how do keep yourself from getting emotionally attached? |
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 Apr 27 2008, 03:07 PM
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I was wondering how u keep yourself from getting emotionally attached to your gf/bf?
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Apr 27 2008, 03:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
I don't 'keep' myself from getting attached, I was born like that. In your case (of which I have no idea), how about dating other people?
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Apr 27 2008, 03:13 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Uhh... I thought that was kinda the point of having girlfriend or boyfriend...
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Apr 27 2008, 03:22 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
im saying prevent yourself from getting emotionally attached in order to keep yourself from getting hurt and things like that.
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Apr 27 2008, 03:27 PM
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well if you're trying to deep yourself from getting hurt, then there isn't really a point of a relationship you know? [not being mean] but relationships are based on trust and if you don't trust your bf/gf and think they'll hurt you then maybe you shouldn't be together and get to know eachother better
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Apr 27 2008, 03:31 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
yeah i understand. I was just curious because I was talking to my ex-girlfriend and I asked her after our 6 month relationship how she got over me in like less than a month...and she said that she kept herself from getting emotionally attached and that she said that she does that with all her boyfriends. HOWEVER, that is not true because I know she got hurt whenever I did something behind her back.
I'm just so very confused |
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Apr 27 2008, 04:28 PM
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QUOTE well if you're trying to deep yourself from getting hurt, then there isn't really a point of a relationship you know? [not being mean] but relationships are based on trust and if you don't trust your bf/gf and think they'll hurt you then maybe you shouldn't be together and get to know eachother better i agree completely. the whole idea of being in a relationship is having someone you are emotionally attached to. you trust that they like you and vice versa. anything without those feelings is not really a relationship as such. your ex-girlfriend can't be getting much out of her relationships in my opinion. if shes not getting love and trust and emotional fulfillment, what is she getting from a relationship? |
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Apr 27 2008, 04:42 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
I think when she said "not emotionally attached" she wasn't correct because I know she trusted me because I did some things to hurt her a couple times which implies trust.
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Apr 27 2008, 04:46 PM
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Then your girlfriend has a serious trust issue and because of what you've done to her in the past, she's keeping her distance now.
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Apr 27 2008, 04:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
This emotionally unattached thing isn't just with me it's been with past people as well..I just don't understand this idiotic girl.
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Apr 27 2008, 04:57 PM
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Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
She's probably just protecting herself. Calling her an 'idiotic girl' isn't the way forward to developing an understanding and accepting relationship. She's been hurt in the past, she's obviously scared of committing to someone else now; and going by your attitude there's not really a why in it.
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Apr 27 2008, 05:03 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
I think that is the reason...hmmm, i dunno y i never thought about that.
Thanks S-Majere |
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Apr 27 2008, 05:08 PM
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Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Ah, you've got to think about these things from a sentimental POV. Girls are sensitive creatures, so be patient and understanding.
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Apr 27 2008, 05:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
there is nothing to be patient for anymore :O cuz we broke up about 2 weeks ago..I am just trying to put all the pieces of the puzzle together lol
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Apr 27 2008, 05:11 PM
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Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
OIC, well use that nugget for future reference, huh?
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Apr 27 2008, 05:15 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
yup haha. Also, it's just been really bothering me these past couple of weeks and I really wanted to know what the heck was going on lol
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Apr 27 2008, 05:17 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Are you Armenian?
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Apr 27 2008, 05:43 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
yes lol. Why?
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Apr 28 2008, 11:10 AM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Because of the 'ian' at the end of your name. LOL!
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Apr 29 2008, 11:12 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
:P
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Apr 29 2008, 11:15 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 734 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 278,251 |
I can't.. the longer I'm with the person the more attached I get. That's just how I am. I'm like that with other people besides a BF too.
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May 1 2008, 12:41 AM
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 The Illustrious Mari C. Group: Member Posts: 586 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 26,671 |
I don't; if I didn't want to be attatched emotionally then we wouldn't be dating esp. with him being in the navy...I'm in love with him so I'm definitely attatched
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May 1 2008, 12:52 AM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
Don't talk to him/her.
Do you intend on having any emotional intimacy at all? |
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May 1 2008, 04:19 AM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
I would say to keep someone from being emotionally attached to someone is by not telling them how you really feel about things. Just give them a one liner about everything and not just giving them your full opinion. Then you keep a good distance so they do know some about you so you get to stay with them but yet keep yourself emotionally de-attached.
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May 1 2008, 06:18 AM
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 Why are we racing to be so old? Group: Member Posts: 46 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 645,077 |
I think if you're looking for a relationship where you aren't emotionally attached then you should probably look up the term "friends with bennefits"
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