topsy turvy, help. |
  |
 Dec 15 2007, 06:10 PM
Post
#1
|
|
 we go a-drowning  Group: Member Posts: 964 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 519,725  |
one my best gal friends has just confessed that she likes me intimately.
i do not know what to do, as i dont want to ruin the friendship. i have to see her tomorrow. any advice? |
|
|
|
|
Dec 15 2007, 06:14 PM
Post
#2
|
|
 Pokeball, GO! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,832 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,009 |
Well it depends. You didn't really clairify if you're interested or not yourself.
|
|
|
|
|
Dec 15 2007, 06:16 PM
Post
#3
|
|
|
we go a-drowning Group: Member Posts: 964 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 519,725 |
i am in a wonderful relationship with a guy,
and have been for the past year and 2 months. and she knows that. |
|
|
|
|
Dec 15 2007, 06:18 PM
Post
#4
|
|
 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
There's really not a lot to be done here. Chances are she's going to get her feelings hurt, no matter what, because you're in a relationship and you are in no way interested in her. I don't know if she wants a response by tomorrow, or what, but you should just cite that you're with a guy, once again. And that you prefer being romantically involved with guys?
|
|
|
|
|
Dec 15 2007, 06:20 PM
Post
#5
|
|
|
Pokeball, GO! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,832 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,009 |
QUOTE(deplorable @ Dec 15 2007, 06:16 PM)  i am in a wonderful relationship with a guy, and have been for the past year and 2 months. and she knows that. Be straight up then. It's going to hurt either way. You have to be sensitive though. Must be a crazy situation. Tell her you're friends but you don't feel that way about her and you want to keep your friendship alive. |
|
|
|
|
Dec 15 2007, 06:22 PM
Post
#6
|
|
|
we go a-drowning Group: Member Posts: 964 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 519,725 |
its not the first time this has happened. im kinda...err tomboyish, so i seem to attract women.
but this was a shocker bacause i had no idea she was interested in girls... and the fact that i am much older than her. |
|
|
|
|
Dec 15 2007, 06:34 PM
Post
#7
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,586 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 531,256 |
This happened to me once.
I wasn't really close to the girl but she kissed me in front of a shitload of people. Word got back to my boyfriend, it was just terrible.  I would just treat it the way you would if a guy had done the same thing. |
|
|
|
|
Dec 16 2007, 07:57 AM
Post
#8
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 235 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,772 |
0.0;; wow... that has happened with me before also...this bi- galfriend of mine like randomly told me that she likes me, and she knew that i have a boyfriend already, and she tries to make up shit to get me to break up with him or vice versa,so uh just kinda try to give out hints that you really arent interesting in her...slowly...and that you're interested in your boyfriend... if she doesnt get the hint, then try to talk to her... gently as possible...
|
|
|
|
|
Dec 16 2007, 10:36 AM
Post
#9
|
|
 Kimberly Group: Member Posts: 1,961 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,599 |
Just tell her that you're straight. Problem solved, right?
|
|
|
|
|
Dec 16 2007, 01:30 PM
Post
#10
|
|
 sugar and spice Group: Member Posts: 769 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 596,477 |
Your going to have to tell her eventually. If she was a real close friend she would respect your decision.
|
|
|
|
|
Dec 16 2007, 05:32 PM
Post
#11
|
|
 Addict Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,918 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,522 |
Oh, no. I had this once and it wigged me out so badly.
I don't really have any advise apart from the cynical take to run very fast in the opposite direction. |
|
|
|
|
Dec 16 2007, 07:10 PM
Post
#12
|
|
 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
Just tell her the way you feel. You like her but not in that way. If shes really your friend, she'll understand.
|
|
|
|
|
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: