ay help, boy trouble Options

[LizzieCupcakes]

ok this is pretty lame and i think the answer is pretty logical. ok i have a boy friend who i've been with nearly a year and we've had our ups and downs in our relationship but the thing its a long distance relationship which makes things ALOT harder. so recently i moved to a new school and met new people because of my brother because he is well known at the school. so i met tons of his friends and one of the them i met a couple of months ago. when i met him we just started talking and i thought he was really nice. weeks went by or so and i saw him again when i went to go talk to a teacher in the class with my brother. the same day i got a text from my brother to text him cause he wanted to talk to me. so i started texting him and we began texting each other back and forth alot since then. But the thing about this kid is that he has a girlfriend =/ which is lame because i really really like him even though i have a boyfriend. well since we've been texting each other, a couple of days ago he asked if i wanted to be his "secret gf" at school. i thought about it and decided not to because i would probably end up getting hurt so i said no but we still talk. i really want to be with him but idunno what to do but my chances are shot down cause he does have a gf but i feel bad for feeling like this even though i have a bf. so what should i do? end things with my boyfriend for feeling this way or ignore it cause its just a silly crush?

Added since 12/21/07
Ok well since I typed that ^ I kept talking to the other guy and we got closer then before. I didn't tell my boyfriend a word about it. Me and the other guy would hang out alot during lunch and just flirt with each other. Well we where messing around and he decided he was gonna be really cute and give me kisses on the cheek and forehead during second period. well it never happened cause i got caught out of class so I had to go back so we texted each other saying maybe tomorrow. i talked to my brother about it and he said not to do anything with him because he said he didnt want me to have a bed rep. at school for it so i texted the other guy back saying the kisses werent gonna happen anymore and that we should just be friends and he said he understood. the next day was the last day of school before winter break and I asked him if he wanted his gift i was gonna give him for christmas and he sure. well during first period i told him in a text he was lame and hard to forget cause i still wanted something with him and he said it was nice for me to care. and at that point i thought he gave a f**k because he was being rude and mean and through out the whole day i was mad because now that i wanted to be friends he was being mean towards me so i decided not to give him the present and give it to my friends. then he ended texting me back asking if he was gonna go get the present and i said no and to not worry about it and hes told me whatever. well on myspace i saw him and i tried talking to him to make things calm and he ignored my messages until he sent me some sad videos in a comment and i didnt get what he was doing and then he sent a message saying i was lame and hard to forget and from then we where talking about how we felt i told him the only reason i wanted to be friends was because i didnt want to be his plan B or his alternative and i guess he got mad cause i called him a "player" or "pimp" and he said I should of never thought that cause he was gonna leave his girl for me but I apparently f**ked it up so he wasnt gonna do anything anymore and the whole day he was mad at me cause i "labeled" him and that he hated that in people well he finally texted saying if we wanted to hang out and i said sure and then we ended up arguing again about dumb stuff and hes like dont come tomorrow cause i dont want you too and then he said i dont think i can talk to you the same way and said bye

so now the problem is how can get him to be my friend again or at least be in good terms cause i dont want to be in bad terms because when i go back to school I'm gonna have a class with him so i dont want things to be awkward with him. I thought of dropping the class cause its just student government so i dont really need to be in it.

so help me out =/

[Call911Quick]

Go with whoever you like more. Not to be pessimistic, but regardless of who you go for I doubt they're the person you're gonna end up marrying, so just go for whichever person you have more fun with. That would probably be ur "secret bf".

[love-issosweet]

I say that it's just a little crush. You should stay with your current boyfriend. You guys seem very close and I think you'll definitely regret losing him. The guy who wants you to be his "secret gf" sounds pretty gay. If he's willing to cheat on his current girlfriend, then it's a good chance that he'll cheat on you if you guys ever go out.

[deplorable]

cut it off at the source. quit fueling the fire. youre just trying to fill the void you have since having a long distance relationship.

[MissFits]

You know what you want to do because you said the answer was obvious. Regardless of what we say, you are going to do what you want.
That being said I am going to offer my advice anyway.
I would tell your brothers friend to fuck off. If he is willing to have you as his "secret girlfriend" while he has another lady he probably isn't that great of a guy.
I would also try to fix whatever is bothering you about your current boyfriend. Christmas break is probably coming up and I would suggest that you two spend some time together. If the spark is gone break it off and spend some time being single.

[LizzieCupcakes]

well you guys are probably right about the other guy cause I have thought about it the whole secret bf with him because he would probably end up doing the same to me so i might as well not care what he does or say to me so i guess im gonna stand my ground with what i got right now

[LizzieCupcakes]

helllp out again =/

[MissHygienic]

Wow, this was extremely difficult to read. I don't recall ever seeing a comma.

Anyway, I honestly don't see what the problem is, here. You're not best friends with him, and you have more people than him in your class. What's the big deal? What is there to salvage, exactly? With these feeble friendships, more good will come out of not pushing the tension further. And, both of you need to stop being petty.

[DoubleJ]

Pettyness leads you to nowhere in the end. Grow the f**k up and keep it moving or keep it grooving. Seriouslly now, I don't understand why people waste their time on little childish drama, but I am one to say something. At your age, I was doing the same thing. Those were the days

[Smarmosaur]

lame.
typical BS. you don't NEED a boyfriend. why cause more trouble in your life? either ditch them both or keep the one you have.

[LianaIsTheShit]

have a secret bf. your real boyfriend is long-distance, which i think is kinda silly (sorry). but this guy is real, he's right there and he obviously likes you. but, if he likes you enough he should dump his current girlfriend. no guy deserves two girls. NO guy.

[LizzieCupcakes]

have a secret bf. your real boyfriend is long-distance, which i think is kinda silly (sorry). but this guy is real, he's right there and he obviously likes you. but, if he likes you enough he should dump his current girlfriend. no guy deserves two girls. NO guy.

well yeah that too but i dont want to be selfish or anything with the other guy but i think i need state some rules with him but idunno though because hes being a dick with me

[ReggieM]

im not going to read your freaking research paper but my best bet is he doesnt like you.