Help!, HUGE problem here |
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 Apr 5 2008, 04:48 PM
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My girlfriend says she will kill herself if we break-up. We have been best friends for a long time and we are very close,but... Im very worried. Can someone help?
Im not freaking kidding! |
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Apr 5 2008, 04:56 PM
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ohh dun worrii... fuglyy ppll gittaa diee sumtimee..
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Apr 5 2008, 04:58 PM
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she ain't fugly!
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Apr 5 2008, 04:59 PM
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... hehe.. k.. me talkin bout myy boyfriendd mang... shees..
so wat yaa gonnaa doo doo kidd..? |
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Apr 5 2008, 05:01 PM
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I don't know.
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Apr 5 2008, 05:03 PM
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y shee thnikk u ginnaa breakk upp sexyy..?
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Apr 5 2008, 05:04 PM
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Im not, i have no idea why.
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Apr 5 2008, 05:05 PM
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QUOTE(CODiENE @ Apr 5 2008, 06:04 PM)  Im not, i have no idea why. den tell hur u aint.. wat so hurdd bout dat..? |
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Apr 5 2008, 05:06 PM
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I did, but shes still holding to it. Its hard for me to deal with.
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Apr 5 2008, 05:11 PM
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R.kkelllii hur..
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Apr 5 2008, 05:14 PM
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[Insert something Witty Here] Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,828 |
Hopefully that will work.
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Apr 5 2008, 05:15 PM
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telll mee wat chu ginnaa doo doo?
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Apr 5 2008, 05:19 PM
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[Insert something Witty Here] Group: Member Posts: 363 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,828 |
well.
1. I have to wait until I have a day where I can actually go somewhere, its raining really hard out right now. 2. It doesn't work for her right now. |
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Apr 5 2008, 05:22 PM
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R..kellii da shiett..
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Apr 5 2008, 05:34 PM
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 I just like to smile, smiling's my favorite :-) Group: Official Member Posts: 3,008 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 601,399 |
she is being over-dramatic! she isnt going to kill herself
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Apr 5 2008, 05:36 PM
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well im leaving to take her out cya pplz
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Apr 5 2008, 09:27 PM
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QUOTE(CODiENE @ Apr 5 2008, 06:36 PM) well im leaving to take her out cya pplz com bak n telll mee iff me adviccee workk.. 
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Apr 5 2008, 11:00 PM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
QUOTE(JokeInsideJoke @ Apr 5 2008, 06:34 PM) she is being over-dramatic! she isnt going to kill herself Maybe... and maybe not. How would you know? You don't even know the person. Even if you aren't planning to break up with her, that's a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship. Chances are, you guys are eventually going to break up, and you don't want to take chances with human lives like that. You need to find a professional or a trusted, mature adult you can tell about this situation. Oftentimes, kids on a forum aren't going to cut it for issues like this. |
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Apr 5 2008, 11:09 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
hm... i can't tell you not to take her seriously, but from experience i can tell you that most of the times when a girl (or guy) says this to someone they're in a relationship with, it's either to manipulate them or because they're insecure. either way, i agree that you should tell someone whom you both trust so they can talk to her to see what the problem is.
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Apr 5 2008, 11:10 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(sparrowdust @ Apr 5 2008, 09:00 PM) Maybe... and maybe not. How would you know? You don't even know the person. Even if you aren't planning to break up with her, that's a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship. Chances are, you guys are eventually going to break up, and you don't want to take chances with human lives like that. You need to find a professional or a trusted, mature adult you can tell about this situation. Oftentimes, kids on a forum aren't going to cut it for issues like this. Your post made me giggle Ruth. 
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Apr 5 2008, 11:12 PM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
YOU MAKE ME GIGGLE
/spam I'm being serious though :( |
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Apr 6 2008, 06:02 PM
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shes back to normal again, idk if shes bipolar or something. Its good to have everything back the way it was
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Apr 6 2008, 08:57 PM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
Just because she's "back to normal" doesn't mean she'll stay that way. You can't take chances with something so serious.
People fly in and out of phases all the time, and feelings like this are often recurrent. I know the feeling. |
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Apr 7 2008, 12:57 AM
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I've seen tons of girls go through this phase before, due to insecurity. The best advice I can give you is to reassure her (which seems like a drag to do constantly, but she'd appreciate it) that you won't break up with her, even though it may eventually happen. (keyword = may, don't hate me, haha). A lot of women like constant reassurance, if they aren't too high with their self-esteem. Even I've slipped into those doubtful phases, although I haven't gone quite as far as saying I'd kill myself. You should probably also tell her parents so that they can get help for her if this is a serious issue, place her on meds or even therapy, etc.
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Apr 7 2008, 02:41 AM
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omg i dnt think it's a big deal. juss tell all the adults or somethin. so wat if she ends up with a psychologist or watevr. it's for her own good even though u both myt not like it. better that way then her actually doin it.
idk if she has the guts to do it, but maybe she juss wants all the attention from uu. myt as well tell an adult u trust. |
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Apr 7 2008, 06:20 PM
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sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
QUOTE(Reconditee @ Apr 7 2008, 01:57 AM) I've seen tons of girls go through this phase before, due to insecurity. The best advice I can give you is to reassure her (which seems like a drag to do constantly, but she'd appreciate it) that you won't break up with her, even though it may eventually happen. (keyword = may, don't hate me, haha). A lot of women like constant reassurance, if they aren't too high with their self-esteem. Even I've slipped into those doubtful phases, although I haven't gone quite as far as saying I'd kill myself. You should probably also tell her parents so that they can get help for her if this is a serious issue, place her on meds or even therapy, etc. And after you guys do breakup, then she'll say everything you did was a lie and hold it against you. If she doesn't hold it against you, she'll claim her world fell apart and then kill herself. Am I being blunt? Yes. Cruel? No, I'm saying these things for your good and her good. I'm being this way because I had a pleasant stay in a mental hospital for a decent bit of time where practically everyone there was depressed or insane. Don't say things to people if you're not going to hold to it, period. It's the shittiest thing you can do to someone, and I'm sure most people at some age have become 1000% sure that they've found their soulmate and wanna promise their entire lives away, but that's not how it works, kids. Get her professional help, now. For the record, confidence is attractive. Neediness is not. How awesome is life when your significant other is hanging off your arm all the damn time? It's not fun. |
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Apr 7 2008, 06:24 PM
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QUOTE(CODiENE @ Apr 5 2008, 05:48 PM) My girlfriend says she will kill herself if we break-up. We have been best friends for a long time and we are very close,but... Im very worried. Can someone help? Im not freaking kidding! Uh.. just break up with her, but before you do... you need to tell her parents the threat/ultimatum she expressed. |
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Apr 9 2008, 06:43 AM
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QUOTE(CODiENE @ Apr 6 2008, 07:02 PM) shes back to normal again, idk if shes bipolar or something. Its good to have everything back the way it was aintt u lill bietch.. WUR ME THANKKK YOUU AT HOMMOO!! 
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