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 Jan 26 2008, 12:03 AM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593  |
So, I have this "friend", and he's pretty much goes around alot. He goes to parties alot, and he sleeps around alot with a bunch of girls. People, always tell him to use a condom when you have sex, but he never does. He say screw it, he'll never meet that person again even if she gets pregnant. But recently, he found out this girl he had sex with before, has came to him and told him she's pregnant. So my friend been dating her few days now, trying to be there for her. She's out of state now, so they communicated by phone. Do you think he is right to be with her, because of the baby? What do you think?
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Jan 26 2008, 12:11 AM
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1st thing I have to say is that I hope this ain't about you baby boy,alright?
Anyways, for this "friend" to be with the girl for the sake of the child is all good & fine but lets be realistic. The chances of them working out is very low so in my opinion I just say that they just be involved in the child's life. Single parents do exist ya know |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:14 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
It isn't about me. I told you, it's my friend. I'm just worry about him that's all.
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Jan 26 2008, 12:17 AM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
If they're not a good couple together and just slept around, it is one stupid idea to be together for the sake of the kid. Children need to grow up in a healthy environment, and that doesn't necessarily entail two parents. He has a right to see/visit/communicate with his child in the future, but she can make her own decisions by herself.
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Jan 26 2008, 12:17 AM
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 YUNJAESU<3 Group: Official Member Posts: 1,291 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,275 |
Well, of course he has a right to be with the baby. I mean, he's his father. Does he still sleep around and etc? It's kind of f**ked up for him to go around having sex (without wearing a condom, too...) and not give a flying f**k if the girl is pregnant, but definitely he has a right to be with her. It is for another living and breathing soul.
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Jan 26 2008, 12:23 AM
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sure he does
my cousin had the same problem, got drunk and the guy didnt use a condom so she got pregnant and eventually broke it to the guy. she hated the guy anyway but now their ok , their engaged, and the weddings next month...so yea. they both cleaned up their act just for the baby |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:28 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
Thanks guys for the opinions. I feel a little bit less guilty.
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Jan 26 2008, 12:31 AM
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someone f**ked up!
well, atleast he's being there for her and he's not ditching her. |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:34 AM
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QUOTE(icecreamisyummy @ Jan 26 2008, 01:31 PM)  someone f**ked up! well, atleast he's being there for her and he's not ditching her. yea i agree do they actually love each other?? or is it just for the baby?? |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:35 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
Of course he loves her!
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Jan 26 2008, 12:37 AM
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QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Jan 26 2008, 01:35 PM) Of course he loves her! thats good...they wont have as many problems then |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:38 AM
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At least he's being responsible in this situation by supporting the girl. He doesn't have to date her just for sake of the baby, unless that's what he truly wants. But he shouldn't abandon his responsibilites either.
I think that, until the baby's born and other decisions are made, he should continue to keep in contact with this girl. |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:39 AM
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QUOTE(miyashu @ Jan 25 2008, 09:38 PM) I think that, until the baby's born and other decisions are made, he should continue to keep in contact with this girl. What if the baby's already born, and is 3 weeks old? 
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Jan 26 2008, 12:44 AM
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I think he needs to be in the child's life, but for somebody to try and hold a baby as ransom for you to be with her is just wrong. I love it when girls try to pull that baby shit. Bitch he can give you child support and visitation and keep it moving. If it is not a healthy relationship, my advice would be to stay int he child's life, but also be aware that you have to have some respect for the mother of your child. Hopefully this helps your boy.
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Jan 26 2008, 12:50 AM
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QUOTE(DoubleJ @ Jan 25 2008, 09:44 PM) Hopefully this helps your boy. It's not my boy. It's my friend. I already said that. 
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Jan 26 2008, 12:52 AM
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cake or DEATH Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 631 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 223,586 |
QUOTE What if the baby's already born, and is 3 weeks old? Then it would be better if he stayed and help out his girlfriend, because she will need it. Best of luck to your friend :) |
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Jan 26 2008, 12:54 AM
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QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Jan 26 2008, 12:50 AM) It's not my boy. It's my friend. I already said that. I think he meant your boy, as in your friend. |
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Jan 26 2008, 01:23 AM
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The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Jan 26 2008, 12:54 AM) I think he meant your boy, as in your friend. Duh tung |
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Jan 26 2008, 01:23 AM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Jan 25 2008, 09:54 PM) I think he meant your boy, as in your friend. Oh whoops.. 
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Jan 26 2008, 01:29 AM
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your friend should try and make it work with the girl. even if shes not the girl of his dreams, he should try really really hard. b/c growing up with only one parent SUCKS. Its time for your friend grow up and put his wild past behind him.
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Jan 26 2008, 01:30 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
^ Believe me, my friend is trying his best. He's already sent her a paycheck for the diaper and milk supplies.
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Jan 26 2008, 01:31 AM
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Is he really the baby`s father?
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Jan 26 2008, 01:36 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
yes.
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Jan 26 2008, 01:36 AM
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^for sure?
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Jan 26 2008, 01:38 AM
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QUOTE(yrrnotelekktric @ Jan 25 2008, 10:36 PM) ^for sure? Yes. Why you keep asking?
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Jan 26 2008, 01:54 AM
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Idk, maybe she`s lying. You never know.
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Jan 26 2008, 02:12 AM
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I believe her. And the baby looks damn alot like the father.
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Jan 26 2008, 02:17 AM
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^Oh. Well support them both obviously would be my advice.
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Jan 26 2008, 02:20 AM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
The thing is, they are long distance right now. He's in California, and she's in Houston.
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Jan 26 2008, 02:31 AM
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^So when will they be together?
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Jan 26 2008, 02:34 AM
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They've been together for about 3 days now. They been talking on the phone alot lately. He can't go over to Houston right now, since he's in the middle of school right now. He's going to plan to go during spring break in March.
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Jan 26 2008, 02:40 AM
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I hope I don't go through this shet when I'm older.
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Jan 26 2008, 02:41 AM
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QUOTE(TheFegNut @ Jan 25 2008, 11:40 PM) I hope I don't go through this shet when I'm older. Remember to always use a condom... sigh... |
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Jan 26 2008, 02:13 PM
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QUOTE(yrrnotelekktric @ Jan 25 2008, 10:31 PM) Is he really the baby`s father? Maybe your friend should take this to consinderation & get a blood/dna test before drastically changing his life forever. I actually knew a guy in a similar situation. The guy thinks its most likely his but never got around to a blood/dna test because the girl is out of state & for some reason from the last time I have spoken to him the girl won't let him see the child. So yea...blood/dna test 
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Jan 26 2008, 03:41 PM
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I think he's planning on asking for a DNA test mailed to him soon. I think he's scared though, that she might get offended. What do suggest he should say?
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Jan 26 2008, 03:50 PM
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tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
he should say if its my kid, then im there for you all the way.
if its not my kid, the bye!
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Jan 26 2008, 04:07 PM
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The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
I feel for your friend bro. If I can help in any way, pampers, wipes, Jordans, let me know
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Jan 26 2008, 04:15 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
I wouldn't want the kid wearing Jordans, (they are ugly)
But thanks for the support. My friend is in need of it. |
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Jan 26 2008, 04:34 PM
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The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
I said Jordans because I didn't feel like putting dunks. Jordans are ugly, agreed.
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Jan 29 2008, 12:53 AM
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QUOTE(tungmyBANANA @ Jan 26 2008, 12:41 PM) I think he's planning on asking for a DNA test mailed to him soon. I think he's scared though, that she might get offended. What do suggest he should say? the truth. |
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