about him and are used to being with him, that's not enough for you to stay together.

[shoryuken]

There are several things that are beginning to bug me about my current relationship. We've been together over a year and a half, but these problems have just surfaced recently.

A.) He was gone for the past week. I get he'll want to talk about that. However, I was sick when he called. I wanted a word of sympathy, maybe an "I'm sorry babe" or something. NO. He just waltz on over that like it's nothing.

B.) He's started to ignore me. Not bad. I personally like it. He's been a bit clingy for the past 3 months. But it worries me. Especially when he seems to be more concerned about some girl he met at the camp then me. BTW, he set her up with one of his friends. He was wondering what was going to happen.

C.) He doesn't seem to worry that I might be pregnant. I mean, I'm a two weeks late. It's not normal for me. I bring it up, and yet again, the topic is changed. I don't know if it's his way of dealing with it or what, but it hurts.

&& Finally, the most annoying:

D.) His older brother is back. I can put up with his older brother until my guy gets around him. Then it's like my guys' completely different. The boy I know won't cuss unless upset. The boy around his brother cusses up a storm. My boy is suppossed to be a christian; but now I see all these Juggalo things around. From what I can tell, Juggalo's claim to be a branch of Christianity but aren't. Maybe someone can correct me on that, I already know it off-branches from ICP, but that's what I can tell.

Basically, I miss the old boy. I miss him caring about me. Everytime I mention taking a break, he gets all upset. This is very hard on me. I can't seem to get through to him what's wrong though. When I try to discuss these issues maturely, he immediatly goes into "I'm a screw-up" but doesn't change his ways.

Any advice on what I should do?

YEEE.. u pix plzz..

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

relationships are hard. especially when the whole "honeymoon state" is over. being with someone over a year is a great accomplishment and it's up to that point where you and him must work it out somehow. COMMUNICATION IS KEY.

if you don't let him know what's bothering you or you don't tell him that he's changed then how will he ever know that there's something wrong. boys and girls are naive to the way that they act themselves but are very perceptive to when its the other person. all you can see is flaws. me and my boyfriend of three years had a HUGE fight this morning but what it comes down to is you have to ask yourself, "is it worth it?"

people change, its the way of life. my boyfriend always tells me that he misses the girl he met. and i miss the boy i met but things happen, events happen, change happens and its all about making it work...IF THE RELATIONSHIP IS WORTH IT.

he might just change the subject when it comes to the pregnancy issue because that is probably the way he deals with it. he doesnt want to think about it or he just believes that you're not. guys are like that you cant expect a reaction from him all the time. as for when he's with his brother, you have to think about how people put up a front in front of other people but the main point of it all is that he is his TRUE SELF WHEN WITH YOU.

just take some time and think about if "he is worth the squeeze."

jackie

[shoryuken]

^ TRUUU DATTT jakkiiee chaann..

[Tramatize]

A.) I don't see that as a big deal. Maybe he missed you and wanted to catch up and say hi. But i don't know, i wouldn't worry about it.

B.)Well he might like the girl, but if you guys are as close as you are, i would just pay close attention to him, and make sure he knows that its making you upset.

C.)Honestly, i am not sure about this one. Maybe instead of saying you might be preg. say you are, it will make him more focused on it.
But i don't know

D.)He is more fond of his brother, its natural, he grew up with his brother, he just acts different around him because hes known him the longest and is more natural around him, and he knows how to talk to him. We (juggalos) don't claim to be Christian, we are! We just have different believes, we don't use his name in vain, we respect him, but we see it a bit different, we don't think that god cares if we cuss, there only words, and as for sex, we think that it is still forgiven, all not that bad, i mean, god must of had "sex" of some sort with the virgin Mary, and i don't think god and the virgin Mary were husband and wife. I am just saying, if you want him to be Christian, or want him to believe in what you believe in, maybe you should break up? You can't change someone if they don't want to change, they will change gradually.


But all together, i wouldn't be too worried, just talk to him about this. Don't feel hesitant.

people change, its the way of life.

[shoryuken]

^TRUUU datt gaayy faaaceee..

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

C.)Honestly, i am not sure about this one. Maybe instead of saying you might be preg. say you are, it will make him more focused on it.
But i don't know

i wouldn't tell him that you are pregnant. you should never tell a guy that you are pregnant unless you're more than 50% sure or even 100% sure that you are. NEVER say you were when you're not. you're gonna look like some psycho whose trying to trap a guy. my boyfriends ex told him a couple times that she was pregnant but wasn't. don't do anything about the pregnancy issue until there is a positive answer.

jackie