breaking your hymen, virginity Options

[pettedpaccha]

Hi,
im new and have a very seneitive question for you all to answer. I'm still a virgin but i won't tell you how old as it's quite embarrassing really. It's not that i'm frigid or anything just that i've never had a boyfriend that lasted long enough, i had a hard time through school and sturggled with anorexia from very early on and so found it difficult to have a lasting relationship.

Thing is i really really need to lose my virginity now as it's became a really big issue for me, i'm scared to get close to any guy now for fear of him finding it out and thinking i'm a total loser or something, so i've been thinking about buying a dildo or something to break my hymen for myself, so then i don't have to worry and could simply get a boyfriend and enjoy a proper sex life like someone normal.

Please don't be harsh with me, i'm very sensitive and i guess niave. I've looked at pics of what hymen looks like and checked my own but i'd like to know if anyone can suggest a site or something that shows what your supposed to look like down there after lossing virginity and hymen is gone. Please help, and thanks in advance!!!

[angelrevelation]

0_0 why do you HAVE to break it/lose your virginity? You said yourself that you're naive, so I really don't think you're ready...

Wasn't there a topic exactly like this before?

[MissHygienic]

Just do it?

[MissFits]

You hymen is usually broken before you have sex.
Go ahead and buy yourself a dildo, a sex drive is something very natural.
Don't rush yourself. I think it's awesome you are still a virgin.

And, welcome to CB!

[deplorable]

i think youre too hard on yourself.

but i do understand what you are going through. i suffered from anorexia and a sick obsession to excercise in my grade 10 year. and i do suffer from a very low self esteem. anyways, i wont go into details...

but ive finally met a person i do love, truely love. i still dont plan to have sex until after marriage, but just having someone who cherishes me is a comfort.

i think your plans can only end in heart break, and even lower self esteem. there isnt anything wrong with being a virgin, and if you meet a guy who thinks there is, well, hes insensitive and probably not the type of guy you want to hang with, much less date or sleep with.

[pandora]

guys like virgins so i wouldnt be too worried; really.

[karmakiller]

Thing is i really really need to lose my virginity now as it's became a really big issue for me, i'm scared to get close to any guy now for fear of him finding it out and thinking i'm a total loser or something, so i've been thinking about buying a dildo or something to break my hymen for myself, so then i don't have to worry and could simply get a boyfriend and enjoy a proper sex life like someone normal

Honestly, I think you need to work on your self esteem. Your hymen's probably already been broken. Esspecially if you've used tampons. If you want to go buy yourself a sex toy, go with. Get used to your sexuality and maybe you'll become more comfortable with it. Don't have sex because you "need to".

[Gryffindor-Girl]

Honestly, I think you need to work on your self esteem. Your hymen's probably already been broken. Esspecially if you've used tampons. If you want to go buy yourself a sex toy, go with. Get used to your sexuality and maybe you'll become more comfortable with it. Don't have sex because you "need to".

Exactly first things first you need to work on your self esteem and there is a GOOD chance that your hymen is already Broken.

[Sandraaa]

OMG. The thought of devirgining yourself made me cringe. Ouch. I'll assume you're 23 - 25. Like someone said, guys like virgins. At least, self respecting guys. You shouldn't worry.

[S-Majere]

This made me really sad when I was reading your post, pettedpaccha.

I'm 20 this year and I'm still a virgin - I'm so proud of that fact.

There is nothing to be ashamed of, and certainly no rush to deflower yourself. Thinking that by losing your virginity will give you more confidence and self esteem is worrying - in fact it may well have the exact opposite effect. Using sex as a means to an end (in your case self confidence by the sound of things) is very unwise and will only end poorly.

Find yourself a loving gentleman and see where that leads before you jump without looking where you're going.

[nosylilme]

^ Listen to her.

You shouldn't be ashamed of being a virgin, no matter what your age is. Wait until you find someone you care about and who cares about you, imo.

[tempra]

ne yazıyor anlamıyorum ama kizlik bozmak cok tatli

[*paperplane*]

^wtf?

[timeflies51]

Why are you worried about some guy thinking that you're lame if you're a virgin?

If you find the right guy and feel ABSOLUTELY comfortable enough to have sex with him, then HE SHOULDN'T CARE if you're a virgin or not.

If he does care, don't have sex with him and send him packing.