I wish she'd stop complaining. Options

[YumiTsubaki]

My friend and I got into a fight. She kept complaining about how she was getting called fat and all this crap. And it annoyed me.
One day she decides to take a break from going to the site we met on. I'm kinda happy about this but I'm sad. I told her I didn't expect anything to be the same.

Btw, it's a Harry Potter themed site so ... a lot of our talking has to do with such. But anyway, Hufflepuff reelections are here. And she's back. It seems to me that she came back because well, the elections. wtf?

I ask her why she came back.
She says she was feeling better.
I say "That's good. I guess."
"Yeah. I guess."

And we(there were three of us) start talking about movies.

I'll just start from where it really ... began.

Her: Go see Cloverfield with some friends.

Me: I'm cool.
I don't see movies every one else is seeing.

Therefore i'm cool. >.>

Her: Oh well.
I havent been to the movies since my parents went to see the new Halloween movie.

Its not like I go everyday.

Me: And I wasn't saying you did, was I?
I don't think so.

I was simply saying that I don't go to the movie theaters like everybody else to see all these hip movies such as Cloverfield or Juno.Me:And I wasn't saying you did, was I?
I don't think so.

I was simply saying that I don't go to the movie theaters like everybody else to see all these hip movies such as Cloverfield or Juno.

Her: What is your deal?
I know you said things wouldnt be the same.
But you dont have to be such a blahhhhh about it.
I mean, seriously. Do you even care? No, you dont.
If you did, you would owl me like everyone else did.
If you did, you would actually talk to me.
If you did, you would be happy I was back.

I thought I would have you forever.
But you cant let me go for two weeks to sort out the hardest things in my entire life. Deal with the hardest things I personally think are the worst things that could happen to a person.


I just dont get you anymore.



Me: You know what? What I really think about you?
I think the reason you're back is because there's a spot open for you in the Huffie staff.

No. I really don't care. I wish you would just stop complaining about your life and how horrible it is.

And you know what? You were the person to say something rude to me. Don't go off on me because I was defending myself. What you said to me was rude. And I don't just take it anymore.

And really. That's all I have to say to you anymore.

Her: I was back because the Huffie Staff opened?

I took a break for two weeks.
If I tried to log on, I got a message that said:
"You cannot log in until January 27th at 7:12pm."
How the hell would I even know?

And you think I have it good? Try dealing with being called a retard at school, fat & ugly, having your parents get a divorce after a 14 year marriage, having your friends turn their backs on you and spreading stupid rumors that arent even true, having to go to a counselor twice a week, sitting alone on the bus because no one likes you, and having basically your own friends on the internet.

What did I say that was rude? I was talking to you. I said I was feeling better. Your reply? "Oh. Thats cool. I guess."

Thats real support.
And it must have been something I said recently, because you sent me an owl back after I left and you were talking to me.


So really, you should back your crap up before you judge me.

Me: That's exactly what I'm talking about, Alyssa. This crap about being called fat, and always complaining about it. This stuff about people calling you names and you being hurt everyday at school.

I don't support you if it's not obvious.

And what about that time you owled me asking if I was drunk, if I'd ever smoked. wth was that about? You treated me like I was some sort of person that needed rehab. I already went through that divorce crap when I needed my father the most.
I know what it's like to have friends only on the internet. Because that's what's happening exactly right now.
I'm sick of you and your complaining. Take it elsewhere, like the GB because I don't really care. I never really did actually.

If you have anything else or if you'd like to continue this fight, do so in owls because I'm sure no one wants to see us fighting anymore.

Her: You really do know how to make people feel like crap.

Im so glad this friendship is over.
To be honest, I really thought you were my friend all this time.
I guess I was wrong because friends are supposed to support you and help you with your problems - not to tell you to shut up.

This is exactly why I left.
And its not helping you or me in any of this, and I just cant take it.

Im sorry I entered your life with a true friendship.

And the last letter you sent me I was talking about you being 13, not 14.
And the whole drunk thing - dont brag about drinking wine if you dont expect those kind of questions.

Im done.




(Sorry it's long.)

From there I just stopped talking to her.

What do I do?
I don't want our friendship back. I want to know how to ignore her without being annoyed by everything she says to people.
Do you think I was wrong to be annoyed?

[babecakes]

too long, dawg.

[MissHygienic]

too long, dawg.

Come on. That's not constructive at all.

Anyway, is this girl your online friend? Why would it be "wrong" for you to be annoyed? If it annoys you, then it annoys you. The beauty of the internet is that you don't have to talk to her again. I'm having a hard time trying to rationalize your situation if you don't know her in real life, and that she's only back on a website because of "Hufflepuff" elections. . .

What do you do? You just don't talk to her.

[ChangeofHeart]

ok, I feel that you were mean to her but you dont like her so who cares. 1st off ignore her. 2nd it is the internet nothing matters. 3rd no offence but you two sounded like a big brats (you more then her).

[YumiTsubaki]

@Babecakes: Wow. That was really helpful.

@MissHygienic: She's a friend on the internet. My "daughter" on there too. (I was dad.) Her "sister" is on the site as well, and I really don't believe she has a sister, and she of course nominated her(the friend I was fighting with) for the Head Girl position.
That's the reason I don't believe her. Sure her sister wants to support her but I mean, what the heck?

[YumiTsubaki]

@ComradeAlex: So you think I was in the wrong?

[MissHygienic]

@ComradeAlex: So you think I was in the wrong?

I don't think you were too rude. If she's going to get offended by another person online over Harry Potter issues, that's her fault and she should quit the internet as a whole. Particularly those who feel too comfortable pouring their life stories over the internet. This situation is petty to me, though, don't stress over it.

[YumiTsubaki]

Eh. Okay. I honestly don't know why I am stressed over it.

Really... I just think she wanted people to feel sorry for her. >.>
But that's my opinion.

[ChangeofHeart]

dont let it dig into you, that is key

yes, she wants people to feel sorry for her. If you dont want to feel sorry then just ignore her.

[babecakes]

@Babecakes: Wow. That was really helpful.

thanks, i did my best :D.

[miyashu]

she seems to me like the type of person who demands sympathy from everyone. but hey, her character isn't what's being questioned here...

don't waste your energy getting annoyed by anything she says. i believe you had good reason to be annoyed with her. i would feel irritated if one of my friends went off on a whiny tangent about their 'horrible' lives.

[absinthe]

She seems like the type of person who thrives on wallowing in her self-made pool of pity. So ignore her, live your life, and be happy. You just made her well that much deeper. :)

And technically, if her social life sucked that much ballz, she'd be pro at these sort of situations.

[Kontroll]

Of course the major question one has to ask is exactly why you're experiencing even a moderate level of stress over something that occurs in a location where the big issue is the "hufflepuff elections". Perhaps a dose of perspective could open your mind a bit? Or even, god forbid, a breath of fresh air?

And I'm certain that your response to this is going to involve some barely-thought-out "oh harry potter is good bookz" argument. Pre-empting this, read:

Altogether I think we ought to read only books that bite and sting us. If the book we are reading doesn't shake us awake like a blow on the skull, why bother reading it in the first place? So that it can make us happy, as you put it? Good God, we'd be just as happy if we had no books at all; books that make us happy we could, in a pinch, also writer ourselves. What we need are books that hit us like a most painful misfortune, like the death of someone we loved more than we love ourselves, that make us feel as though we had been banished to the woods, far from any human presence, like a suicide. A book must be the axe for the frozen sea within us.