How could he? Options

[Sprague]

To make a long story short, my boyfriend lied to me. About talking to his ex-girlfriend. He had said that he was over her, and wasn't talking to her anymore, but just last night he called me to tell me he had lied to me, and he was crying because she wasn't talking to him anymore. That, of course, broke a lot of trust and respect I had for him. He's still in love with her. I can't make him change how he feels, but when he said, "I know" to when I asked that, it completely bothered me. He said he still has feelings for me, and doesn't want to lose me, but he didn't want to lie to me anymore. But despite saying that, that still doesn't change the fact that he loves her, or that he keeps talking to her. How is he going to get over her if he keeps talking to her? I'm not sure whether I should stay with him anymore, because this causes a lot of trust issues. And he did it once... who's to say that he won't do it again?

[Melie]

well, it sounds to me like you need to really think whether or not he's worth this. you're still young and you don't need to be tied down by someone that you can't fully trust. i bet there are other good looking guys so let him get over his ex his way and without you.

[vintage-toile]

you really really need to think about this one.
it is most unfair of him to just admit he is in love with his ex girlfriend who clearly does not want to know, and also is in love with you and to hope this means he can stay with you.
is he really worth spending a constant worry about if he loves another girl more than you?

[illriginal]

When are teens gonna realize they're wastin their time messin with relationships?

[AimeeLynn]

Since he still has feelings. Take a break. He needs to get his mind straight and maybe he just wants to be with you just to say he has a girlfriend or not. You never know he just needs to see whether he really likes you or his ex.

Plus you are young you have plenty of time to find the right one.

[vintage-toile]

When are teens gonna realize they're wastin their time messin with relationships?

most teens think this but ignore it in the end. good point though.

[marielamuneka]

he was crying because she wasn't talking to him anymore

tell him to move the f**k on and kick rocks, really if you cant TRUST him like that..then whats the point? really..think about it, and move on.

[illriginal]

most teens think this but ignore it in the end. good point though.

Yeh... they should occupy their minds with education and family values than worrying about relationships

[vintage-toile]

what do most teenagers actually fill their lives with?

i'd say in reply to "they should occupy their minds with education and family values than worrying about relationships"
instead of doing this they go on myspace and post a bulletin about how bad their life is? :D go teenagers.

[Elba]

He can get over his ex, he just needs to give it time. I still had feelings for my ex when I started going out with my current boyfriend, even though my ex and I had broke up a year and a half earlier. Three years later, I am much happier with my current boyfriend. So, I am sure once you two start getting more seirous, he'll eventually get over his ex.

[misoshiru]

by ex, do you mean dani?

[xTINAA]

by ex, do you mean dani?

Most likely.


I'd say if you REALLY like him, wait it out a bit longer to see if anything develops.

[dustbunny]

When are teens gonna realize they're wastin their time messin with relationships?

oh please, teens that can handle relationships can handle them fine, ALONG with your other requests to "occupy their minds with education and family values." there is nothing wrong with "wasting time messing around with relationships" as teenagers. everyone f**ks up at one point in their life, if they even f**k up. not all teenagers are useless idiots basing their so-called relationships on instantaneous infatuation. if the teen is mature or mentally/emotionally capable of having a relationship? why not?

and I'm sorry, besides the fact that her profile shows she's 18, what, in her topic, informs you that she is a "teen?"

of all the relationship topics I've seen around here, this is one of the more mature topics. she understands the situation, but most importantly is approaching this problem as calmly and rationally as she can.

and this sort of problem has nothing to do with whether it's a fucking teen relationship or not. this shit happens in your little oh so exclusively reserved adult relationships as well.

[Tramatize]

When are teens gonna realize they're wastin their time messin with relationships?

This why i don't date...if been f**ked over in just about all of my relationships.

[Tramatize]

and I'm sorry, besides the fact that her profile shows she's 18, what, in her topic, informs you that she is a "teen?"

18 is a teen, why you think on some adult videos it says "teens" or sh!t like that

[dustbunny]

LOL okay, you don't even know what I'm talking about. I wasn't questioning the AGE RANGE OF THE WORD "TEENS" I was asking Tama why he thinks that this girl is a teen. There is nothing in her topic that shouts OMG IM A TEEN.

[Elba]

I would still have feelings for Dani, too.

[xTINAA]

^Me too!

[Tramatize]

LOL okay, you don't even know what I'm talking about. I wasn't questioning the AGE RANGE OF THE WORD "TEENS" I was asking Tama why he thinks that this girl is a teen. There is nothing in her topic that shouts OMG IM A TEEN.

I know, i was just saying that if shes 18 she is a teen, so tama is right about her being a teen

[Tung]

And this is why you don't involve online people into your relationship.

[dustbunny]

no it doesn't look like you know.

Like I said twice for you, I was asking him

why he thinks that this girl is a teen. There is nothing in her topic that shouts OMG IM A TEEN.

[Tung]

uh no it doesn't look like you know.

Like I said twice for you, I was asking him

Because Tama is like 25 years old, and just assumes everyone is a teen on this site.

[Elba]

Tama needs to get his ass out of this teen site. Rico No. Two

[Tramatize]

Alright i give up i don't know lol

Because Tama is like 25 years old, and just assumes everyone is a teen on this site.

Lmao!

[Melissa]

lol, tama probably looked at her profile, which says she's 18.

[dustbunny]

k after I figured out why names are being thrown around, GREAT JOB PEOPPLE for trying to make things as difficult for everyone as possible.

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

I think you guys should just take a break and tell him to gather all of his thoughts and then go from there...it seems like your bf is indecisive heh...and I thought that was a female characteristic :P

[dustbunny]

lol, tama probably looked at her profile, which says she's 18.

and I'm sorry, besides the fact that her profile shows she's 18, what, in her topic, informs you that she is a "teen?"

that was the entire point. he can SEE her age. if there was no way he could see her age, he would NOT have even brought up the teenage relationship shit, because he wouldn't even KNOW that she was a teen.

[Tung]

I think you guys should just take a break and tell him to gather all of his thoughts and then go from there...it seems like your bf is indecisive heh...and I thought that was a female characteristic :P

you're stupid in thinking that men can't be indecisive. give me two choices of two hot equally hot girls with great personality, and I would have a hard time choosing who.

[Heathasm]

i still have feelings for my ex . . . but my bf knows we have history and that we still talk to each other . . .

if this is a ~new~ relationship i would get out of it while i could if you can't trust him not to fool around with his ex if the opportunity presented itself.

[dustbunny]

you're stupid in thinking that men can't be indecisive. give me two choices of two hot equally hot girls with great personality, and I would have a hard time choosing who.

the person isn't stupid in "thinking" that way because they WEREN'T. if you couldn't pick up the cues from that comment I'll spell it out for you. IT WAS A JOKE. A LITTLE QUIRKY COMMENT MEANT FOR AMUSEMENT.

BIG HINT

:P

[Tung]

the person isn't stupid in "thinking" that way because they WEREN'T. if you couldn't pick up the cues from that comment I'll spell it out for you. IT WAS A JOKE. A LITTLE QUIRKY COMMENT MEANT FOR AMUSEMENT.

BIG HINT

hard to tell whether that was a joke or not honestly. the only thing that would left a "i wasn't being serious" was the ":p" at the end of comment.

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

the person isn't stupid in "thinking" that way because they WEREN'T. if you couldn't pick up the cues from that comment I'll spell it out for you. IT WAS A JOKE. A LITTLE QUIRKY COMMENT MEANT FOR AMUSEMENT.

BIG HINT

^^ what he said Jesus Christ calm down and take a joke lol...like I said before take some time off until he clears his mind and go from there..

[libertie]

if the opportunity presented itself.

It won't. Ever again.

[dustbunny]

okay although I hate to go off topic continuously here, I must answer tung.

irl, the " and I thought " is commonly/usually/often said in a sarcastic manner.

[Melissa]

that was the entire point. he can SEE her age. if there was no way he could see her age, he would NOT have even brought up the teenage relationship shit, because he wouldn't even KNOW that she was a teen.

Look. There's no need to get all hyper. Obviously, he saw her age (or assumed she was a teen, given the demography of the cB population in general) and made a comment towards teen relationships. Is there a problem with that? He's entitled to his opinion, as are you and everyone else. Why are you going on and on about an age? Are we not allowed to look at the OP's profile page?

[Tung]

^^ what he said Jesus Christ calm down and take a joke lol...like I said before take some time off until he clears his mind and go from there..

lol it's a she

but yeah, my fault. thought you were being serious there.


as for the situation, like i said. shouldn't let online people get involved in your relationship. they tend to try to f**k it up for you, especially since alot of people here online heavily favor the ex. just saying.

[dustbunny]

hm sorry, I guess I'm getting all hyper because my point doesn't seem to be getting across to people.

I felt that his "advice" was biased/unnecessary and only stemmed from his already biased opinion on teen relationships. there is nothing indicative of a teen relationship situation in the topic to begin with, so his generalization that "teens are wasting their times etc etc" doesn't really have anything to do with this topic.

[Tung]

hm sorry, I guess I'm getting all hyper because my point doesn't seem to be getting across to people.

i actually understand what you're saying. he wouldn't have the same reply as "f**k you, you're a f**ken teen, you're stupid, you don't know anything" it might have been different had he not knew her age.

right? or am i also totally off here.

[iDecay]

Honestly, haven't you realized that he's just never really going to get over her for good? I know she's not going to let him do it again, but I'm pretty sure the feelings are still there and will still remain there. It's not like it's the first time he still has had feelings for her. Julie and I have tried helping before, but obviously nothing works.

Sorry, Keil.

[dustbunny]

i actually understand what you're saying. he wouldn't have the same reply as "f**k you, you're a f**ken teen, you're stupid, you don't know anything" it might have been different had he not knew her age.

right? or am i also totally off here.

you're right on.

[Melissa]

No, I definitely get what you're saying. The topic isn't something typical in a teen relationship so there really shouldn't be a reason why he's giving her a "teen relationship" bullshit lecture, right?

The thing is, when you read a topic, you can take what you read as is or try to put it in context of something. If a 12 or 13 year old told you that her boyfriend's still hung up over his ex-girlfriend and she doesn't know what to do, you'd probably tell him or her to stop worrying about her boyfriend and that she's too young to think about a relationship (well, that's what I would do). If an 18 year old said the same thing, I'd probably tell her to be a little more patient until her boyfriend figures things out or works things through.

I guess Tama's idea of what's acceptable and what's not acceptable for people to be doing at what age is just a little bit different.

[aaayotiffany]

well, if he says he won't do it anymore, do you believe him?
i mean, if you really think he's worth it, you can stay with him but only if he agrees to stops talking to her because he won't get over her if he keeps talking to her.

have you ever thought maybe you rushed into the relationship?

[dustbunny]

Heartquasm: I know and agree for the most part with what you said, I just didn't expect to have to drag along that subject for so long. It was meant for Tama to answer and have that issue resolved quick and easy, but I ended up having to keep saying what I meant over and over again since no one was getting it...

[Melissa]

boo.

tama's just gonna give you an answer that'll just further irritate you.

[dustbunny]

I'M TOO IMPULSIVE FOR MY OWN GOOD I KNOW.

/end off topic

[libertie]

Let me explain something to the people who don't know what's going on.

I am the ex her boyfriend had been talking to. I was lied to in this situation as well and believe me, there is no chance of him ever being involved with me again.

However, being that I am the person on the other side of this story, I can tell you based on what he's said to me in the past, staying with him is not a good idea. Not now, at least. Maybe in the future, but that's a long shot. In fact, I'm almost begging you not to give him another chance if it is requested from you.

Keil.. Kristina, I'm not sure what to call you. I'm sorry. I trusted him, too. I feel awful that this happened and I wish it had gone much differently.

If it makes you feel any better, I am not saying that there's not a chance simply because I'm upset over any of this. I am upset, but the truth is I am over him. 100%. I have moved on. He needs to move on as well.

[Tung]

I have a question. How long have you two been together? If it's just for a few weeks, I say break it off right now, and just talk about it before going any further.

Take the time to address the issue at hand. If he's not over his Dani then you need to give him time to think about what he really wants. As Dani said, no hell will they ever be together.

[Sprague]

Woow. So much publicity. :3

To all of those who are wondering, I figured this out myself, with Jose's help too, of course.

lol it's a she

but yeah, my fault. thought you were being serious there.
as for the situation, like i said. shouldn't let online people get involved in your relationship. they tend to try to f**k it up for you, especially since alot of people here online heavily favor the ex. just saying.

That's okay. I don't really care who any of you favor, as long as I know who the person we're speaking of favors. And I do. ;)

have you ever thought maybe you rushed into the relationship?

I have thought about this quite a lot of times. I know Jose's reasons for rushing into them, and he knows mine, and we've both sorted them out equally.

I have a question. How long have you two been together? If it's just for a few weeks, I say break it off right now, and just talk about it before going any further.

We've been together since him and Dani broke up. Actually, I'm 1/4th the reason they broke up, because he started having feelings for me during their relationship.

Anyways. I've dealt with it, and everything is okay now. :) Thanks for talking to me Dani. Btw, call me Kristina. Only you and Tina know of me as Keil. xP And thank you doiink. xD I'm gonna give Jose a good kick in the balls when he comes over to my house. ^^

[Elba]

Are you proud that you're 1/4 part of the reason they broke up?

[Sprague]

No. If I was "proud", the "proud" thing to do would be to flaunt it. I stated it once. Before you assume I'm some cold hearted bitch, get to know me first.

[superstitious]

I would still have feelings for Dani, too.

^Me too!

Me too.

I'm a bit in shock about all this, to be honest so I'm walking away from this thread RIGHT NOW.

[Joss-eh-lime]

when he says he wont do it again, i dont think you can trust him. but its up to you whether you let him have your trust back right away, or if you make him earn it back.

[Elba]

No. If I was "proud", the "proud" thing to do would be to flaunt it. I stated it once. Before you assume I'm some cold hearted bitch, get to know me first.

Lol, there was no need to get all defensive. I don't think I want to get to know you. I am just saying, if I were partly the reason for some guy leaving his gf for me, I don't think I would state it--unless of course I was proud of it. But that's just me.

Jose is going to just screw you over like he did to the rest.

[Sprague]

Lol, there was no need to get all defensive.

Sorry, had a long day at school. :]

Jose is going to just screw you over like he did to the rest.

I bet.

[Tung]

Do you and Jose see everyday IRL? It might be different this time than with his other ex's though since they were mostly base online.

I have faith in my boi Jose. Although tell him to run once in a while. Dude got freakin fat man.

[Elba]

LMAO.

[Sprague]

Do you and Jose see everyday IRL? It might be different this time than with his other ex's though since they were mostly base online.

I have faith in my boi Jose. Although tell him to run once in a while. Dude got freakin fat man.

Rofl. We see each other 3/7 days a week. He sleeps over at my house on weekends.

[rnicron]

Rofl. We see each other 3/7 days a week. He sleeps over at my house on weekends.

You just said if you were proud, you'd flaunt it. That looks like a pretty big flaunt right there. On top of that, you made a whole thread about it KNOWING that Dani would see it.

No way, Jose.

[misoshiru]

No way, Jose.

[Tung]

Yanlin.

[rnicron]

Why are you laughing at Yanlin?

[Tung]

Spencer

[rnicron]

Tung

[misoshiru]

EPIC FAIL TO THE BOTH OF YOU.

[rnicron]

No, I said what you quoted. That's not failing.

[misoshiru]

So...does jose have a requirement that his girlfriends be part of cb?

[Tung]

So...does jose have a requirement that his girlfriends be part of cb?

PM me Yanlin.

[Just_Dream]

PM me Yanlin.

Do you know what I know? Cause I know something too.


Well what can you do? I remember when Jose sang to me on the phone back 3-4 years ago. And I'd have to say that Dani has an AMAZING voice. Her voice would probably sway me too.

Oh yea? I sleep over at my boyfriend's house 6/7 days a week.
</end gloat>

[Tung]

Do you know what I know? Cause I know something too.

PM me as well.

[misoshiru]

you should sleep over at my place instead.

[Just_Dream]

you should sleep over at my place instead.

Yea so I heard you got a single for next year, huh? The bed would be cozy enough just for me and you (NOT FOR JC), right, my YanYan?

[misoshiru]

of course. just enough space.

[Just_Dream]

of course. just enough space.

Oh, how romantic. Haha are there interesting things to do where you are? :D If so, hey I might visit! I'm serious!

[Sprague]

Tung asked a question, I answered it. That isn't flaunting. He asked if I saw Jose IRL everyday. That's a no. And then I stated how many days I see him a week. If you'd rather me not answer anymore of Tung's questions, by all means I won't. Sorry Tung. :(

Honestly, why would I be proud of 3 days a week. That's nothing.

When I made this topic, I was anonymous. Danielle wouldn't have known it was me unless she put two and two together.

[*paperplane*]

But you couldn't really expect her not to, could you? You knew that she was on there, and even if she hadn't figured it out immediately, she would have at some point.

[superstitious]

You just said if you were proud, you'd flaunt it. That looks like a pretty big flaunt right there. On top of that, you made a whole thread about it KNOWING that Dani would see it.

Not to mention posting a bunch of pictures of you two together both in a thread AND on your profile. Sure, you have every right to but seriously, are you that insensitive? I know that I don't know you and quite frankly, I have no desire to know you. Do you really think people are that stupid to not see that you were ready, eagar and without doubt willing...like a tigress ready to pounce? I have no respect for your kind, sorry. Perhaps in the future, when/if you post around here more. Not that it matters what I think, you don't know me either but I'm stating my opinion regardless.

So while you are intent on conveying the image of your totally unproud stance, I don't believe you. If you had half a brain and half an ounce of compassion, you wouldn't be posting about this, period. I'm glad you have aired your problem. Good for you to get that off your chest.

No way, Jose.

*sniggers*

[Tung]

.....you guys are blowing this whole thing out of proportion..

get off her dick already lol.

[superstitious]

Ok, ok.

*steps off her dick*

I re-read my post and it does sound a bit harsh. I apologize for that, especially since this is none of my business.

Good luck with your situation.

[brooklyneast05]

lol wow

[illriginal]

.....you guys are blowing this whole thing out of proportion..

get off her dick already lol.

Stop posting on old ass threads!!

[misoshiru]

get off her dick already lol.

granted that she has one.

Oh, how romantic. Haha are there interesting things to do where you are? :D If so, hey I might visit! I'm serious!

uh...not really. but we could go to boston. keke.

[rnicron]

Stop posting on old ass threads!!

That has absolutely NOTHING to do with this.

[illriginal]

That has absolutely NOTHING to do with this.

I know

[*paperplane*]

Then why post it?

[shoryuken]

That has absolutely NOTHING to do with this.

I know

Then why post it?

wow.. ppll allwayy spamm n shiet..

[absinthe]

wow.. ppll allwayy spamm n shiet..

another stellar example.

NWJ, f'sho.

[Castaway]

i'm not sure what you should do but it seems like he's really trying to be honest to you.
I don't think he'll do it again because he told you everything and that takes a lot of courage. Then again, some people are just stupid and there's also that chance that he could do it again.

Basically, i don't know for sure if he'll do it again or not but he did tell you what was going on.
hope that helps a little bit. I'm not sure what to say about the main situation, sorry.

[Sandraaa]

OK. This guy is not worth your time. He still loves his ex, not you. Let him go. Give him some space at least.

[Tweeti]

When did he break up with her? If it was recently then time will heal this. If not then think about how much he means to you and if you can forgive him.