people...how do you get others to open up |
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 Jan 29 2008, 11:13 AM
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 Seisuke  Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,523  |
i understand asking questions elicits responses from others, not only that but emotions as well. But how really do you get others to open up in conversation...getting them comfortable with you?
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Jan 29 2008, 11:39 AM
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 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Take them out for a beer. Never. Fails.
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Jan 29 2008, 12:21 PM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(gr00vyswordsman @ Jan 29 2008, 11:13 AM)  i understand asking questions elicits responses from others, not only that but emotions as well. But how really do you get others to open up in conversation...getting them comfortable with you? Use open ended questions. Always allows for more to be said. Ask them personal stuff. and shit like that. |
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Jan 29 2008, 12:36 PM
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 We're in for one wild night. Group: Member Posts: 402 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 603,255 |
Ask them questions you think they would feel comfortable asking in return, like them:"blahblah, and what about you?" If that makes sense, theyll open up after a little bit.
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Jan 29 2008, 12:40 PM
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Some people are just shy and they will open up to you when they are ready. I usually let people know I am trustworthy so that over time they learn to trust me. It's not the fastest method, but I think it's the most effective.
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Jan 29 2008, 02:13 PM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
People are harder to trust these days, so asking a bunch of questions to someone who doesn't feel like he or she knows you well enough isn't going to work. I don't open up to anyone besides my boyfriend. You're going to have to do some work, as well, proving yourself a worthy confidant.
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Jan 29 2008, 03:40 PM
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QUOTE(gr00vyswordsman @ Jan 29 2008, 11:13 AM) i understand asking questions elicits responses from others, not only that but emotions as well. But how really do you get others to open up in conversation...getting them comfortable with you? youu DOOGYYSTYLEE or 69 ppll whoo dun talkkk!!! |
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Jan 29 2008, 07:38 PM
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I show them that I am trustworthy and care first. Then I share some of my life with them, You know just talk. Then I hope they open up. This takes quite a while but never fails.
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Jan 29 2008, 10:13 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
drown them in vodka, or tequila, or whatever else alcoholic that works.
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Jan 29 2008, 10:24 PM
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Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 29 2008, 03:40 PM) youu DOOGYYSTYLEE or 69 ppll whoo dun talkkk!!! iawtc |
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Jan 29 2008, 10:48 PM
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sayy wat.../
wtff iawtc.../ |
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Jan 29 2008, 10:51 PM
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Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 29 2008, 10:48 PM) sayy wat.../ wtff iawtc.../ Protip: http://www.urbandictionary.com/ |
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Jan 29 2008, 10:52 PM
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HAHAHA!!! nicee..
u gayy 2 jakeeyy.../ |
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Jan 29 2008, 10:55 PM
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Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 29 2008, 10:52 PM) HAHAHA!!! nicee.. u gayy 2 jakeeyy.../ Your posts are like some sort of abominable snowman tearing wholesale into Strunk & White's. |
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Jan 29 2008, 11:20 PM
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wordd wiccckaaa...
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Jan 29 2008, 11:30 PM
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it depends on the person
you could compliment them on an item of clothing and ask where they got it you could tell a good joke or a funny story you could ask them if they want something to drink (depending on where you are) i usually just try small talk and sit with them as often as i can it works 
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Jan 29 2008, 11:34 PM
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QUOTE(JCLore @ Jan 29 2008, 11:30 PM) it depends on the person you could compliment them on an item of clothing and ask where they got it you could tell a good joke or a funny story you could ask them if they want something to drink (depending on where you are) i usually just try small talk and sit with them as often as i can it works uhh yee... MmMM k.. PEDOO.. 
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Jan 30 2008, 12:08 AM
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QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 30 2008, 12:34 PM) uhh yee... MmMM k.. PEDOO.. 
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Jan 30 2008, 12:14 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 30 2008, 12:34 PM) uhh yee... MmMM k.. PEDOO.. look who's talking. stfu and gtfo. |
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Jan 30 2008, 09:02 AM
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QUOTE(JCLore @ Jan 30 2008, 12:08 AM) dunn lieee hommoo.. PEDOO!!! HAHAHAHA!!! |
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Jan 30 2008, 09:42 AM
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Seisuke Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,523 |
QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 30 2008, 10:02 AM) dunn lieee hommoo.. PEDOO!!! HAHAHAHA!!! this board is for helping others. Your jokes were funny, but keep it together now bro. Thanks. |
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Jan 30 2008, 09:48 AM
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whoo dat guyy in u profilee picc gr00vyysworddman..
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Jan 30 2008, 10:12 AM
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QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 30 2008, 10:02 PM) dunn lieee hommoo.. PEDOO!!! HAHAHAHA!!! Im serious  what the hell are you going on about?? QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 30 2008, 10:48 PM) whoo dat guyy in u profilee picc gr00vyysworddman.. and why are you changing the subject again?? |
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Jan 30 2008, 03:58 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 5,166 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,858 |
o u wan mee daa anwesaa.. oki..
justt lookk att u postt foo... datt soundd likee PEDO trydaa gitt withh sum 5 yr old.. 
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Jan 30 2008, 08:04 PM
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QUOTE(nguoicasison @ Jan 31 2008, 04:58 AM) o u wan mee daa anwesaa.. oki.. justt lookk att u postt foo... datt soundd likee PEDO trydaa gitt withh sum 5 yr old.. i still can't understand what he's saying!!
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Feb 1 2008, 05:06 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 307 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 598,634 |
I just keep talking with them on a regular basis to build a friendship. Eventually it'll get to the point where conversation become effortless and the person starts telling you all kinds of mess.
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