Love Square...?, This situation is really fcked up... Options

[vietbabiiix3]

Well my recent boyfriend of 1 year and 3 months had broken up with me... Our relationship was perfect, and I couldn't find a reason why he broke up with me. He kept hiding things from me, and supposedly said "I don't understand him." He's my first love... and I was heartbroken and so confused... I couldn't find a reason why he broke up with me. He acted like a jerk too, but I couldn't understand because he had changed so much. I became so depressed... so lonely... and I just had no one to turn to... Then one day, his "ex" best friend (like they don't hang out nomore ever since I became his gf) started to talk to me. And I told him all about how my relationship had ended. I just needed a friend to talk to, and I hope that him being my bf's best friend, he would know my situation better. And he was already in a relationship of two years and they were still strong... Yet... we kept on talking, more and more... and we both were so happy to talk to each other. And he seemed as if he was bored of his current girlfriend. And he didn't call her one day because he was talking to me all day so she broke up with him..

I don't know.. at first.. I wanted to like flirt wtih him to get revenge on my ex-bf. Which was foolish.. cuz his best friend was starting to really like me... And he admitted his feelings for me. And he was so nice.. I guess I liked him too... I don't know though... and his ex girlfriend is like stalker creepy.. And after liking each other, we both felt it was wrong... I felt like the third person in this... so we decided to be "just friends"... But he didn't treat me as his friend.. He treat me as more than that.. yet he still loves his ex-gf.. And now.. his ex-gf knows about us. And soon my ex will know too... and I'm really scared. I don't want to hurt him.

But like I don't feel I did anything wrong... We were both single, and the fcat that we always thought about my ex and his ex and how we decided to be just friends. But I can't deny the fact that I really like this guy. Yet I'm still torn between whether I like him or I stil love my ex... I'm so ughh.. What do I do now.. Everyone thinks I'm like a slut or something for liking my ex bf's best friend.... -_-'

[Insurmountable]

I think the biggest reason why you both like each other is because when you were in a time of need for someone to be there to console you or whatever, he was there for you to talk to him.

I think before you guys ever decide to do anything, like pursue in a relationship of any sort. You both need to get over your ex's. You both need to talk to your exs and get everything squared away and make sure everything is settled with them, and that they are ready to move on.

I think if you both are so quick to move on or even the thought of it, then I don't think you guys were strongly in love with your ex's. Also I think the guy that you likes ex girlfriend is completely stupid, I mean by the way you talked about her. She broke up with the guy, because he didn't call her? Thats ridiculous.

[tokyo-rose]

I think both of you are treating each other as rebound crushes (even though your ex's best friend didn't break up with his girlfriend). You're sensitive and needed someone to talk to, and since he helped you, now you think you like him. This is a common thing that happens. I'm pretty sure that if you hadn't broken up recently, you wouldn't feel this way about your ex's best friend.

[Glamourouz]

You are not a slut...this is similar to the whole emotional cheating topic...but you two were there for each other...he needed someone to listen & fill the void his girlfriend wasn't and you needed to be consoled & needed someone to help you understand what went wrong with your b/f...it is very common, if you constantly talk to someone or there for someone, sometimes mixed emotions start to develop which could lead you to think you really like that person but you really don't...you still love your ex & so does he...

[aaayotiffany]

I think the biggest reason why you both like each other is because when you were in a time of need for someone to be there to console you or whatever, he was there for you to talk to him.

she's right. its kind of the rebound effect.
but don't deny your feelings for each other. don't go ahead into another relationship so quick either. its only going to end up as bad news. you still love your ex but you do have feelings for this guy. and you're not a slut because you guys just talked a lot, its not like you guys did anything that would cross that line. this is kind of like that emotional cheating thing, just like glamourouz said.