my best friend is his best friend., what to do??? |
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 Apr 26 2008, 08:35 PM
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 na-nancy  Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179  |
so yeah, my very best friend is also my boyfriend's best friend as well.
and lately, they've been hanging out together and it's nice to see them to. i don't get jealous, but i just wonder sometimes... like he doesn't laugh that way with me like he does to her. and i always wonder..'what if he ever leaves me for her?' =( or i never have that much fun with him like they do. =( i know, i'm being very pessimistic. =( but whenever i'm with the two of them, sometimes i feel left out when they're talking or joking around...i really do. It's like sometimes i feel isolated from them. he's a great guy, like even when i'm with them he always checks with me and asks me everytime, "are you okay?" or give a little shrug or notice that he knows i'm there =) i never told anyone or them my feeling. but yeah, of course best friends spend times together too, i definitely understand. they're like brother and sister best friends and i definitely have no probelm with that. before dating him he was kinda like that to me too (we were friends since freshmen year - now sophmores) yeah, but i don't know..i just think and feel like this sometimes... any advice??? |
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Apr 26 2008, 08:38 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
3sum.
 
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Apr 26 2008, 08:40 PM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
^ WOW tung she is freakin 15 that would be weridd...hahaha
Do be paranoid about that situation...I wasn't that's how I lost my first bf. f**k best friends they just want to get to your bf. Just don't yell at him for nothing just subtly try to make him not like her |
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Apr 26 2008, 08:44 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
QUOTE(aimeesayswhat @ Apr 26 2008, 07:40 PM)  ^ WOW tung she is freakin 15 that would be weridd...hahaha Do be paranoid about that situation...I wasn't that's how I lost my first bf. f**k best friends they just want to get to your bf. Just don't yell at him for nothing just subtly try to make him not like her lmao. ^ but i love her too much to do that! she's like a sister to me! how can i do that to her, i just can't - not even a thought a doing that. i think i'll just try to not be too paranoid about this. even though sometimes i think too much and it starts to hurt me. |
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Apr 26 2008, 08:47 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
^ Good luck doing that.
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Apr 26 2008, 09:17 PM
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here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
QUOTE(na-nancy @ Apr 26 2008, 09:44 PM) lmao. ^ but i love her too much to do that! she's like a sister to me! how can i do that to her, i just can't - not even a thought a doing that. i think i'll just try to not be too paranoid about this. even though sometimes i think too much and it starts to hurt me. Choose Boyfriend or Best Friend My thing is Boyfriend < Best Friend |
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Apr 26 2008, 09:33 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
that's complicated.
and difficult...=( |
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Apr 26 2008, 09:48 PM
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here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
^ life is full of choices and all but hey one would get hurt in the long run and you don't want that to be you.
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Apr 26 2008, 09:58 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
i don't think i can do that. =(
life is full of choices. and i don't want to lose them both, just yet. |
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Apr 26 2008, 10:09 PM
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 <3<3<3<3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,177 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,779 |
Since you guys are best friends, all three of you I think its just all in your mind.
i just say just have a mature conversation with him. Tell him whats up, even if this is something small, it can be become something really complicated later on. He might get mad that you're thinking like that but as long as you get your question answered you won't think like that anymore right? goodl luck! |
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Apr 26 2008, 10:10 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
I think you need to talk to your boyfriend about it. Even if there's nothing going on, it's not right for you to be feeling this down and uncomfortable about it. They're your two closest friends, so they have to understand how you feel.
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Apr 26 2008, 10:34 PM
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 The Illustrious Mari C. Group: Member Posts: 586 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 26,671 |
Yea, I agree with the two that said you should talk to them both about it; I'd talk to the boyfriend first if not both of them together. Whenever you feel something you should let the people/person it involves know so you can at least get the answers you need & be happy...paranoid or not, talk about it...friends can be triflin & so can boyfriends so can never be too sure
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Apr 27 2008, 11:51 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 114 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,863 |
ditch the bf bcuz your just gonna get hurt in the end. Your best friend will always be there but not your bf.
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Apr 27 2008, 12:17 PM
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QUOTE(Tungster @ Apr 26 2008, 06:38 PM) 3sum. ROFLMAO  |
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Apr 27 2008, 12:29 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
i think i might just do that.
but i'm just not so sure how to. like where to start off when telling them how i feel. =( |
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Apr 27 2008, 12:34 PM
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QUOTE(na-nancy @ Apr 27 2008, 10:29 AM) i think i might just do that. but i'm just not so sure how to. like where to start off when telling them how i feel. =( Say, "Hey, I feel somewhat uncomfortable about how close you and whatever her name is are getting. I feel left out sometimes and worry that you might be more into her than me." |
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Apr 27 2008, 01:14 PM
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 Sing to Me Group: Member Posts: 1,825 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,808 |
^ I agree talk to BOTH your best friend and boyfriend. If you only talk to one, the other might feel awkward or out of the loop = hurt.
The thing about doubt is that the more you nurture it and think about it, the bigger it grows. You're not going to get over it any time soon because that see of doubt is already there. It's only going to get worse because you're nitpicking at every thing they do. You're going to turn something into nothing by doing that. You need to address it and communicate it with your best friend and boyfriend. |
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Apr 28 2008, 04:21 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
im not so sure anymore.
im wanting to tell him, but not so sure about my best friend. =( i don't even know anymore. i thought i'd forget about it..but it struck me again..today. |
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Apr 28 2008, 04:43 PM
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 i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
I had that same situation. And now he's with her. He being the boyfriend, and her being my best friend. C:
Hope that was comforting. |
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Apr 29 2008, 07:17 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
awwwwwwwwwwwwwww T T
no, i'm sorry. that wasn't comforting..=( but...i think we'll work it out. lately, i've been more open with him. and he can see that somethings wrong, but i'm just not telling him (he says i've been looking down lately) but i'll tell him soon enough, i think tomorrow. we'll work it out somehow. i know he isn't like that. at least i hope so. wish me luck. |
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Apr 30 2008, 07:26 PM
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i'll fvck you til you luv me fagget Group: Official Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 428,884 |
Well, lucky you.
Saw them kiss yesterday. It was uncomfortable for me, especially when right after they kissed, he stared at me. 
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May 2 2008, 04:45 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
i'm definitely feeling better.
he kissed me on the cheek yesterday...(what a wet one..XP) i felt very reassured...but yeahhh. it's still there, just not as much |
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