In a relationship and liking someone else..., =[ Options

[AimeeLynn]

I like this guy at my work. He is basically my dream guy but bad thing is I'm in a relationship with a guy that is not my type at all. I been having a lot of dreams of this guy at my work and not my bf. I can't dump him because of his b-day coming up this Sunday. The main reason to why I'm with him was because my mom wanted me to go out with him.

Good qualities of the bf:
-he has been good to me for the last 4 months we have been together
-always have dinner dates whenever out
-great personality
-very social
-my mom loves him being with me

Bad qualities of the bf:
-he drinks
-he had smoked weed but doesn't anymore but told me that he would in college
-kind of big
-moody
-pressures me to have sex with him a lot


I really do like him and use to love him.
But I have no idea anymore.

Questions:
Is my dreams trying to tell me something?
Should we take a break after his b-day?
Is it wrong that I like someone else?

[illriginal]

Wow... comparing and contrasting. Well save yourself by breaking up with your boyfriend. Normally when feelings grow for another person, the current mate just doesn't meet expectations. The worst thing you could do is mess around with another guy while in a relationship. So think clearly.

[carolannexbh]

I like this guy at work. He is basically my dream guy but I'm in a relationship with a guy that is not my type at all. I been having dreams of this guy at my work and not my bf at all.
Is my dreams trying to tell me something?

Good qualities of the bf:
-he has been good to me for the last 4 months we have been together
-always have dinner dates whenever out
-great personality
-very social
-my mom loves him being with me

Bad qualities of the bf:
-he drinks
-he had smoked weed but doesn't anymore but told me that he would in college
-kind of big
-moody
-pressures me to have sex with him a lot

I really do like him and use to love him.
But I have no idea anymore.

IMO, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. If he always pressures you to have sex with him, its not healthy. Does your mom know that he pressures you? I think that you should talk to him, if you havent already. And if this were my situation, I couldn't be with someone who wasnt my type. It just wouldnt work out for me. Its great that he has a nice personaliy and that he's social.
Guy at work:
If you really like him, talk to him. I honestly wouldn't do anything about this guy until you settle things with your boyfriend.

[illriginal]

IMO, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. If he always pressures you to have sex with him, its not healthy. Does your mom know that he pressures you? I think that you should talk to him, if you havent already. And if this were my situation, I couldn't be with someone who wasnt my type. It just wouldnt work out for me. Its great that he has a nice personaliy and that he's social.
Guy at work:
If you really like him, talk to him. I honestly wouldn't do anything about this guy until you settle things with your boyfriend.

Yeah but the sad part is... she's only been in the relationship for four months. She shouldn't even have a relationship if she's indecisive in the first place. People should have patience in gettin to know of one another. Instead of seeing how hot they are and how well dressed they are or how much money they have.

[AimeeLynn]

^ really did like him before after getting to know him but then he keep pulling out a freaking condom and different kinds. "This one is good because its has different designs for the girls pleasure" I was like what the f**k?

[carolannexbh]

I can't dump him because of his b-day coming up this Sunday. The main reason to why I'm with him was because my mom wanted me to go out with him.

Wow something new in there. Ok. You shouldnt be with someone just because it pleases your mom. If you're not happy, why should you be in the relationship? So your mom can be happy? Its not fair to you that you should put up with this just so you can please someone else. If you have to, wait til after Sunday.

[illriginal]

^ really did like him before after getting to know him but then he keep pulling out a freaking condom

Then tell him to stop using you as a piece of meat. Bring it to his attention that this relationship is becoming more sexual than it is emotional. If he has a problem with it, leave him and bring it to your mom's attention. Let someone know just in case he's some kinda of sex addict psycho.

[Melie]

what's more important, your happiness or making your mom happy?

[shoryuken]

^ really did like him before after getting to know him but then he keep pulling out a freaking condom and different kinds. "This one is good because its has different designs for the girls pleasure" I was like what the f**k?

!!! o shiet... HAHAHAHAH... kidz 2day so crazzii..

[mizzkewl06]

i know exaclty what you're going through. i was in your situation my junior year. i was with this guy for over one year, and then things started changing and everything was about sex all of a sudden. and i just felt torn because when all of this stared happening i started crushing on another guy. to make a long story short i broke up with my then boyfriend 2 days before his birthday. in the long run it was the best choice for me. i was happy. and thats how you have to see this situation. what makes you happy? what's the best choice for you? just remember, guys will break your heart, and sometimes you'll break their hearts. it's just life.

[tokyo-rose]

-pressures me to have sex with him a lot

That alone should tell you that you either need to have a serious talk or break up with him entirely. It doesn't matter that his birthday is coming up; you have to do what's necessary. And it doesn't matter that your mom wanted you to date him -- she's not the one dating him, you are. If you're not happy, then break up. He and your mom will deal.

[LoveToMySilas]

^ I agree with Cristy.

Regardless of his birthday or not, you should do whats best for you. If this guy is pressuring you to do something that you don't want to do, then drop him like a sack of potatoes. Or you could have a chat with him about his whole sex frenzy and how you don't appreciate it. More or less, its up to what you want not what anyone else does.

[queen]

^ really did like him before after getting to know him but then he keep pulling out a freaking condom and different kinds. "This one is good because its has different designs for the girls pleasure" I was like what the f**k?

LOL, i actually like that about my bf

but uh, you sound not only that you've "fallen out of love", but also that you really don't even like your relationship anymore. you should end it.

[DeviantShadows]

I agree with what everyone else is saying; if you're not happy with the relationship, then end it.

Oooooo, and if my boyfriend EVER tried to pressure me into doing something I didn't want to do, especially sex, I would dump him in a heartbeat. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. If you do stay with him, make sure you had a serious talk about it. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.

[illriginal]

I agree with what everyone else is saying; if you're not happy with the relationship, then end it.

Oooooo, and if my boyfriend EVER tried to pressure me into doing something I didn't want to do, especially sex, I would dump him in a heartbeat. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. If you do stay with him, make sure you had a serious talk about it. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself.

Yeah but all it really takes is some sweet talking. If he knows how to speak, he can pull females left and right and get them butt ass naked.

[Castaway]

i stopped reading after

"pressures me to have sex with him a lot"

dump him. No man/boyfriend should ever pressure you to have sex.

[DeviantShadows]

Yeah but all it really takes is some sweet talking. If he knows how to speak, he can pull females left and right and get them butt ass naked.

Not all girls are that easy.

[illriginal]

Not all girls are that easy.

Most are, in my experience. Thus makin me stay away from white girls, they're too easy for me.

[AimeeLynn]

i 'm not easy Lol and that werid that you would sterotype only white girls...I know a whole a lot of asians and mexicans that are easy. I just think it matters by the person.

[illriginal]

i 'm not easy Lol and that werid that you would sterotype only white girls...I know a whole a lot of asians and mexicans that are easy. I just think it matters by the person.

Yeh I'm pretty ignorant like that, I don't even find them attractive anymore. I spit a lil Italian and or a lil Spanish at them, and they become cream in my hand.

[shoryuken]

Yeh I'm pretty ignorant like that, I don't even find them attractive anymore. I spit a lil Italian and or a lil Spanish at them, and they become cream in my hand.

u pix plz..?

[31miracles]

Is it wrong that I like someone else?

I am in your same pickle of a situation.

I've been going out with a girl, who is my best friend, now for 5 weeks, but truly, I know that I like another girl.

I have been trying to figure out what to do. I finally decided that I will tell my gf exactly how I feel, because I really care about her. It hurts me that I am somewhat being dishonest, but I know it is not my fault. So I think, if you care about your boyfriend, you will do what is morally right, so you are not misleading him.

[sugarrcube]

i honestly think it is seriously useless to stay with a guy that u hav doubts about. juss coz u've been with him a long enuff tym and hav nice dates, how long u think those nice dates r gonna last?? the things u dnt like bout him, y not tlk to ur mom bout it?? it's u that's gonna be with the guy, not ur mom. tryin to stay with a guy juss coz u've been with him for like 4 months, a year, or howevr how long is no excuse. it doesnt mean that u should go straight to the guy u like though. infatuation and love, know the difference =). love grows overtime.