Gossip leads to drama, always. |
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 Dec 17 2007, 07:00 PM
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 tell me more.  Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640  |
Skipping the background info here's the deal
My Side: Friend A said something about Friend B and since both are my friends I decided not to take sides, but to just say what needed to be said, and leave it. Friend B's Side: I should have told Friend A off, becuase I am supposed to defend Friend B. I feel I was right in staying neutral, but Friend B definately donest agree with that. What do you think I should (have) done. |
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Dec 17 2007, 07:22 PM
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 The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
You should have told friend a that it is not right that they are talking about yuor other friend without them being there.
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Dec 17 2007, 08:47 PM
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 Tick tock, Bill Group: Administrator Posts: 8,764 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,948 |
What you did was FINE. There's no reason to take sides, ever.
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Dec 17 2007, 08:50 PM
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This always happens to me...but I take sides
 What you did was uncommonly sensible. Bravo. |
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Dec 17 2007, 08:52 PM
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 YUNJAESU<3 Group: Official Member Posts: 1,291 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,275 |
Tell her that even if Friend B hates Friend A that you can still be friends with both of them.
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Dec 18 2007, 09:31 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,574 Joined: Aug 2007 Member No: 555,438 |
Man, did they say this to each other's faces?
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Dec 18 2007, 09:35 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,586 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 531,256 |
This is so hard. I have been through this so many times.
How I react depends on what the person said. It's always a case by case basis, but usually I let Friend A know it's okay with me if they don't like friend b, but I would appreciate it if they didn't drag me into the middle. Sometimes what someone says offends me to the point I have to defend my friend. It's something I can't help. |
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Dec 18 2007, 11:40 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Tell B that s/he can't force you to take a side. If s/he tries the "You're being a bad friend" excuse, tell them it's BS. If you don't want to take a side, then you don't have to take a side!
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Dec 18 2007, 02:12 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,574 Joined: Aug 2007 Member No: 555,438 |
Just press your pointer finger against her lips. Then tell her, "I had that between my ass cheeks all day long."
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Dec 18 2007, 03:36 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,071 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,748 |
^^
Haha, ewww. But yeh, that kind of thing has happened to me before. You did the right thing, its always better to not take a side, but you have to explain that to person B or whatever, because thats really not fair to you at all. |
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Dec 18 2007, 03:43 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 1,574 Joined: Aug 2007 Member No: 555,438 |
QUOTE(stephinika @ Dec 18 2007, 03:36 PM)  ^^ Haha, ewww. But yeh, that kind of thing has happened to me before. You did the right thing, its always better to not take a side, but you have to explain that to person B or whatever, because thats really not fair to you at all. Yeah, she did do the right thing. |
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Dec 19 2007, 09:55 PM
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tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
yeah, you guys agree that i did the right thing.
but friend b is being really vicious about this and is trying to steal my friends. the way friend b is acting is really immature, in my opinion. |
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Jan 13 2008, 02:33 AM
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tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
update to this story
we "made up" but, first day back from break after school i didn't acknowledge her presence when i was focused on something, so she stormed away and didn't talk to me for a week. im just done with her. |
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