Oral Sex? Is it wrong for me to not give head? Options

[SAMANTHAfamous]

In my personal opinion, I really don't want to give head/oral sex to ANY guy. I think it's disgusting but no offense to other girls who do it. I just don't like, I don't want to do it, and i've been with my boyfriend for 10 months already and we've talked about this. He said he understands me and that he respects me far too much to ever let me do that. But some people and "friends" pressure me to do it. And just the other day this guy told me "All girls will blow a guy. You'll do it someday." It made me feel really uncomfortable and the thought of myself ever doing it is even more uncomfortable. I don't know what to do. I just don't like and I also want to know if there's older girls out there from ages 19 and up to tell me if they don't like it either. I need to know if i'm alone on this.

[misoshiru]

if you don't want to, then don't.

[Tung]

don't blow him if you don't want to. simple as that.

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Its not wrong, but its not right either.

Its all about personal preference. If you like to blow, you like to blow. If you like celibacy, thats your choice.

[superstitious]

if you don't want to, then don't.

don't blow him if you don't want to. simple as that.

Exactly.

See, that little thing called choice? Use it. It's all yours. ;)

[karmakiller]

Well, since your boyfriend is okay with you not wanting to do it than don't let what anyone else says bother you. Your sex life is your own personal business and it shouldn't matter to any friend of yours whether you do or do not do it.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

I see that. But some people tell me "Ya know. Your still young and you don't know what you want." And it bothers me that nobody really understands.

[AimeeLynn]

well just don't give head...

Well I didn't like it at first but it's ok now I guess. For me it's doing a favor for the guy.

[*paperplane*]

I see that. But some people tell me "Ya know. Your still young and you don't know what you want." And it bothers me that nobody really understands.

Well...you know what you want right now. That's what counts. Who cares whether your opinion may change in the future.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

well just don't give head...

Well I didn't like it at first but it's ok now I guess. For me it's doing a favor for the guy.

Favor or not, I don't believe in doing it to prove you love him. That's what many people say. "If you love a guy you'll blow him. If you don't want to do it your stupid." Wtf???

I agree what many of you say about not doing it because it's MY decision and MY body. And i'm happy I found someone who understands me and isn't like other people. He' s saying he's NOT going to let me do it. And I know that's my answer. But how do I get rid of the peer pressure? I suck in too many lies and it gets in my head and I hate that dreadful feeling. I want to know if there's other girls out there mature and older than me that agree so I can prove them wrong.

I'm 14 1/2 by the way and I know I still have growing up to do. SOME girls think it's disgusting and then they change their mind later on. But do some girls keep their word and not do it? I have this strong feeling that even when i'm married, I still won't do it.

[karmakiller]

Honestly, I think you're smart for not doing anything like that, esspecially at you're age. You're mature and above all, you've stuck to what you believe in. I'm not too sure how you feel pressure from your friends, but I remember when I was your age and girls were doing things like that. I wasn't. And now that years have passed, a lot of them regret some of the things they've done. You seem very mature and very aware of yourself. You've found a guy who isn't pressuring you... I think it would be harder for you if he was the source of this pressure. Just stick to your guns, and never be ashamed of what you believe and what you haven't done.

[Joss-eh-lime]

don't let your friends pressure you.
make a choice and stick with it, all the way.

[tilaaaaa]

what's the whole point in pleasuring a guy by doing something you don't like doing or aren't comfortable with it? i know your boyfriend isn't like that and he doesn't want you to which is good for the both of you. but think about it. what do you have to worry about? if he doesn't want it and you don't want it, isn't that your answer then? some girls do it cuz they love it, others do it to please their man. but there's other ways to please a guy then just sucking that part...

ALOT of guys don't wanna go down on a girl cuz that's where girls have their periods and pee from.

shouldn't guys understand that girls feel the same way?

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Honestly, I think you're smart for not doing anything like that, esspecially at you're age. You're mature and above all, you've stuck to what you believe in. I'm not too sure how you feel pressure from your friends, but I remember when I was your age and girls were doing things like that. I wasn't. And now that years have passed, a lot of them regret some of the things they've done. You seem very mature and very aware of yourself. You've found a guy who isn't pressuring you... I think it would be harder for you if he was the source of this pressure. Just stick to your guns, and never be ashamed of what you believe and what you haven't done.

I know someone understands me and believes in what I say. Thank you.

[Tung]

removed.

[tilaaaaa]

removed.

that was unnessasary.

[EddieV]

Do it. Or else he'll break up with you.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Do it. Or else he'll break up with you.

blech

[tilaaaaa]

Do it. Or else he'll break up with you.

If you like it so much why dont you do it?

[tilaaaaa]

Favor or not, I don't believe in doing it to prove you love him. That's what many people say. "If you love a guy you'll blow him. If you don't want to do it your stupid." Wtf??

That guy is stupid. He'll never fall in love with a girl because all he'll want to do is have sex, sex, sex and more sex. Geez, tell him to get with a whore, one that will blow him all night. Tell it to him straight up that he's immature and stupid for thinking that. Let's see what he feels.

Like you said once, if not all guys respect girls. They can at lease respect their morals. >:(

And if he starts talking more mess and pressuring you again, tell him to grow a dick and shove something in his mouth. Let's see how much he'll enjoy that.

[Tung]

that was unnessasary.

Whoa, is that your picture in your profile there.

[tilaaaaa]

Whoa, is that your picture in your profile there.

Yessir.

[Tung]

Yessir.

You're smoking hot.

[tilaaaaa]

You're smoking hot.

Well I do model. I'm not that attractive in my point of view. I think Samantha is way prettier than me. Then again, most girls have their low self-esteem.

[Tung]

I just saw Samantha's picture and she is pretty cute, but I won't go any further, since I just notice she's only 14.

Oh yeah? Where do you model at?

[tilaaaaa]

I model for Preen Magazine. Unfortunately, they haven't put in my pictures yet, so you won't see me on there anytime soon.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

I just saw Samantha's picture and she is pretty cute, but I won't go any further, since I just notice she's only 14.

Oh yeah? Where do you model at?

Be completely honest. I don't mind, i've had a 26 year old hit on me. Can't get any worst than that.

[Tung]

What do you mean when you say be completely honest. I'm 19 btw.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

What do you mean when you say be completely honest. I'm 19 btw.

Are you sure i'm just cute?
And I know, but i'm not trying to get anyone on here to hook up with me so I don't really care I just want people's honest opinions on me and the way I look. =/

I think i'm flat out FUGLY.

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

It is a mandatory requirement that my girl stick my dick in her mouth or else she isn't worthy of my presence. She is deemed unfuckwithable and thus she doesn't deserve to breathe the same air I breathe within a certain radius. *Dusts off prada shoes*

[tilaaaaa]

It is a mandatory requirement that my girl stick my dick in her mouth or else she isn't worthy of my presence. She is deemed unfuckwithable and thus she doesn't deserve to breathe the same air I breathe within a certain radius. *Dusts off prada shoes*

OMG you have prada shoes?! Sweet!

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

OMG you have prada shoes?! Sweet!

Yeah, I got them for cheap too.

[Tung]

Are you sure i'm just cute?
And I know, but i'm not trying to get anyone on here to hook up with me so I don't really care I just want people's honest opinions on me and the way I look. =/

I think i'm flat out FUGLY.

Yeah, you're cute, but that's all I can say, since your pic is hard to determine, since it's a myspace angled pic so hard to tell. Honest opinion from the pic I see, is that you got a good set of racks there. I need to see another pic to make further comments.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Yeah, you're cute, but that's all I can say, since your pic is hard to determine, since it's a myspace angled pic so hard to tell. Honest opinion from the pic I see, is that you got a good set of racks there. I need to see another pic to make further comments.

Haha. Well thanks.

[tilaaaaa]

Yeah, I got them for cheap too.

Hook me up with some.

[Castaway]

Yeah, you're cute, but that's all I can say, since your pic is hard to determine, since it's a myspace angled pic so hard to tell. Honest opinion from the pic I see, is that you got a good set of racks there. I need to see another pic to make further comments.

Pedophile!!!! hahah jk tung

Do you not need to give oral sex if you don't want to. Forget the others, they're stupid.

Samantha, from that picture, i think you look pretty.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Pedophile!!!! hahah jk tung

Do you not need to give oral sex if you don't want to. Forget the others, they're stupid.

Samantha, from that picture, i think you look pretty.

Thank you for both of your opinions.

[Tung]

Damn see Samantha. Because you wanted my honest opinion, when I said I won't say any further, now Castaway is saying I'm a pedo rofl.

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

Hook me up with some.

LOL but whats in this for me?

[Tung]

LOL but whats in this for me?

Maybe fellatio?

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

Maybe fellatio?

[S-Majere]

You're not alone - there are a lot of girls that draw the line at oral sex. Some girls think it's demeaning, others simply don't like any aspect of it - the great thing is that you have a choice so no worries. Oral sex is something very intimate and you may find your opinion changes as you begin to explore your sexuality.

[Sprague]

I also agree that its your ultimate decision to make. As for the peer pressure, it will always be there. Just try to let it not get to you. If your friends know your viewpoint on the situation of not wanting to blow a guy for shits and giggles, then they should be friends and not push it on to you. Like S Majere said, a lot of girls find oral sex demeaning. You aren't alone. I respect you for your decision, especially at such a young age.

And here I am being cliche and following the crowd -- you're very pretty ^^

[SAMANTHAfamous]

don't let your friends pressure you.
make a choice and stick with it, all the way.

I like this answer too.
Few little words make a big difference.

[*paperplane*]

Maybe fellatio?

http://video.aol.com/video-detail/colonel-...home/1006723244

"Colonel Angus, the pleasure is all mine."

[Amaranthus]

FU_CKINGSKANKWHORESLUT HOW DARE YOU NOT BLOW HIM!


But seriously though, I don't think they'll say anything like that if you don't.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

FU_CKINGSKANKWHORESLUT HOW DARE YOU NOT BLOW HIM!
But seriously though, I don't think they'll say anything like that if you don't.

Some guys will...but not mine. He insisted I not do it.

[Tung]

Requesting pix of Samantha.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Requesting pix of Samantha.

You want pics of me?

[Tung]

that's what I requested right?

[Elba]

Does he give you head?

[SAMANTHAfamous]

that's what I requested right?

lol. Well do you have a MySpace? Most of them are there.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Does he give you head?

I'm guessing your meaning "going down on me". Well he said he would. As long as i'm comfortable with it.

[Tung]

yes add me on my myspace.

myspace.com/tungtwista

[Elba]

Well, when he starts going down on you, anticipate that he'll probably expect you to return the favor.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Well, when he starts going down on you, anticipate that he'll probably expect you to return the favor.

But I just said he doesn't want me to do it. =/ Read my previous posts.

He doesn't expect me to do it because he respects me far too much for me to do that.

[Melissa]

Iuno, you might end up liking it. A lot of girls go from hating the concept to actually really liking it. It's fine that you don't want to at this point and never, ever let anyone pressure you into doing it.

[Tung]

thanks for the add. and wtf. your boyfriend looks like a 10 year old. sorry dump his ass. i'm sure his dick is smaller than a toothpick. you need a real man (me) if you dont want to be an oral virgin anymore.

[Elba]

LMAO, Tung.

Well, to be honest, I think it's selfish that you'll let him do it to you but you refuse to do it to him.

[tilaaaaa]

thanks for the add. and wtf. your boyfriend looks like a 10 year old. sorry dump his ass. i'm sure his dick is smaller than a toothpick. you need a real man (me) if you dont want to be an oral virgin anymore.

Do you really mean that?

[Tung]

Do you really mean that?

yes.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

LMAO, Tung.

Well, to be honest, I think it's selfish that you'll let him do it to you but you refuse to do it to him.

I don't have a problem with him doing it or not doing it. It's HIS decision not mine. I'm not being selfish because I never asked him to do it.

[tilaaaaa]

yes.

That's not cool dude, the girl was simply asking for advive not negative opinions about the only guy that understands her more than anybody else.

[tilaaaaa]

Are ya'll in a clique or something? Because I notice you all have the same avatar.

Or are you guys the same people?

[Tung]

That's not cool dude, the girl was simply asking for advive not negative opinions about the only guy that understands her more than anybody else.

I wasn't trying to be mean here. Just saying, her bf looks 10 years old, and you guys probably shouldn't even be talking about oral sex yet wtf. Save that when you guys grow up and mature a little more, then yeah.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

That's not cool dude, the girl was simply asking for advive not negative opinions about the only guy that understands her more than anybody else.

To be honest, I don't care about peoples negative opinions about him or myself. Or both for that matter. They've never met him, they don't know who he is or what he's like. It doesn't concern me that anybody would say that. Especially people over the internet.

[tilaaaaa]

I wasn't trying to be mean here. Just saying, her bf looks 10 years old, and you guys probably shouldn't even be talking about oral sex yet wtf. Save that when you guys grow up and mature a little more, then yeah.

I wasn't being mean either so calm yourself Tung. Although, you can't judge what you see in pixels.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

Iuno, you might end up liking it. A lot of girls go from hating the concept to actually really liking it. It's fine that you don't want to at this point and never, ever let anyone pressure you into doing it.

I know that, but believe it or not there are girls out there that stick to what they say and don't do it. Maybe try it, but after that if they don't like they don't like it.

[Tung]

true true Tila. Lol, sorry for the misunderstanding guys. and yes, don't take what I say seriously lol. i joke mostly all the time, so yeah. besides i'm just some online person haha.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

true true Tila. Lol, sorry for the misunderstanding guys. and yes, don't take what I say seriously lol. i joke mostly all the time, so yeah. besides i'm just some online person haha.

Don't worry about it. I'm a cool person.

[Elba]

How old are you?

[SAMANTHAfamous]

How old are you?

I'm 14 1/2.

But alot of people say i'm mature for my age.

[Elba]

You have 69 posts. It's a sign

You're really young. Perhaps when you're a little older, you'll be more open to the idea of oral sex (I don't mean for that to sound condescending or anything). How long have oyu been with your boyfriend and how long have you two been having sex? It took me a long time to finally agree to do the whole oral sex thing with my ex. I had to get over fearing it would be uncomfortable.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

You have 69 posts. It's a sign

You're really young. Perhaps when you're a little older, you'll be more open to the idea of oral sex. How long have oyu been with your boyfriend and how long have you two been having sex? It took me a long time to finally agree to do the whole oral sex thing with my ex. I had to get over fearing it would be uncomfortable.

OMG SHUT UP!!!

That's not cool mann! lol. jk
Well we've been together for 10 months, but it's not really a fear of being uncomfortable. It's just the fear of degrading myself and more.

But neither of us want that (me giving him head).

There are few guys out there that don't want girls to give them oral sex. Maybe he's one of them, you never know.

But like I said before, this whole controversy began with "Peer Pressure", not because he wants me to do it or we're too young for this. It's a whole matter of choice. But alas am I wrong for this choice? Oral sex isn't me. It doesn't fit with who I am and it's not for me. Even if I did do it, there's no joy for me OR him. If that makes any sense.

[Tung]

It's just the fear of degrading myself and more.

If you think having oral sex is degrading, then maybe your intentions for doing it is wrong. You aren't ready for it clearly. Once you learn that oral sex is a mutual feeling and the act of love for one another, and not a degrading thing to do, then sorry, you aren't ready.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

If you think having oral sex is degrading, then maybe your intentions for doing it is wrong. You aren't ready for it clearly. Once you learn that oral sex is a mutual feeling and the act of love for one another, and not a degrading thing to do, then sorry, you aren't ready.

Well to me, people are entitled to their own opinions. I know it's a mutual feeling and alot of couples do it because they love each other. But me being abnormal and all...I won't say i'll never do it, but I wouldn't like to do it because I love him. It sounds weird, yes I know but that's the way I feel. It's hard for someone to tell me likewise.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

If you think having oral sex is degrading, then maybe your intentions for doing it is wrong.

I point that out to myself only. Not other girls.

Like I said, it's not me. That's why I said it might be degrading.

[Tung]

Well to me, people are entitled to their own opinions. I know it's a mutual feeling and alot of couples do it because they love each other. But me being abnormal and all...I won't say i'll never do it, but I wouldn't like to do it because I love him. It sounds weird, yes I know but that's the way I feel. It's hard for someone to tell me likewise.

I know what you are saying. I've never asked any of my ex to ever have oral sex with me. I've never eatin' a girl, and I've never received head. To me, I just don't like it, and it's a choice. So I know where you are coming from. Trust me. It's understandable.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

I know what you are saying. I've never asked any of my ex to ever have oral sex with me. I've never eatin' a girl, and I've never received head. To me, I just don't like it, and it's a choice. So I know where you are coming from. Trust me. It's understandable.

So you think eating a girl out is gross? Well that's how I feel about head.

Well at least you know where i'm coming from.

Don't most guys think it's gross that going down on a girl is nasty?

[Elba]

What, Tung? You've never had oral?

Actually, I was watching Tyra today, and most men in the audience enjoyed going down on their girls.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

What, Tung? You've never had oral?

Actually, I was watching Tyra today, and most men in the audience enjoyed going down on their girls.

What interesting conversations she has.

Well not most guys and not a majority either.

But little.

[Tung]

Nope Elba, I've said this before in the past lol. I just think it's awkward for my girl to suck me off. But that's just me.

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

It should be a sin for a girl not to give head.

She should lick me like a lollipop. Shawty wanna a thug thug thug.

[Elba]

Damn, but it feels so good when they know what they're doing.

[marielamuneka]

Getting it and giving is good but its your choice some people just dont like it

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

One time I had this girl who was so resistant to suck a dick. I slapped that bitch face with my cock about 5 times. She couldn't resist and obided, every since that first time she had my cock in her mouth its her favorite hobby next to sex itself.

Ssshe lick me like a lollipop. Shawty wanna a thug thug thug, bottles in the club, shawty wanna a hug, you know i like to touch your lovely ladie lumps.

[Reidar]

Wow dude, you're so edgy and cool. I read that and it totally shook my moral comfort level. Please allow twenty minutes for me to assemble an angry mob to storm your house.

[Tung]

Wow dude, you're so edgy and cool. I read that and it totally shook my moral comfort level. Please allow twenty minutes for me to assemble an angry mob to storm your house.

Reidar you turn me on. Immensely.

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

Wow dude, you're so edgy and cool. I read that and it totally shook my moral comfort level. Please allow twenty minutes for me to assemble an angry mob to storm your house.

Don't worry it was morally right. A girl with my dick in her mouth is a good look. There is nothing wrong about that.

That mob ain't ready for me though.

[Glamourouz]

Ssshe lick me like a lollipop. Shawty wanna a thug thug thug, bottles in the club, shawty wanna a hug, you know i like to touch your lovely ladie lumps.

OMG, you've been listening to too much Lil Wayne; but that song has a nice beat...

Anyways, like everyone said some people like it, some people don't...I used to be the same as you until I just became more open to trying new things...just make sure you remain true to yourself, if you don't ever give oral sex, then fine...

[ImDaBestIDidIt]

OMG, you've been listening to too much Lil Wayne; but that song has a nice beat...

I like the version with the electric guitar.

[Luna5]

I don't like giving head. I find it degrading.

[SAMANTHAfamous]

I don't like giving head. I find it degrading.

How old are you though?

[tilaaaaa]

Well me...
I would do it, but I don't want to. =/

[austinoutloud]

Just ignore the peer pressure. To be honest, it's probably not going to go away. It's just one of those things you'll have to learn to live with. Be thankful that you are with a guy that honors your opinion and isn't forcing you in to anything though

[Luna5]

How old are you though?

23

[Sandraaa]

Guys love blowjobs. I really can't tell you not to do it. Sure. Your boyfriend 'understands' for now. I'm sure it won't be long before he changes his mind. I love giving head. But I don't do it all the time. Maybe you should give him some but not often? Bleh.

[fathomlessdame]

Its not wrong. I'm sure the idea of sucking dick is disgusting to some people. I know a friend who thought the whole idea is disgusting until she tried it. But yeah, don't let anyone pressure you into doing it. It has to be your choice.

[Stefanny]

Okay well the cbc people are gonna get on me for this, but here's my confession.

I'm your age, well a little older. I found the thought of sucking a dick disgusting. Until I actually did it. ahahaha umm.. well idk you just get kindof into it. Anywaysss..I guess it really depends on your idea of having something that resembles a really big finger in your mouth. Fact is, if you don't wanna do it, then don't do it. You're not going to be considered anything less in society if you don't do it..

[fathomlessdame]

^my friend was the same way. she would talk on and on about how the whole idea is extremely disgusting. and then she actually did it a couple weeks ago, and she likes it