i lied :O Options

[Heathasm]

come to think of it i cant think of a time in the past year and a half(how long we've been together) that i've actually ~lied~ about where i was and what i was doing to my bf. now, we live together and consider our relationship pretty serious but one thing ive never really gotton over about him is that he's so demanding of all my time. today my best friend and i wanted to go out to eat and just chill w/no bfs and i knew the only way i would be able to go without starting a huge fight was to lie and say i was staying late at work (lol so obvious but he believed me). after i said i was staying late he said that he was sad we wouldnt be able to spend much time together before having to goto sleep but it was ~ok~ because i was working aka making the mulah. i actually feel really bad about lying though ~_~ which is annoying but i just dont see any other way for me to peacefully hang out with my friend like that so short notice and what not.

anyway if any one has a better approach pls enlighten me or do you do similar things with your bf/gf?

[queen]

i think it would've been better to fight about it. it only takes a little lie to start your double life .

no, but seriously, i'm not exactly an "honesty is the best policy" freak, but i do think your bf should know if you want to have fun with someone else, and he should be able to acknowledge that you both can't be together all the time. you both need your time alone and time with your own friends.

[illriginal]

i think it would've been better to fight about it. it only takes a little lie to start your double life .

Tell me about it. I had girlfriend who literally started to believe her own lies even though I had evidence of what she was doing.

And in fact it started with lil white lies just so she can hang out with her friends. Don't get me wrong though... it wasn't like I had a problem with her goin out, she thought I did though... At the end of it all, she ended up seeing a psychiatrist LOL.

I dumped her.


Does your boyfriend have friends?... If he does, ask him to call his friends up and setup a date for fun.. and you call up your friends and all of you can meet each other. Maybe your boyfriend just needs to get comfortable with your friends.

If it's about just trying to be with you every minute of your life... then you need to explain to him that you need your freedom and that you're not some sort of property.

Meh.. I honestly couldn't give you good advice on this, I've never had a female become some sort of control freak. Nor have I missed any of my girlfriends so badly that I would get upset if they wanted to hang out with their friends.

Good luck to ya.

[MissHygienic]

Yeah, lying doesn't get you anywhere, and it only takes one or two little lies to start another huge fight about the fact that you lied. He has to accept that you need time alone.

[Heathasm]

Does your boyfriend have friends?... If he does, ask him to call his friends up and setup a date for fun.. and you call up your friends and all of you can meet each other. Maybe your boyfriend just needs to get comfortable with your friends.

this friend in particular he doesnt get along with and has shown signs that he is jealous of her because he said she had me "whipped" or something just because i wanted to hang out with her. the reason i lied is because we have had this fight before and im just tired of it. every other aspect of the relationship is great besides this bullshit idk what to do about it now heh

[illriginal]

o.O how does a friend of the same gender have someone whipped...

Does he think your friend is gonna seduce you? If so.. he should be happy! (jk)

Well I dunno, you gotta have a serious one on one conversation with him.

Ask him if that's all he thinks about your friend... that she has you whipped, if that the case ask for an explanation =\

[Heathasm]

i did ask him about it and he said he didnt mean it he just said it cause he was mad and that is it but . . . ? u dont just say something like that and not mean anything by it plus he has this animosity towards her that he wont admit LOL idk its really weird, but like i said lying seemed the only way to avoid it this time.

but yeah i am going to try and talk to him about it again i guess. or maybe i can take a bat and hit him in the head until his brain goes retarded. i could live with that

[Smilessss]

i dont think lying is a very good thing to do... i have done it before...and it was a BAD experience to do... we obviously end up fighting, and yeah when you do that, there are misunderstandings with your boyfriend though, cuz he might think you were like looking for someoneelse... so might as well tell the truth cuz its pointless when you lie, and what if he founds out? theres no where for you to run or hide, just try to explain the truth to him im sure he would understand *n.n* the key is "Communication"

[mytangerine]

just tell him straight up that as much as he's the main man in your life, you still need your female support.

[miyashu]

Doesn't he need some his "alone time," too?

Like others have said, talk to your boyfriend seriously about this. Tell him you two cannot be together ALL the time. That's actually unhealthy for a relationship. He needs to accept the fact that you enjoy the company of your friends and it's not his call to whether you get to see them or not.

If my boyfriend had a problem with my best friend, I'd still hang out with her. They don't like each other. So what? You still have the right to see her whenever you like.

[DeadlyKitten]

if he's being to demanding of time and wanting to be with you all the time...before you get pissed...take it as a compliment. maybe he see's you as his bestfriend and when he's with you he feels complete. be thankful you have a guy like that...not many are. but as fro the lying. dont. it only makes things worse. tell him you need to hang out with your other friends too. make it like a weekly thing...say..ok...i'm hanging out with her on this day and tell him he has to accept it. tell him you love him and see him as a bestfriend but even bestfriends can't be together every hour of every day. go about it in a nice way...but tell him to back off a little bit.