i'm totally confusedddd Options

[LittleMissSunshi...]

i know this is a "relationship topic" but i've tried to ask many kids. and not alot of people are replying. can anyone help me here? please? and thank you!



okay so i have this guy name Justin. he's technically my best friend, but not really. we just consider each other that. i have a REAL best friend named Thalia. and we know mostly everything about each other. so a year ago i met Justin, and i've been liking him for a year now. but he always like a different girl, like Carolina, Thalia, Alessandra, Sam and now.. Thalia (again). and i guess you can say i got close to those girls besides Thalia (cause we knew each other but i didn't become friends with her) because of justin. Except for Carolina, cause we were already friends from before. so i've been through 4 girls with him, and i still like him. and i think its because i couldn't really get over him cause we were always together as friends for a long time. but over time before justin liked thalia, me and thalia got close because of my other best friend Sandra. she totally made us talk and thalia and I have gotten so close.. and i can tell her anything and basically now were best friends. and she's the only real best friend i've made in a really long time. and real as in not because of justin, but because we've finally talked and gotten to know each other. but now Thalia and Justin like each other and its kinda complicated. Like i can never hang out with them together cause they will always be flirting. and like he tells her things that i was suppose to know way long ago cause techincally were best friends. and i feel he's more closer to her than me, which is fine cause their techinically going since they made out and kissed. so like i don't know, i really like him. like really, but he doesn't feel the same way, and i comepletely understand. but i just want to like.. get over him in a way where i can be best friends with him. any advice? please?


right now, i don't think i like him.. because i've been totally ignoring him.. and i don't think thats good. cause i feel i'm losing him completely as a best friend. and thalia wants me to best friends with him. she doesn't want me to not be friends because of her. and basically it is, when i tell her it's not. it's not that i'm jealous.. its just that i want him to be a REAL BEST FRIEND, as in we say we are. i'm not sure if i'm jealous because of this, cause i really don't want to be especially between my best friends. thats really bad, i think its time to move on. but it's hard, cause i haven't met any new guy like him. and i guess i still hold onto him. but i just really need another opinion, which i know is really bad. but i don't know what to do.. when i'm with him i get like some feelings back.. but i just want to have a bestfriend relationship. and i wish i would tell him but he isn't the type to talk about serious conversations, he only talks like that with thalia. and i really just want to talk to him but i have no idea how.. i know this is really complicated. thats why i haven't told anyone, and i want to. i want to just let it all out. but i have no idea how.. ahhh please help. this has been going on since october. and its drving me nuts! please? and thanks

[karmakiller]

Well since you and Justin are good friends have you tried talking to him about where he stands with Thalia? I would say be honest with him, but that's just because if it were me I would be honest with my friend and let him know that I like him. Lots of other people's opinions will vary. Coming out and telling your friend that you like him like that might make him be a little more cautious around you, esspecially if the feelings are mutual. I would say talk to him about how he feels about Thalia, because maybe it's just in his personality to flirt and it's giving you a different idea. Then go from there.

[MissHygienic]

Infatuation can be a killer thing. There's no strategy to "get over" people, it just happens within time because he probably incites feelings within your brain that you can't shake off. This is normal.

Now as far as your wanting to talk to him in a "best friend" kind of way? There's also no way that you can force a "best friend relationship" onto someone. If he doesn't want or like you as a best friend or treat you as a confidant as he probably does with Thalia, then you'll just have to accept it and settle for just a friendship. However, if he does, well, no one's going to play your game for your so you're going to have to speak up and stop ignoring him.

[JokeInsideJoke]

wait till he gets bored with Thalia. when she's out of the spotlight, hell be looking for someone else...and look who's there all alone, someone he's known and someone he can talk to about anything.........in other words, YOU!

good luck!

and i think that Shannon and Justin sound cute together....

[MissCuppyCake]

...i cant believe i read that whole thing...

do always need people to tell you how you feel cuz that is what it sounds like...(not trying to sound mean)

---> i would just look for someone else cuz if he doesnt like ou then why put your focus on him and accidentally miss someone great?

---> i have tried dating guys who flirt constantly and its hard not to get jealous in the 'relationship'...and it sounds like he has a very flirty personality.

[LittleMissSunshi...]

lol thanks guys. i guess it's true what all of you guys said. and basically i've tried the waiting thing. and it didn't work, i've finally tlked to him today. not about thalia, but like about other things. i guess imma give up officially. i have before, and i've tried. but feelings always come back. thanks guys, really. it's good to hear a different side of opinions from time to time, and i really needed it. thankss(:

[ArtofBreaking]

Well there's the problem..

[karmakiller]

Aw, don't 100% give up You need more confidence!

[LittleMissSunshi...]

Orlean what do you mean? and thanks karmakiller, appreciate it(:! love situations suck? i believe..