18 year old girl, 16 year old guy...? Options

[kimmytree]

Okay okay. Once again, I have another problem. I've recently met a guy, and he's admitted to liking me and wants us to go on a date this weekend. If it wasnt for his age, I wouldnt be second guessing myself like this. Buuuuut,

He turns 17 next month, is a junior, has amazing morals that I envy, and has his own car/drives.

I'm 18, turning 19 in July. I'm a senior. I cant drive, nor do I have a car or job. Basically, I'm young for my age.

I've been told by my sister and a few friends that me going out with him would make me look bad. What do you think, and what should I do?

[digitalfragrance]

I personally wouldn't care what other people would think. It is your decision, so don't make it based on other people's feelings. Make your decision based on how you feel about this guy.

Personally, most guys I've met that are 16 are terribly immature. But, I don't know this guy, and he's probably different.

[iDecay]

Well, do you care if you look bad? You like him, don't you? I'd just go for it.. Obviously I can't make your own decision, but the options are pretty clear. You get with him, and see how it goes, or you care about what others say and wonder "what if?"

[*paperplane*]

How are you young for your age if you're still a senior in high school? I'm a month younger than you and in college.

But anyway, I have a 16 year old male friend (junior) who dated a girl earlier this year who's 18 (senior). I don't think that was an issue for them at all. Their ages were every bit as awkward as yours, but since they were only a school year apart, I think it was fine, not a big deal. Of course, when he liked me I wasn't comfortable with that, even though there's only a month's age difference between me and the other girl. The school year makes all the difference; you're already probably almost a year older than a lot of your friends, and a girl dating a guy in the year below her isn't that uncommon. So I'd say if you like him, go for it.

[kimmytree]

How are you young for your age if you're still a senior in high school? I'm a month younger than you and in college.

Because this is my first year in a public high school. I've been at a Christian school with only 20 students in each grade for the past 6 years. So I'm not your typical high school senior, thats for sure. And I definitely dont look my age, most of the time me and my 15 year old sister are mistaken as twins, or that I'm the 15 year old.

Thanks for the advice everyone, but I'm still really unsure. I've had different people tell me different things. It's not that I'm so worried about what everyone thinks... I'm just afraid people are going to have a problem with it. Like my parents for instance, and we have a lot of mutual friends. He's a band kid, and I'm friends with a lot of them. lol.

[DoubleJ]

It's not that I'm so worried about what everyone thinks... I'm just afraid people are going to have a problem with it.

Contradiction maybe? Hun, you are too grown to be worrying about the kiddie shit at 18 going on 19. Do what you think is best for you, and not what others feel is right for you. Take it from someone who knows, living your life for others and their approval, is only going to make you wonder and worry even more. In then end, you will not end up satisfied because you will always have a case of the what ifs. Hopefully you will give this guy a chance, as it seems that he has a lot going, and not only do you admire him, but you respect him as well. Whatever you choose, just make sure that you are doing it for you and no one else.

[*paperplane*]

Your situation really does sound a lot like my friend's. Not that the girl came from a Christian school, but the guy's in band, and the girl didn't join color guard until her senior year. My band was really cliquey, so it's not like everyone didn't more or less know each other, or that people weren't aware of who everyone else was dating. Are you afraid that people would have a problem with it because he'd be a minor and you aren't? I'll refrain from statutory rape jokes, but f**k the law; people really have no right to object, because there's nothing objectionable about it. Don't let other people deter you, only avoid a relationship with this kid if you are sincerely uncomfortable with the age difference...which it doesn't sound like you are, since you do point out ways in which you're not on the same level (for lack of a better term) as other people your age.

[fameONE]

So what?

I was 16 dating a 21 year old. Game tight, I suppose. She was comfortable with it and the relationship worked.

f**k what anyone says.

[Insurmountable]

Well from the sound of it, hes a little farther in life then you are on some things o_O. You remind me of my sister, except shes dating a far more older guy.

I don't think you should care what your friends think, or what others will think. Its a matter of what you think is right and what you want to do. If you want to give this guy a shot, then go for it. If you let others control your life and every aspect down to liking someone then your not going to get far in life on your own.

[kimmytree]

I went for it, and definitely made the right decision.

Thanks guys.

[DoubleJ]

HAHA! Score another one for the advice crew of cb!

[kimmytree]

Hahah. We should like keep count of how many lives are changed by cb, almost like an advice hotline would. lol.

[illriginal]

Oh lord... When I was 17 years old I was datin a 21 year old.

How bout you get to know him, figure him out. See what his maturity level and if you like his maturity level(s). It's only a 1 year difference -.-

Edit: Alright so I read the first post assuming it was recently posted, so I guess you can disregard my post.

[tokyo-rose]

So I guess this can be closed, then? :) Kim, PM me if you want it reopened.