i still have feelings for him... Options

[PlasticPiolet]

6 months ago i asked my ex (when we were still together) what he think of guys that plays around chicks, those that lies and cheats.. he told me he thinks they're absolutely disgusting


around christmas 2007, he told me he doesn't want to break up with me and he also didn't want to spend christmas with me.. cause he's found someone else.. then i found out he's been with that fat bitch for one whole month and i just found out around xmas


so he cheated and i do hate him for what he's done to me after he promised he will never do this to me but i think of him all the time! and it's been 5 months since the break up.. i am now back with my boyfriend from two years ago. and sometimes i do think of my ex, well all the time i shall say!

i somehow figure out his girlfriend's bebo password and god i was pissed off and hate her to guts so i deleted her account, then i thought if i know her bebo password then i might know her email password.. and now its like i check her mail everyday, or sometimes. i just can't help it! a month ago my ex txted me saying he was bored cause hes girlfriend was at work and he has nothing to do, he almost beg me to be friends again and was thrilled to meet up with me..


i just ahh so confusing! i want to forget about him, but why is it so hard?

my now boyfriend totally understand this whole thing with my ex, he knows that my ex has hurts me badly and he stands by me through all this! which is lovely of him! but i want to forget my ex, because i think it's unfair on my now boyfriend if i still have my ex on my mind...


what do you guys think?

how can i forget him and live happy?

[mizzkewl06]

first of all don't make the mistake of befriending your ex... STAY AWAY FROM HIM. he's obviuosly not worth your time and the best thing for you to do is to just not communicate with him. and stop going through his girlfriend's stuff. that's only going to hurt you more and remind you of him. if you really care for your now boyfriend... make an effort to make things work with him. concentrate on making yourself happy & being happy with him.

[ChangeofHeart]

^^ same as she said, but also don't ruin her account and email, don't be such a spy. Her email and personal stuff is none of your business.

[only-tuesdays]

Be the bigger person. Leave her alone, leave him alone.

[NATTLEUNG]

Yeah its definitely hard to get over your ex. and thing is your never gonna forget about him no matter how hard you try. he was a part of your life. You cant walk past it, i think you gotta get through it. But its normal to miss your ex. Thing is your always gonna be missing somone you know? I mean it doesnt have to be anyone big, it can be someone that made you smile or made you feel good, and when those people kinda go away, your gonna miss them some how. Yeah its good that your current boyfriend understands, just let time heal it. I think its something that is beyond your control. but dont worry as time goes by, it will get better. Just concentrate on your current boyfriend and your goals in life. You gotta go through the bad in order to have the good. If you never have the bad times then the good wouldnt feel even better you know? Its okay if things didnt work out last time, that just proves there something more amazing out there and that will love and treat you better! Have a positive mind =) I wish you the best of luck =) !

[wingz3r0]

Holy guacamole over le chocolate-covered breadsticks! That's crazy LOL
talk! Anyways um
There is no past tense to love, either you do or you never did,
since you actually still got love or in love with'em
well it took me almost 2 years to get over my X & she did worst she broked up with me on the phone with me WITH HER OTHER MAN ON THE PHONE!!! she useto drive me crazy useto blame me for stuff I aint do & useto tell me what I couldn't wear for alil bit..

you need to get closure from him to get over him,
& nice of your " now boyfriend to deal & put up with you still thinking about that JERK " it's only Bcoz he understands that nobody can control their feelings it just happens.. & stop thinking about your x and make those NEW movements with your " now boyfriend " he wont be understanding for long eventually he will get insecure about that & start to neglect you ~> make the best of what you got now, they're called X's for a REASON X OUT

The U.S. constitution doesn’t gurantee happiness, only the PURSUIT of it.
You have to catch up with the rest of it yourself. Don't depend on ppl to make you happy it's your JOB

6 months ago i asked my ex (when we were still together) what he think of guys that plays around chicks, those that lies and cheats.. he told me he thinks they're absolutely disgusting
around christmas 2007, he told me he doesn't want to break up with me and he also didn't want to spend christmas with me.. cause he's found someone else.. then i found out he's been with that fat bitch for one whole month and i just found out around xmas
so he cheated and i do hate him for what he's done to me after he promised he will never do this to me but i think of him all the time! and it's been 5 months since the break up.. i am now back with my boyfriend from two years ago. and sometimes i do think of my ex, well all the time i shall say!

i somehow figure out his girlfriend's bebo password and god i was pissed off and hate her to guts so i deleted her account, then i thought if i know her bebo password then i might know her email password.. and now its like i check her mail everyday, or sometimes. i just can't help it! a month ago my ex txted me saying he was bored cause hes girlfriend was at work and he has nothing to do, he almost beg me to be friends again and was thrilled to meet up with me..
i just ahh so confusing! i want to forget about him, but why is it so hard?

my now boyfriend totally understand this whole thing with my ex, he knows that my ex has hurts me badly and he stands by me through all this! which is lovely of him! but i want to forget my ex, because i think it's unfair on my now boyfriend if i still have my ex on my mind...
what do you guys think?

how can i forget him and live happy?

[x-hotchocbun-x]

i h8ed ur ex

i think he doesn't love you at all and all he's tryin to do is play you around like u're nothin

just forget everything about him .. and try to go out more with your now boyfriend ^^

[Glamourouz]

To forget him is to cut off all ties...no texting, talking, meeting; none of that...He cheated on you; I honestly doubt anyone could promise they would never cheat, but if they truly respect you & the relationship they wouldnt ever go through with the thought...You checking his girlfriend's e-mail everyday is crazy; just stop it because you wouldnt want someone invading your privacy without your knowledge...you & your ex are broken up so let it go...you are with someone so be with him because eventually he won't stand by you any longer if he's smart because it's not fair to him; if you arent ready to be with someone else then be single, if you're ready to move on then let the past be the past & keep it movin...

[PlasticPiolet]

everything you guys said are totally true, and i shouldn't spy on his girlfriend and all this stuff.. but it's just so hard!!! so, i work in the supermaket as a checkout operator. and he has never come shop at my work, ever! only his mum and his little brother did. and on thursday he suddently appear on my checkout.. other checkout lanes were free but he came to mine anywaysz.. my heart was skipping non stop it ain't normal as i thought im over him.

[Glamourouz]

Yea you're not over him but aside from your job since you have no control over that, you need to limit contact if you want to get over him, but with any break up, it all takes time & discipline

[Mikael]

Oh snap. If your boy says hes very 'understanding' about it, he may have some fries on the side. I'd drop the ex immediately.

From experience. Hey.

[Archana]

Leave them both alone. Why would you want to go back to someone like that? And don't check her mail, that's not cool.

[aaayotiffany]

stop the invading her stuff. not only is that childish but that makes you look ridiculous. another thing, stay away from your ex. its only going to bring more bad stuff on you. don't be friends with him after what he did because he doesn't deserve your friendship or your worry. sure you'll always care about him, but if you completely block yourself from everything thats him, you should be fine.

just restrain yourself from anything thats him or that reminds you of him.