friends coming out, ... Options

[Danielle-Son]

A couple of my friends have come out saying they're gay/ bi recently and it's not that I don't support them because I do. I don't see them any differently, to me they're just the same person. It's what all of our other friends think and say about it. I try so see it from everyone involved's point of view...but I can't say the same for everyone else. It's complicated...both of the people who came out were involved with each other at one point or another, but one got dumped on severely. They're still really close friends. In fact the one currently has a girlfriend (the reason she dumped on the other)who won't listen to her takes out all her emotion on the other friend who doesn't deserve that kind of friendship when all she does is be happy for her. And I can't stand seeing her like in total control of my other friend, but she's like an emotional train wreck and I really want to confront her about things, but I don't know how without making her like seriously depressed.

It also pisses me off when my guy friends say all the girls on the sports teams I play for are butch and lesbian...but it's like all falling apart around me and coming true. But that's the beside the point anyway...

Any advice if you bothered to read and can understand that mess?...

[Melie]

well...it sounds to me like you are a true friend to these two so might i suggest keep being a friend but also don't be afraid to tell them the truth. if it was you, you would probably expect them to do the same for you. just keep them aware of the fact that you care very much for them and you don't want your friendship to be ruined but you're just concerned. good luck!

[shoryuken]

A couple of my friends have come out saying they're gay/ bi recently and it's not that I don't support them because I do. I don't see them any differently, to me they're just the same person. It's what all of our other friends think and say about it. I try so see it from everyone involved's point of view...but I can't say the same for everyone else. It's complicated...both of the people who came out were involved with each other at one point or another, but one got dumped on severely. They're still really close friends. In fact the one currently has a girlfriend (the reason she dumped on the other)who won't listen to her takes out all her emotion on the other friend who doesn't deserve that kind of friendship when all she does is be happy for her. And I can't stand seeing her like in total control of my other friend, but she's like an emotional train wreck and I really want to confront her about things, but I don't know how without making her like seriously depressed.

It also pisses me off when my guy friends say all the girls on the sports teams I play for are butch and lesbian...but it's like all falling apart around me and coming true. But that's the beside the point anyway...Any advice if you bothered to read and can understand that mess?...

longg storyy short dat 4 me.. cuz u typin so fukin GAY n annoyin...

short dat shiet den i help..

[wildncrazyath3rt]

okay wow. first thing you should let them know that you care for them and like tell them that if anything happens you would be there for them. I have a lot of pepole that are Gay/Lesbian in my school and they talk to each other to help each other out. I see that your trying to help with the persons feelings .. but that always doest help. I was kinda the same position awhile ago... what i did is say " im here for you no matter what happens" also i kinda backed off. When someone admits that they are like that its their choice.

Also some don't like to be with somune that likes to pour their emotions on them.. and then in the end they dont help them.
When you want to help them.. i know its going to be hard to talk to them.. and not make them sad. But when they want help or advice that is the best thing they could get at that time.

The comment on the soccer team.. just ignore that. They do that to harrass you and its not right. I mean if its gets worse tell a adult


if you need anymore help.. let me know. =]

[Danielle-Son]

Thanks for the advice and comments. I'm not one too push people into talking to me about things, so I'm for the most part just waiting around until they feel they're ready to talk I guess? Or if they just need to in general. I do need to talk to the one though beacuse she's getting me pissed with using the other one and all.

But thanks again, I'll fill you in once anything else happens or if I need anymore help.

longg storyy short dat 4 me.. cuz u typin so fukin GAY n annoyin...

short dat shiet den i help..

heh. is that Dark from DNAngel in your pro btw?

[shoryuken]

no homo... dat ME!! shiet..

[wildncrazyath3rt]

ohh okay yeah im glad it helped. i went through the same thing. just let me know =]

[aaayotiffany]

i've had a couple friends that have came out to be bi, lesbian, and gay. and i'm still great friends with all three of them. i never once thought of them differently because they were awesome people before they came out, it wasn't going to change that.

just make sure your friend knows that you'll always be there for them. especially during this time, because its very hard for them.

[shoryuken]

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[hypnotique]

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[shoryuken]

Really?
I knew you liked the penis more

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