Mom is strict. Options

[fadingcolorsx]

So, my mom is REALLY strict with me for I don't know why. Basically, since I stopped going to church, she doesn't trust me at all. This up-coming Friday is a school dance at my former school and my boyfriend is taking me. Obviously, my mom now knows about him, but she treats me like I'm five. Last night, I went to the mall with friends. She yelled at me saying my boyfriend isn't suppose to be there, but he didn't show up because he went elsewhere [loser]. And, she wants to take me to the place where the dance is being held. But, what about the whole lots and llots of pictures and putting on the corsage for the girl when the guy comes over? She sacts like my only friends are only girls. OBVIOUSLY, at the age of SIXTEEN, I have male friends, too.

What do I do?

[Tung]

Go to church.

[fadingcolorsx]

Everyone says that, but it's not so simple. I'm not comfortable with religion at all, anymore.

[Tung]

True. I'm atheist myself. Well if you want to get your trust of your mom, you need to have a long talk with her, about how you feel about her invading in your life. Mother and daughter talk.

[ChangeofHeart]

listen to tung hes got it down

[MissHygienic]

While long talks might not necessarily change your mother's mind because, let's face it, she's your mother, and even at SIXTEEN, you can get pregnant/STDs/naive to boy pressures, and all of the worries that a mother should have. If you can get through to her, then by all means, kudos to you.

However, I had a friend who, at SIXTEEN, had a mom who was as strict as yours, and you know what my friend did? She sucked it up. You're going to go off to college soon, so what's the big deal about not being able to have your boyfriend put a flower on your wrist? There are worse things in life.

[DoubleJ]

Since when did regular dances do the whole flower thing? On the east coast it definitely doesn't rock like that. Any who, you should definitely let your mom when this battle, because ultimately you will win the war when you go off to college. What is she going to do then, move into the dorm room next door to you? Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet hun.

[Castaway]

While long talks might not necessarily change your mother's mind because, let's face it, she's your mother, and even at SIXTEEN, you can get pregnant/STDs/naive to boy pressures, and all of the worries that a mother should have. If you can get through to her, then by all means, kudos to you.

However, I had a friend who, at SIXTEEN, had a mom who was as strict as yours, and you know what my friend did? She sucked it up. You're going to go off to college soon, so what's the big deal about not being able to have your boyfriend put a flower on your wrist? There are worse things in life.

I agree.

In this case, you should try not to argue with her because that will just piss her off and she'll be even more strict. You can always hope that she'll be less strict over time. It seems like your mom is just trying to protect you from going in the wrong direction. I've seen and known plenty of people that went into the wrong direction when they started high school (ex. drinking,smoking).
She just needs to learn to trust you and doing what she says could show that you're responsible(right?) enough to not do those things.

[Joss-eh-lime]

so she wants to drive you & your date there?
thats not so bad.

and can't she be the one to takes pictures before you leave.
take the camera to the dance, have your own fun there
but let your mom be a little part of it.

[Castaway]

so she wants to drive you & your date there?
thats not so bad.

and can't she be the one to takes pictures before you leave.
take the camera to the dance, have your own fun there
but let your mom be a little part of it.

lol.. i wouldn't want my mom to be taking pictures right outside the dance. If other ppl had their moms, it'd be ok.

[Joss-eh-lime]

no i mean her mom take pictures at the house, drive them, and then they would be at the dance.

[fadingcolorsx]

No, what I mean by drop me off there is drop me, JUST ME, all by myself at the place. What's the point in me being my boyfriend's date if she only wants to do that?

[monster]

No, what I mean by drop me off there is drop me, JUST ME, all by myself at the place. What's the point in me being my boyfriend's date if she only wants to do that?

lmfao, drop you off.

just wait a year and get your own car, bitch.

[shoryuken]

she cur bout u.. stopp whinin u lil gurl..

att yourr age.. u dun needd no boyfriendd or whinee..

[yaamakoh]

plus, college boys treat you a lot better than highschool boys :). my friend in college is dating a senior in highschool. he can't see her that often, even though they live ten minutes away. i remember last year, during her junior year they would see each other once every month, but now it's once every week. i would drive him to her house when she got out of school, so that he could say hi to her before she walked in. but as you get older, it will get better. she sucked it up, he was patient, and now they're going to the same school next year. patience is the best victory to win against parents in my opinion

[Kontroll]

So, my mom is REALLY strict with me for I don't know why. Basically, since I stopped going to church, she doesn't trust me at all. This up-coming Friday is a school dance at my former school and my boyfriend is taking me. Obviously, my mom now knows about him, but she treats me like I'm five. Last night, I went to the mall with friends. She yelled at me saying my boyfriend isn't suppose to be there, but he didn't show up because he went elsewhere [loser]. And, she wants to take me to the place where the dance is being held. But, what about the whole lots and llots of pictures and putting on the corsage for the girl when the guy comes over? She sacts like my only friends are only girls. OBVIOUSLY, at the age of SIXTEEN, I have male friends, too.

What do I do?

Haha, welcome to my life. I'm almost 20, yes I know...still young, but she still treats me like I'm five. Sucks. Doesn't it? My mom always tells me to keep my bedroom door open when I have a girl over. Haha. Trust me much, mom? Right.

[Melissa]

I'm sorry. =[

My mom used to be like that, if I ever wanted to meet a friend anywhere, she would give me the twenty questions about him/her and then give me that stupid suspicious look. She's chilled out a lot, though, ever since my junior year in HS when I started "rebelling." I'm not telling you to do what I did... but I think running away from home several times a month really did a lot to make her give up on controlling me, lol.

I'd suggest trying to talk it out with her. It's not really a big deal. You're only sixteen... wait a year or so and she'll probably cool off. And there's plenty of other dances you can go to when that happens.