Should single people be allowed to post in relationship threads? Options

[Tung]

I been stalking the relationship forum alot lately, and there's some certain people who "try" to post helpful opinions and thoughts about the situation, when it's obvious they don't know what the fuck they are talking about. These are the people who are single, and never had a gf/bf in their entire life. How can a person who's been single all their life help someone who is asking for help about a problem with his/her gf/bf? They shouldn't, because they never had any experience to actually know what the OP is going through, and it's tiresome and annoying to read such ignorant post by these members. A prime example would be JClore. He's obviously single and never touched a girl in his life, and he's all over the relationship forum like he's some ladie's man who actually knows something.

This isn't member bashing btw, just using an example.

[transcendentalis...]

subtle. :P

i think single people actually can contribute to relationship threads. to me, relationships were always pretty much common sense, even before i got into serious ones. being single doesn't necessarily mean you're totally ignorant in the relationships area of life, just like the same way having been with people makes you knowledgeable.

[tokyo-rose]

The only thing to be done about those kinds of posts is to ignore them.
Otherwise, most single people can contribute helpful advice. Like Ruth said, relationships are common sense.

[Tung]

Can you guys give examples on how single people can contribute helpful advice?

[JCLore]

Can you guys give examples on how single people can contribute helpful advice?

yea...i'd like to hear this as well

it can be common sense...but you need to experience it firsthand to know what your talking about

[fameONE]

I understand you're reasoning. If their advice is so good, why can't they hold onto a decent relationship?

Then again, we all learn from experiences, and what we learn can be useful to someone else in a similar situation.

Go through door 3 and you'll find the young and desperate; asking redundant questions with no real closure because he/she is too chickenshit do what they really want to do.

It's a toss up.

[transcendentalis...]

Can you guys give examples on how single people can contribute helpful advice?

a lot of problems in the relationships forum can be solved by good and thorough communication. some single people who know how that works could show how such-and-such issue could have been avoided.

not to mention, the relationships forum isn't just for advice dealing with romantic relationships.

[Tung]

not to mention, the relationships forum isn't just for advice dealing with romantic relationships.

Oh of course I know that, but sorry if I wasn't clear about it first, but I'm targeting the threads about romantic relationship problems, and not the friendship or family relationships.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

Tung, you suck for this topic.

[Tung]

Tung, you suck for this topic.

Instead of telling me I suck for making this topic, I rather have you state an opinion at the matter at hand here?

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

OK.

single people should. i think you should change the title to "people who have never been in a relationship before." Because people are single doesnt mean they never have been in a relationship.

[queen]

well there are a bunch of idiots who have been in relationships who can still be clueless. there's two types of "advice". some that come from personal experience and some that are just obviously reasonable.

i'm pretty sure there are single people here that know the basic dos and don'ts. like "don't cheat", and "communication is key".

i mean the answers to some of the questions on here are pretty basic anyway. one could bullshit his/her way through them all.

[absinthe]

EDIT: HOLY BBQ^^^^^!! QUEEN! *huggles*

What about the f**ktards that HAVE been in relationships, and still give dumbass advice? :D???

[dustbunny]

COME ON TUNG, YOU KNOW MY RELATIONSHIP ADVICE IS IMPECCABLE, and I've been in like 1/2 a relationship.

[Tung]

Bettyboo. You want to take this in the janitor's closet?

[dustbunny]

*take this to?


when trying to be snide, please use correct syntax and diction. thanks.

[Tung]

Please betty. Bend over.

[dustbunny]

SURE THANG TUNG, DON'T FORGET TO REMOVE MY TAMPON FIRST

[iDecay]

< Never been in a relationship before, but gives hella advice to friends. D:

[Tung]

Tina you want in this too. While Betty is busy taking her tampon off, me and you go at it. ^_^

[iDecay]

... ....


I'm good. :D

[dustbunny]

tung, tampons are taken out, not off.

once again, diction.

[misoshiru]

< Never been in a relationship before, but gives hella advice to friends. D:

[superstitious]

Wow. Ok, first can I just absorb the tampon stuff? Wow. lol

Ok,now that I'm done with that, single people [some] are more than capable of giving sound advice. I know married people that give terrible relationship and know single people who give great advice.

Not being in a successful relationship doesn't mean that you don't recognize what may or may not be good advice for someone. In fact, I think some people who have had some rough relationships in the past know what doesn't work (subjectively, of course).

By the way, I don't know what my deal is with brackets versus parenthesis lately. I know I don't use them correctly or appropriately, I just use them when I feel like using them.

Anyhooo...

[Comptine]

There are some basic advice that is understandable. Like about communication. There are other things that do piss me off.

Like teenagers that tell other teenagers that their high school romance isn't real love. and that teenagers don't know the meaning of real love. which is really rich considering it's teenagers giving the advice.

i hate people who respond by... "i'm very observant. i can tell what makes a relationship work. blah blah..."

if you were really that observant, you would be able to see a good match for you.

[superstitious]

if you were really that observant, you would be able to see a good match for you.

I'm afraid that is not always the case, unfortunately. A good match, a REALLY good match takes a great deal of time sometimes. Often, you won't even realize it's a good match until much later, especially if it's a relationship that has evolved from a platonic friendship.

[dustbunny]

There are some basic advice that is understandable. Like about communication. There are other things that do piss me off.

Like teenagers that tell other teenagers that their high school romance isn't real love. and that teenagers don't know the meaning of real love. which is really rich considering it's teenagers giving the advice.

i hate people who respond by... "i'm very observant. i can tell what makes a relationship work. blah blah..."

if you were really that observant, you would be able to see a good match for you.

LOL are you kidding, it has nothing to do with being observant, it's about, as REB just stated above, TIME and the RIGHT person. if the right person isn't even f**king there, your being observant or not has nothing to do with anything.


and it sounds like you're just bitter about teenagers spouting off relationship advice because you've been in one where I guess maybe other teens kept putting you down about it. this is just an assumption so if i'm wrong, my bad, but don't get so generalizey about it, there are plenty of teenagers out there who know what they're talking about. whether or not someone's advice is worthy of listening to or following, depends on their own experiences, one teen may be tons more experienced in this subject than another, so just take it case by case.

another thing about the "real love," oftentimes, people who are outside of relationships are the ones that can see things the most clearly; this isn't about the actual topic of whether someone's love is real, moreso about accepting different perspectives.

[transcendentalis...]

^to add on, to say someone's love is definitely real would be assigning a concrete definition to the word love, which is something i'd currently have a wild party about.

i do agree with her point that sometimes the person outside of the relationship (aka third party) can see things most objectively. however you also have to take into consideration that the third party might just be a horrid cynic... or realist, or romantic.

which makes me wish life was dictated a little bit more by calculations and logic. EXCEPT that = more physics, = fail

[me1issaaaa]

Good point.

Hmm, I guess as long as it's common sense... I don't see any harm in it.

[Joss-eh-lime]

relationships =/= boyfriend&girlfriend only

a relationship can be between any two or people.
brother, sister, dad, mom, neighbor, friend.

can't ban us from trying to help!

[Tung]

relationships =/= boyfriend&girlfriend only

a relationship can be between any two or people.
brother, sister, dad, mom, neighbor, friend.

can't ban us from trying to help!

Oh of course I know that, but sorry if I wasn't clear about it first, but I'm targeting the threads about romantic relationship problems, and not the friendship or family relationships.

[transcendentalis...]

haha, i don't think tung was implying that single people were going to be "banned" from the relationships forum. besides, what would the point be? the internet's full of lies anyway.

i will say that i would be extremely skeptical of getting advice from a single person though, unless i knew them well enough to know they really did think things through.

[michellerrific]

Tung, that's actually a good point. I wouldn't have thought of it that way. But then again, in some instances, some people may have really good ideas to solve a problem. Besides, not every topic in Relationships has to do with bf/gf. There could be topics involving parents or friends. And also, not everyone has had the best relationship experiences and will know how answer one's question.

[Tung]

Besides, not every topic in Relationships has to do with bf/gf. There could be topics involving parents or friends.

Oh of course I know that, but sorry if I wasn't clear about it first, but I'm targeting the threads about romantic relationship problems, and not the friendship or family relationships.

C'mon people, at least look at the replies before posting.

[malimars]

single people should defiently be allowed to post in relationship threads , dont mean anything if they never been in a relationship maybe they just dont wanna they get enough experience just seeing and observing others relationships ...& its just our opinions that people are stating to the ones asking for advice anyways , if anything people shouldnt be making those lame fake titles in the relationship colum " is it ok to stick my penis in my mom" and that kinda shit lmao but thats a whole other topic but just an example!!

[Comptine]

You can't be a teenager and tell another teenager that their definition or emotion of love is wrong.

I don't give a crap if you're a way mature teenager or super sleuth: no matter how observant you are, if you've never been in a relationship, you have no right to correct or critique others'. okay, if the boyfriend is abusive, you have common sense to back up on. however, if it's just your girlfriend being confused and you have no experience under your belt, you can only repeat what you THINK is love/relationship. If you've never been in a serious relationship or even in one, you are about as knowledgeable as any of your peers, even if you surveillance them 24/7.

what i meant my being observant is that single non relationship people like to go, "Look for this in a guy." or "look for that." or "do this" all because "i'm really observant and i see all these different relationships so i can like you know create a wikipedia all of it."

if you are that observant to see the kinks and inner workings of relationships, without actually risking being in a relationship, you could formulate the right way to make a relationship or pick a guy to be with.

In the end, me and you know the same amount of shit about love and relationships.

[dustbunny]

first of all, no where did I say that someone else's definition of love was wrong.

second of all, I specifically mentioned how being observant has absolutely NOTHING to do with anything.

thirdly, maturity does factor in. you think some retarded kid is gonna spit the same kinda shit I would spit about relationships to my friends? I hate to bring myself into this, but honestly I do know a lot more about relationships than the average teen. why? because my friends have been in shitloads of relationships, and I experienced basically everything they did. of course, I obviously lack the emotions, but that doesn't mean I can't spit meaningful advice that someone only outside of the relationship unhindered by love and completely detached and lucid could see. additionally, I can use my own experiences as well, so just because I haven't been in an "official" relationship, it doesn't means shit if I've been through the same f**king thing emotionally.

finally, I emphasized on PERSPECTIVE, so get it straight, no one is trying to undermine your LOVE okay?


/edit. I realize your post might not have been directed towards me, but I basically replied as if you had.

[Comptine]

I wasn't aiming it at you. 'You' was aimed at all my single, unexperienced peers who think sitting back and watching is adequate enough to be a relationship guru.

Yes, it has annoyed me personally but as a whole, those people are just very annoying in general. And sometimes, very bad for people.

I'm part of Peer Health Exchange. I teach a workshop on how to maintain health relationships and the communication techniques to keep them healthy. I know the statistics and science behind healthy and abusive relationships. I've been in a 3 year relationship, nearing 4.

I don't know any more than the person next to me. Which is why it's a touchy subject for me about single, unexperienced people saying they do know something about relationships just by observing.

I never answered the question: Single people can post in the relationship forum. Free forum. Do what you will. But I will call shit out.

[MissFits]

I don't know. I don't think that people that have never been in a relationship should give advice about them, like people that have never been in war should give advice to soldiers about what to do.

But, if you have been in relationships just because you aren't in one at the moment doesn't mean you don't know what you are talking about. I get the best relationship advice from a guy I know that is single right now, that doesn't mean he doesn't know about relationships, though. He is the most knowledgeable person I know when it comes to relationships.

[S-Majere]

Indeedy, sometimes single people have a better perspective on events than those that are in relationships have. True, they may not have the experience to back up their advice, but I don't think it makes their ideas any less viable. We all know that respect and communication are key; and we each have some idea as to how a relationship should be and what it should - and shouldn't - involve.

[iiTsDAYNA]

Thats like saying white people shouldn't contribute advice to black people's issues, just because they're not black.
Just because they're not in a relationship doesn't mean they don't know what's going on. Sometimes single people give the best advice.

[AimeeLynn]

I really don't think that they should. Because how would they know what your going through. Maybe if they were in a relationship is another story. But if they haven't experience anything than that is a no.

[PrideOfAzia]

i like chicken <3

[JokeInsideJoke]

Thats like saying white people shouldn't contribute advice to black people's issues, just because they're not black.
Just because they're not in a relationship doesn't mean they don't know what's going on. Sometimes single people give the best advice.

ditto

i like chicken <3

wtf?

[Joss-eh-lime]

I think people who try to offer advice on ANY topic, but have never experienced the problem, or has never been close to someone with a problem won't be able to give advice from a "been there, done that" standpoint.

but this is true for any subject, and as inexperienced as some may be, really good advice can come from them.

its true!

[transcendentalis...]

wtf?

you don't get it because you're single, DUH

i think betty and s-majere put it very nicely.

[AimeeLynn]

^HAHAHA I know really right? Jezze.

[Castaway]

yeah they should. You just need to know what to take in and what to leave out, which is what i tell my friends if i refer them to this forum.

[X_merky]

I believe it's one of those things where it is easier to tell others what you think and how they can solve their problems, than to actually figure it out for yourself when you have a problem on your own.
I think this holds true to anyone, IMO. It doesn't even have to be relationship advice.
I agree with your mindset that I would much rather take advice from, per say, someone who has had a few boyfriends/girlfriends, than someone who just started dating and is new to everything and is barely just figuring out some of the stuff on their own.

[Tung]

ditto
wtf?

Does your posts ever consist of more than one word?

[illriginal]

lol strong communism. how exactly do you identify each and everyone's marital status (single, in relationship, married, etc...)?

[Tung]

lol strong communism. how exactly do you identify each and everyone's marital status (single, in relationship, married, etc...)?

I'm just generalizing as a whole, for single people out there, who constantly post in this forum thinking they know a thing or two about relationships. Also, it doesn't hurt looking at their profiles and seeing their relationship status.

Also, they themselves usually post things such as "I'm single...blah blah" or "I never been in a relationship" "I'm a virgin.." and then state what you should do..yada yada.

[illriginal]

I'm just generalizing as a whole, for single people out there, who constantly post in this forum thinking they know a thing or two about relationships. Also, it doesn't hurt looking at their profiles and seeing their relationship status.

Also, they themselves usually post things such as "I'm single...blah blah" or "I never been in a relationship" "I'm a virgin.." and then state what you should do..yada yada.

Haha... that'll work.

[Tung]

Haha... that'll work.

So are we in agreement on this? Or another one of your sarcastic post?

[shoryuken]

how bout no..

i say sexy ppl allow 2 giv tip.. ugly ppl STFU!!

who aggree

so if you single or not.. u allow 2 giv tip but you gotta be SEXY...

[rejakalu]

The ones above the maze can see the way out clearly.

[Tung]

how bout no..

i say sexy ppl allow 2 giv tip.. ugly ppl STFU!!

who aggree

so if you single or not.. u allow 2 giv tip but you gotta be SEXY...

.......

[shoryuken]

EY.. soundd gooodd ey..

[arghrawr]

...
Anyways.
It'd be rather horrible to ban single people from posting. There are tons of single kiddies with great advice. Plus not all the topics in relationships are about boyfriends and husbands and such.

[shoryuken]

...
Anyways.
It'd be rather horrible to ban single people from posting. There are tons of single kiddies with great advice. Plus not all the topics in relationships are about boyfriends and husbands and such.

^singglee n giv gayy advice..

PLZ BAN.. adminn..

WTF me say.. onlyy sexyy ppll giv advicee.. u aintt sexy.. GTFO..

[foxx]

You should too then

[shoryuken]

You should too then

justt sthu stopp spamin lil gurl...

bak da topicc... uhh ye.. sexyy ppll only... thx..

[lkajsfklajskds]

i think single people actually can contribute to relationship threads. to me, relationships were always pretty much common sense, even before i got into serious ones. being single doesn't necessarily mean you're totally ignorant in the relationships area of life, just like the same way having been with people makes you knowledgeable.

well said.

my friends ask me what i should do about this guy who likes them nad vice versa. and when i try to help the out, it really is a pretty corny advice. but it makes them happy, and often it works out.
when you know a lot of relationship cases, it comes to the point where you are able to predict what will happen

so, yes. i believe single people should be able to post in the relationships thread

.......

i was wondering if this was the new nquack, as well.

[shoryuken]

well said.
i was wondering if this was the new nquack, as well.

no.. nott welll say..

n dun wondurr nuttin NUB.. GTFO... u n choco puff GTFO!!!

[lkajsfklajskds]

^why is it that you speak normal in only two posts?

[illriginal]

^why is it that you speak normal in only two posts?

Because that's Bnox dammit >.<

[mizzkewl06]

sometimes single people (even though they're aren't or never have been in relationships) can see things from an unbiased point of view and can give good insight on the things people who are in relationships can't. (it made sense in my head)

[illriginal]

I say if they never been in a relationship or pretty much kinda young/immature to experience a real relationship, they shouldn't give advice. Instead they should just read and maybe learn a lil something.

If they have been in a relation or currently in a relationship where they faced the same scenario, then sure... give us your input.

sometimes single people (even though they're aren't or never have been in relationships) can see things from an unbiased point of view and can give good insight on the things people who are in relationships can't. (it made sense in my head)

Yeh but... if that was the case, how could they give their opinion if they never experienced it or learned from it?

It's like someone askin what's the answer to this specific calculus question and someone who's never experienced or never learned calculus steps in and answers the question; it's sort of impossible to answer without at least learning the equations of calculus in the first place. It just really doesn't make sense to do such a thing.

[mizzkewl06]

pretty much kinda young/immature to experience a real relationship, they shouldn't give advice. Instead they should just read and maybe learn a lil something.

that's true too. maybe if they're too young, or too immature then they shouldn't be giving input.

[shoryuken]

Because that's Bnox dammit >.<

... dam TAMA... u reallli likee b.noxx huh..

[Be-Faithful]

this bitch alwayz send me pm and say


" B-NOX how can you be so cooooooool, I wanna mary you but you don't i'm too ugly for dat and you are not gay uuuuuuuuh. "

in yo ass mutha f**ka

[illriginal]

this bitch alwayz send me pm and say
" B-NOX how can you be so cooooooool, I wanna mary you but you don't i'm too ugly for dat and you are not gay uuuuuuuuh. "

in yo ass mutha f**ka

Ha! I don't PM people. I just realized today that people have given me comments on my Cb account.

[shoryuken]

Ha! I don't PM people. I just realized today that people have given me comments on my Cb account.

dam TAMA.. u signn onn madd quix mangg... u likee b.noxx muchhoo muchoo huh...

[illriginal]

dam TAMA.. u signn onn madd quix mangg... u likee b.noxx muchhoo muchoo huh...

Yeah but you're Bnox... get a life. Anyone with half a brain would realize you're switchin between two different user names.

[shoryuken]

ginnaaa goo 2 da gunn showw..

[Glamourouz]

I think single people can post in the relationship forum because they're people too, have lives off the net I hope, & interact with other people who have lives as well...You never know the friendships people have with others...I've always been mature for my age & very observant & have always been able to give people young and old advice on various situations whether I've been through it or not & sometimes the advice works & sometimes it doesn't but it always gives insight on another view to whoever is seeking it. I feel that goes hand in hand with anyone single that decides to post. To call someone's post dumb makes you ignorant yourself because it's just an opinion & just the net (not that serious unless you have issues within yourself that need to be addressed by a psychologist & make it that serious); if you don't like what others have to say just simply ignore it...

[shoryuken]

I think single people can post in the relationship forum because they're people too, have lives off the net I hope, & interact with other people who have lives as well...You never know the friendships people have with others...I've always been mature for my age & very observant & have always been able to give people young and old advice on various situations whether I've been through it or not & sometimes the advice works & sometimes it doesn't but it always gives insight on another view to whoever is seeking it. I feel that goes hand in hand with anyone single that decides to post. To call someone's post dumb makes you ignorant yourself because it's just an opinion & just the net (not that serious unless you have issues within yourself that need to be addressed by a psychologist & make it that serious); if you don't like what others have to say just simply ignore it...

uhh.. yee.. nicee lil storryy u gott tha..

kindaa likee THE CURIOUSS GEOORGE book...

butt yee.. u GTFO 2...

[Glamourouz]

uhh.. yee.. nicee lil storryy u gott tha..

kindaa likee THE CURIOUSS GEOORGE book...

butt yee.. u GTFO 2...

u stfu dumb child; I'm surprised you can read b/c you sure can't write a sentence to save your life

[Tung]

u stfu dumb child; I'm surprised you can read b/c you sure can't write a sentence to save your life

stfu and stick to the damn topic. or don't post at all. who gives a shit what he says.

[Glamourouz]

stfu and stick to the damn topic. or don't post at all. who gives a shit what he says.

you stfu b/c i stuck to the topic; i dont know wtf you think you are

[Melissa]

^ I wouldn't get too caught up in anything ngou/princeofwhatever or Tung says. It'll turn out to be a waste of your time.

And to stick on topic...

People who're single and never have been in a relationship may not have experience but they're certainly not dumb. Anybody can observe what a friend or acquaintance has gone through and learn from it. Everybody has their own tastes, they're own views of what should or should not take place in a relationship, etc. So I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to post in the relationship threads.

[shoryuken]

u stfu dumb child; I'm surprised you can read b/c you sure can't write a sentence to save your life

hahaha... EY.. WTH me say.. GTFO dis threadd!!

stfu and stick to the damn topic. or don't post at all. who gives a shit what he says.

.....

you stfu b/c i stuck to the topic; i dont know wtf you think you are

tungg gittin pwn...?

^ I wouldn't get too caught up in anything ngou/princeofwhatever or Tung says. It'll turn out to be a waste of your time.

And to stick on topic...

People who're single and never have been in a relationship may not have experience but they're certainly not dumb. Anybody can observe what a friend or acquaintance has gone through and learn from it. Everybody has their own tastes, they're own views of what should or should not take place in a relationship, etc. So I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to post in the relationship threads.

AWWW h3ll nah.... u GTFO 2... mang..

WAZZUP withh wack ppll comin hur n actt likee dey SEXY n shiet... ONLYY sexyy ppll onlyy ppl... sheezh...

[Tung]

I say if they never been in a relationship or pretty much kinda young/immature to experience a real relationship, they shouldn't give advice. Instead they should just read and maybe learn a lil something.

If they have been in a relation or currently in a relationship where they faced the same scenario, then sure... give us your input.
Yeh but... if that was the case, how could they give their opinion if they never experienced it or learned from it?

It's like someone askin what's the answer to this specific calculus question and someone who's never experienced or never learned calculus steps in and answers the question; it's sort of impossible to answer without at least learning the equations of calculus in the first place. It just really doesn't make sense to do such a thing.

i totally get what you're saying here. Just wished more people see it like that.

Still think this should be hard pressed like the Debate forum.

[Tung]

[Xcel]

Of course.

Just because you've never dated doesn't mean you don't know anything about relationships.

I think there are two parts to a relationship. There are the mental and physical aspects.

IMO, being in an actual relationship gives you physical experience about relationships. While on the other hand, you could be missing the mental part. Obviously because, not all relationships are about true love; many people date others just for physical pleasure.

Unlike you, I believe having actual physical experience is only a minor part of a relationship. The bigger picture is about mental love... true love.

[Archana]

It's not really in someone's place to criticize someone's decisions if they themself have not been in a position similar to theirs.. but then again, single people offer objective advice. They offer advice from their point of view, usually with the best interest of the OP in mind. This can be helpful if the OP's emotions are caught in between doing the right thing.

[towntown2]

Maybe those single people [the ones who have never been in a relationship] get their advice from observing relationships around them. Most of the time, their advice comes off cliched and generic, so there's the problem.

However, there are single people who are single but have been in relationships. Those people should be allowed to post here.