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[IamRad]

Thanks for the input guysss, but i have another question...Do you think i should talk to him about it? cause he actually did say he wanted to talk to me in person. Or do you think i should just leave it?

But leaving it always leaves things undone, and i hate that :/

So, here it goes. Sorry for it being so long

Boy casually asks me to prom, i accept. We don't talk for awhile, until the three days before prom, to get things organized.
Prom comes around, he picks me up, we go in the limo and here it starts.
He randomly puts his hand on my knee, like you would do with your boy/girlfriend. Every single picture we took, cute or humorous, he would ALWAYS have his hand around my waist/shoulders.
When it came time to slow dance? Our song was "dont wanna miss a thing" by aerosmith, a part came up where it said "i wanna hold you close" and HE pulls me in closer.
As the night progresses, he starts showing more affection, through dancing, holding my hand, whatever.
End of the night comes, in the limo...HE held my hand 3 times on his own free will.
HE walks me to my door, like a gentleman, we hug, and i kiss him, cause i felt a mutual connection, no? Well, he did kiss me back. and then we hugged again.

Two days later?

I ask him about after prom.
He tells me, "i just kissed you cause i think you're hot, and i dont like you like that"
He kept apologizing cause he realized i was hurt by this, obviously.
He also said he kissed me back cause he didnt wanna ruin my night...

but who leads someone on THAT much? My gosh...If he didn't do any of those things, i would have never kissed him! and i told him that! and he said, he just got caught up in the moment and didnt know what to do?

Does this make any sense whatsoever?

Meh :[

[JokeInsideJoke]

that guy is such a bitch! OMG! if any guy did that to me i would knee him in the balls and laugh as he rolled on the floor in pain.

what did you do to him?

[ChangeofHeart]

Wow what not a gentleman, a guy does not tell a girl that they only think their hot. Hes an a-hole. Accept his apologie but still consider him an a-hole.

[queen]

really, i think those are normal things to do while on a date: holding of hands, arms around waist/shoulders, dancing close, etc... you two probably just had awesome chemistry --it doesn't have to mean you like each other either for that kind of connection.

i don't think he intentionally lead you on, it just happened. as for the kiss, i could understand if he got confused as to what to do in the heat of the moment (he probably didn't know how to stop or pull away from the kiss), and at the same time, of course a guy would be willing to kiss a girl he thinks is hot. in that respect, yes, he is an idiot for not knowing how to handle the situation a lot better.

i think though that you've come out of this learning how a lot of guys act. i don't think it's so bad. you had fun, right? just remember the good parts of the night and ignore his presence.

[mizzkewl06]

i agree with Bianca.. my knee would be very familiar with that fxcker's balls. that is so messed up. and saying that he "got caught up in the moment" is total bs! this guys is a creep & isn't worth you pouting over.

[JokeInsideJoke]

'i just got caught up in the moment' that is such a lame excuse

[IamRad]

Omg I know! Everyone has been telling him to just kick him for this and that i dont deserve it cause im too good for him, ha.

how do you unintentionally lead someone on that much though? :/

And like, he said he wanted to talk to me in person about it sometime this past week, but it never happened, so i was gonna try today but things got messed up.

I just need to clear the air, even though i know he's an ass for doing that.

[aaayotiffany]

i think i would have swung and then kneed him. god, i don't think i've ever known of someone to do that. thats soo messed up, he needs to get jumped or something. what a fxcking lame ass excuse, he's obviously a douche. boys, pssh.

[LoveToMySilas]

Eh, I'm sorry to hear that. Boys will be boys. Well, at least you got an apology from him. Its hard to tell if he was really "caught up in the moment" or not. I mean, kissing a hot girl, it is very hard to pull away from it. But at least you learned from it , hes a jerk though. You guys had good chemistry but I say hes not worth your time and that it was fun while it lasted.

[JokeInsideJoke]

you know, he isnt even worth thinking about

[IamRad]

i know :[ but it's hard NOT thinking about it haha.

[RissyMel]

wow, what a jerkface!
i would smack that boy.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Well this guy is obviously a douche bag. Douche bags get kicked in the testicle bag.

Get him in the nuts.

[DoubleJ]

I think that it attributes to you being young and gullible. Had you been older and wiser, you might have been able to understand what was going on better.

[Melissa]

I agree with queen/synkro. What you described him as doing is what people usually do on dates or proms/homecomings/etc. I really just think you were just reading him wrong. I also think he probably didn't expect a kiss and didn't know what to do - if he pulled away, it probably would've ruined your night, right?

[Kay-]

Better than leading you on MAJORLY while he already has a girlfriend, then you guys have a thing for 3 months and thten all the sudden he stops calling, stops txting, stops seeing you.

[x-hotchocbun-x]

from what i just read now

i h8ed this guy!

I mean OMG

how could he say somethin' so HURTFUL

anyway ..

just kick him on his balls .. like the others told u

lol

[IamRad]

I agree with queen/synkro. What you described him as doing is what people usually do on dates or proms/homecomings/etc. I really just think you were just reading him wrong. I also think he probably didn't expect a kiss and didn't know what to do - if he pulled away, it probably would've ruined your night, right?

But if you walk a girl to the door after knowing you've had an amazing night together, how could you not expect a kiss?

I wasnt even expecting him to walk me to my door, and when he did i figured he was thinking of it, so i went for it, and i thought it was mutual cause he leaned in, but apparently not according to him haha.

[transcendentalis...]

Omg I know! Everyone has been telling him to just kick him for this and that i dont deserve it cause im too good for him, ha.

i wouldn't just kick him.

[Amaranthus]

I find it hard to believe he just did all this because he didnt't want to ruin your night, or that he was caught up in the moment.
Us guys aren't that affectionate unless
A)We're already really close
or
B)He likes you.

[IamRad]

^ Yeah, that's why i got the impression that he liked me. i think there's something he's hiding, hmm.

[Glamourouz]

It doesn't make any sense at all...he's either a jerk or afraid to admit he really likes you...

[Flaunted]

well why didn't you talk to your date before days before prom? Like seriously, i'm sure he would have told you that that he didn't like you like that. I don't see why you're getting all mad about it, he probably didn't know when to tell you or when was the right time.

But you seemed to have a pretty decent night with him and he was nice date. The "leading" on seemed normal to me. Except i would probably be pissed if this happened at my prom. senior prom to be exact.

[Insurmountable]

What the f**k, that makes no sense at all. I would have slapped him once he told me that.


If you do give it more thought, maybe those things just happen on dates? Maybe you guys just got along really well, and one thing just led to another. I guess I've never really gone on dates, or at least never realized it if I have XD But I've never had a guy that I wasn't in a relationship do all that stuff to me o_O

[aybaybay007]

hmm i can see him in the future.
old and lonley.
with a pet talking parrot that only knows how to say "shut up!"

[IamRad]

should i talk to him about this? he actually said he wanted to talk to me in person about this...just that he avoids me. ha

[TiffanyFactorial]

you might want to just drop it all together. he doesn't deserve your time. dont waste time on him unless you really want to keep him as a friend. then i suggest you talk to him. but if he doesnt try, then you shouldn't have to either.

[Glamourouz]

Sure, talking about it won't hurt...I say go on and listen to him but also tell him what's on your mind about the situation as well, don't just let him do all of the talking...

[Sandraaa]

So? What happened when you talked to him?

[IamRad]

ah yes! well, when he was shutting me down, he mentioned that he couldnt see himself having a GOOD conversation with me, which is total bull cause ive tried many times, hes just not responsive. so when we talked, i basically talked the whole time to get my words out there, and he just nodded and said yeah, i know, yeah.

Well, he was really closed up and stuff, kinda shy seeming ya know? he said something about how he wished he did like me cause it'd be a good thing for him, but he just doesnt.
I shouldve questioned that, poop.

Uhhh, then i asked him why he held my hand in the limo and why he kissed me back and whatnot, and he said that he just got caught up and wasnt thinking about anything but a good time. He said sorry, and he said he understands if i was mad at him, i just told him im not the type of person to hold a grudge against someone, and he said oh well i guess thats a good thing for me. I even told him i HATE awkward situations such as avoidance in the hallways, and he understood that, so now he notices me in the halls and says hi ha...


Oh! and he said something about how he didnt want a relationship to come between him and his frieds, hahaha...and before he said this i told him that im not trying to get him to like me or anything but its just the fact that he doesnt even know me, and he just judged me based on what he knows, which isnt much. After he said that friends bit, i told him he cant base his life upon someone elses cause thats just stupid and things never work out that way.

Now i dont know WHY, but i keep thinking about him and i DONT want to :[ It actually annoys the hell out of me, which is sad cause im annoying myself now :[

[rockable]

What an f**kbrain. He had no right to lead you on like that! Jesus!
He sounds like an ass to me.
Your just gonna have to move on hun, and try and work your way around him. As you said, its annoying that you cant get him out of your head, and it will be hard, but you can do it. :)

[imnoxonesmemory]

a-hole 101
shame. guys like this really suck.
he's a prick and doesn't deserve you , or anyone for that matter.
goodluck.

try slapping him in the face or kicking him in the balls next time :D

[vintage-toile]

he seems like a really unfair guy.
and everyone does the whole can't stop thinking about >> don't want to stop thinking about but secretly do >> stops thinking about..and just as they stop start again thing. that's natural.
over time it will all get sorted and you'll probably meet someone new, and a lot better.
just stay friends longer with a guy and don't let anything happen until youre really, really sure

[datass]

you two probably just had awesome chemistry --it doesn't have to mean you like each other either for that kind of connection.

yeah.

oh well, guy doesn't look you then.

and seriously, kicking him in the ball because he so called lead you on? maybe you were just thinking too much.