pls help i rly don't know what to do but i can't handle it anymore Options

[barbieeedollxo]

me and my mom have never gotten along and she is psycho. she has tried to kill me 3 times and shit like that. and she trie to have total control over my life. i've never been able to go out and have fun with my friends or anything like that. and im sick of not being able to do anything because im stuck at home taking care of my bro and sis and the house bc my mom wont do anything. i turned 18 dec. 19th and i was going to move out but the problem with that is they aren't going to let me have my car so it'll be hard for me to have a job and i need money. but it's just keeps getting worse. my mom got on my myspace and sent all of my friends a msg. telling them i was crazy and dangerous and they didn't need to talk or hang out with me anymore. im 18 i think i should at least be able hang out and have fun. but with my mom its impossible. so should i move out and just save up money for a cheap car? or should i just try and stay? pls respond because i rly need help with this. bc i just don't think i can handle it anymore.

[coconutter]

Surely you have some kind of trusted family member or friend you could move in with until you get enough money to buy a cheap car, get a job etc.

You need to get out of your mother's house asap though! That's a very dangerous situation, her trying to kill you atleast. Have you ever tried to seek help for this? If not, you should. Although the goverment sometimes doesn't seem like your friend, they are. They can help. Just get out of your mother's house! If she mistreats you report her to the authorities or something immediately.
Anyway, if you don't have a family/member friend to move in with. Go with the cheap car plan! Save money for one, get a job, save that money and rent an apartment of your own.

[AskAlice]

Definitely talk to the police or Child Protective Services. Ask your neighbors to keep an eye out for when you could be in trouble. Where is your father?

You definitely need to find a way to remove yourself from that situation, if not forcefully. Live with a friend. Find a job close enough to ride a bike to. However, don't tell your mom you're leaving -- she may react violently. You should just leave when she's out of the house.

[hypnotique]

Id take the car and run but only if it was in your name seeing that you are 18 youd have a legal right to it.

But yeah you really do need to get the f**k out of there.Womens homes,shelters, something is better then nothing

[MissFits]

My parents never tried to kill me but they were VERY controlling. I wasn't even aloud to play outside when I was a kid.

It eventually led to me not being able to have any friends. If my friends ever talked to or saw me outside of school they knew it had to be quick. I once got caught sneaking out and lets just say it did not end well.
Things eventually got better when my parents quit abusing drugs. Maybe that is your mom's problem?

I moved out of my mom's home when I was 16. I lived on my own raising my sisters on a car hops salary. I walked 2 miles to work almost every day.

You don't need a car to do anything. Find a friend with a supportive parent, move out, save money, and get your own place.

[Call911Quick]

She's tried to kill you?

[tokyo-rose]

She's tried to kill you?

Yes, it says that in the second sentence of her post..

I'm not sure exactly what constitutes child abuse besides the obvious verbal and physical beatings, but your situations sounds like it might be anyway. You definitely shouldn't stay with your family. Take AskAlice's advice and move in with a friend.

[LoveToMySilas]

Look, a lot of people have problems with their parents controlling them but if shes trying to kill you, that definately isn't normal. You have a lot going on right now. I think you need to stay with someone else for a while until you can go out on your own. Do you have a relative you can stay with? This isnt a good life you're living right now. I know you don't wanna call for help from services like the child services either. So I think staying with someone else is the best thing to do right now. Hope everything gets better.