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 Dec 6 2007, 12:26 PM
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 shboom =]  Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693  |
ok so me and my mom have always had problems and she has always treated me like shit but now its getting worse. she has like most of the family turned against me. and she is constan;y calling me a whore and shit like that. and she is trying to kick me out of the house im 17 but i'll be 18 in 2 weeks. and she has my dad turned agaisnt me too he told me that he wanted to ship me off into the military so he never had to see me again.
so i decided that i needed to talk to someone so i talked to my uncle(my mom's bro) bc he is the only one who doesn't listen to the shit my mom says about me. and he told me that there have been problems passed thru their family for many generations and that he is pretty sure my mom is bi-polar and problbly has something else wrong to she just wont admit it. so i was going to get out of the house like she told me to bc i don't care if she kicks me out i'd rather be out on the streets than with her. but i was going to move in with my cousin but my uncle and my teacher at school was concerned that even tho my parents told me to get out that my mom would try and call the cops and report me as a runaway. so im stuck as to what i should do? should i try to stay there until i turn 18 and then move out? should i get out now? or should i just stay all together? |
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Dec 6 2007, 12:34 PM
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 Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
You have two more weeks til' your 18 years old, just wait it out. You've been 17 almost 18 years with her, what's two weeks going to do?
The day you turn 18 move somewhere else, get away from her and don't talk to her for a while. If she tries contacting you to apologize I suppose you can talk to her but if shes just trying to contact you to start shit then I would suggest just ignoring her. Start packing your stuff and tell her on your birthday you'll move out. |
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Dec 6 2007, 12:40 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Dec 6 2007, 12:34 PM)  You have two more weeks til' your 18 years old, just wait it out. You've been 17 almost 18 years with her, what's two weeks going to do? The day you turn 18 move somewhere else, get away from her and don't talk to her for a while. If she tries contacting you to apologize I suppose you can talk to her but if shes just trying to contact you to start shit then I would suggest just ignoring her. Start packing your stuff and tell her on your birthday you'll move out. thanks. yea its just hard. because i know that even after i turn 18 and move out my mom is going to try and control me still and is going to always try and start shit with me because thats just how she is. im just tired of always being stressed out and shit because of it. |
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Dec 6 2007, 12:45 PM
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 RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
You moving out at 18 is going to take you down a road you might not be ready to tread. Do you have a steady source of income, if not do you have a well compiled resume and a job in mind that you can set out for like...now? Chances are if your moving in with cousins that won't work out for to long, that's like moving in with your best friends, things go bad quickly when you add rent, utilities, and living commodities into a friendship setting so keep the fact that you may have to rent an apartment on your own at any time if things go bad & remember, just because things aren't going so well now, don't say or do anything to completely burn down a bridge you don't really want to, your mom will always be your mom and your dad will always be your dad, your going to get older and realize that no matter how bad it seemed, you wish you could have gone back and worked it out, so don't close this door all the way just because your pissed, step back, take a breather, analyze the ENTIRE situation and every possible route you could go, and make a decisions from there, don't decide anything in the heat of the moment.
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Dec 6 2007, 12:51 PM
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Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
I'm not quite as old as you are but my mom sounds about the same. She tries to control her surroundings and she manipulates a lot of people to get on her side of things. I didn't talk to my mom for months and I really only talk to her once or twice a month. It's best in my opinion.
Just ignore her for a while, and get your life on the right track and enjoy it without her. You won't regret it I'm sure. |
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Dec 6 2007, 12:52 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
QUOTE(RyanWasHere @ Dec 6 2007, 12:45 PM) You moving out at 18 is going to take you down a road you might not be ready to tread. Do you have a steady source of income, if not do you have a well compiled resume and a job in mind that you can set out for like...now? Chances are if your moving in with cousins that won't work out for to long, that's like moving in with your best friends, things go bad quickly when you add rent, utilities, and living commodities into a friendship setting so keep the fact that you may have to rent an apartment on your own at any time if things go bad & remember, just because things aren't going so well now, don't say or do anything to completely burn down a bridge you don't really want to, your mom will always be your mom and your dad will always be your dad, your going to get older and realize that no matter how bad it seemed, you wish you could have gone back and worked it out, so don't close this door all the way just because your pissed, step back, take a breather, analyze the ENTIRE situation and every possible route you could go, and make a decisions from there, don't decide anything in the heat of the moment. well i wont have to pay rent or anything like that. bc my cousin is older and she's taking me in like her own daughter. bc she has a daughter and so im going to live with them because i can't stay at my house. until my mom decides that she's willing to get help i will not stay there. and i can't. i can't keep living like that. i have to get out one way or another ya know? and im not going out and trying to fully be on my own bc i would rather stay at home but with as bad at it is i don't think i can |
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Dec 6 2007, 12:55 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
yea and i try to ignore her but she never lets me leave the house like hardly ever. and never in my life have i actullay been able to go out and have fun with friends. she doesn't let me do anything and i don't think she'll ever let me do anything. and i can't live like that. i mean how am i ever suppose to be able to grow up if she keeps me shielded like this ya know?
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Dec 6 2007, 12:56 PM
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Cornflakes :D Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,541 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 322,923 |
Well..
two weeks! |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:02 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
yea i just hope they hurry up and fly by..lol
because monday she woke me up at 4 in the morning to yell at me and call me a whore and a slut knowing that i had to go to school. and last night she woke me up at 2 in the morning and didn't let me go back to bed until 4. i think she's doing it just to be a bitch. and she made me give her the password to my email and myspace how lame is that? but im not stupid and i didn't give her the password to the email that i actually use..lol |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:04 PM
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QUOTE(barbieeedollxo @ Dec 6 2007, 02:02 PM) yea i just hope they hurry up and fly by..lol because monday she woke me up at 4 in the morning to yell at me and call me a whore and a slut knowing that i had to go to school. and last night she woke me up at 2 in the morning and didn't let me go back to bed until 4. i think she's doing it just to be a bitch. and she made me give her the password to my email and myspace how lame is that? but im not stupid and i didn't give her the password to the email that i actually use..lol does she do drugs?... or an alcoholic |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:06 PM
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RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(jeanna @ Dec 6 2007, 01:04 PM) does she do drugs?... or an alcoholic A better question is why is she so upset, do you have a history of drug use, problems in school or with authority? EDIT:: Meant to add suspecting of your activities online or with your friends as well as upset. |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:25 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
QUOTE(RyanWasHere @ Dec 6 2007, 01:06 PM) A better question is why is she so upset, do you have a history of drug use, problems in school or with authority? EDIT:: Meant to add suspecting of your activities online or with your friends as well as upset. she just wants control over everything and everyone. yea i've lied to her but that was only so i could actually go out and have fun with my friends. i mean seriously what teenager whants to stay at home all day everyday and not be able to go out and have fun. yea i've made mistakes i've done stuff wrong but all teenagers do. but i have given her no reason to hate me and she tells me everyday how much she hates me and wants to get rid of me. i think my mom has some serious problems that she needs to deal with. and no i've never drank but like 1 sup and i hated it. and i've never done drugs. |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:29 PM
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QUOTE(barbieeedollxo @ Dec 6 2007, 02:25 PM) she just wants control over everything and everyone. yea i've lied to her but that was only so i could actually go out and have fun with my friends. i mean seriously what teenager whants to stay at home all day everyday and not be able to go out and have fun. yea i've made mistakes i've done stuff wrong but all teenagers do. but i have given her no reason to hate me and she tells me everyday how much she hates me and wants to get rid of me. i think my mom has some serious problems that she needs to deal with. and no i've never drank but like 1 sup and i hated it. and i've never done drugs. i mean does SHE do drugs |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:31 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
NO she doesn't drink
she doesn't do drugs. not that im aware of. i just think she has some major issues. snd she needs theraphy. but she doesn't believe she has a problem. |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:32 PM
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RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(barbieeedollxo @ Dec 6 2007, 01:25 PM) she just wants control over everything and everyone. yea i've lied to her but that was only so i could actually go out and have fun with my friends. i mean seriously what teenager whants to stay at home all day everyday and not be able to go out and have fun. yea i've made mistakes i've done stuff wrong but all teenagers do. but i have given her no reason to hate me and she tells me everyday how much she hates me and wants to get rid of me. i think my mom has some serious problems that she needs to deal with. and no i've never drank but like 1 sup and i hated it. and i've never done drugs. Hmm, alright well I can't really say much more because I don't know your mother or fathers side of the story and how life has been, but from what you've told me maybe she does have some emotional disorder she needs to get diagnosed and treated for, I really don't know though. |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:37 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
QUOTE(RyanWasHere @ Dec 6 2007, 01:32 PM) Hmm, alright well I can't really say much more because I don't know your mother or fathers side of the story and how life has been, but from what you've told me maybe she does have some emotional disorder she needs to get diagnosed and treated for, I really don't know though. yea but she wont get help. because she thinks she's perfect. lol |
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Dec 6 2007, 01:50 PM
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QUOTE(barbieeedollxo @ Dec 6 2007, 02:31 PM) NO she doesn't drink she doesn't do drugs. not that im aware of. i just think she has some major issues. snd she needs theraphy. but she doesn't believe she has a problem. sound 100% like my mom. it's so much better once they are out of your life. she too has tried to control my life but since she moved down to the keys, it was only through the computer and im thankful for the block button |
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Dec 6 2007, 02:02 PM
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RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(jeanna @ Dec 6 2007, 01:50 PM) sound 100% like my mom. it's so much better once they are out of your life. she too has tried to control my life but since she moved down to the keys, it was only through the computer and im thankful for the block button Well it sounds like you girls can relate to each other more than I can understand the situation from my point of view, so I'll just read from now on until someone says something that I understand 
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Dec 6 2007, 02:06 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
QUOTE(jeanna @ Dec 6 2007, 01:50 PM) sound 100% like my mom. it's so much better once they are out of your life. she too has tried to control my life but since she moved down to the keys, it was only through the computer and im thankful for the block button haha. yea thats exactly what i'll do.. lol bc im not going to let her control me anymore im sick n tired of it. |
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Dec 6 2007, 02:06 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
QUOTE(RyanWasHere @ Dec 6 2007, 02:02 PM) Well it sounds like you girls can relate to each other more than I can understand the situation from my point of view, so I'll just read from now on until someone says something that I understand lol well thanks for talking tho. its always nice to know that someone listens and actually cares. |
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Dec 6 2007, 02:20 PM
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RyanIsCoolerThanYou<3 Group: Member Posts: 514 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 525,502 |
QUOTE(barbieeedollxo @ Dec 6 2007, 02:06 PM) lol well thanks for talking tho. its always nice to know that someone listens and actually cares. Yup, keep your head up kid, shit always gets better...always. 
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Dec 9 2007, 04:11 PM
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i think you should just wait to turn 18, its in about two weeks right? isnt it illegal to move out when you're under 18? and plus just to be on the safe side, you dont want your mom to report the cops that you are a runaway, so just stay for two weeks and you're free...damn i bless you... ><
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Dec 10 2007, 09:25 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 5,166 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,858 |
is there a reason she want you out..? i'm sure there's something going on that you're not saying.. i need more info so i can help.
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Dec 12 2007, 08:32 PM
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shboom =] Group: Member Posts: 160 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 505,693 |
thanks for all the advice guys!
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Dec 13 2007, 02:27 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(Insurmountable @ Dec 6 2007, 12:34 PM) You have two more weeks til' your 18 years old, just wait it out. You've been 17 almost 18 years with her, what's two weeks going to do? The day you turn 18 move somewhere else, get away from her and don't talk to her for a while. If she tries contacting you to apologize I suppose you can talk to her but if shes just trying to contact you to start shit then I would suggest just ignoring her. Start packing your stuff and tell her on your birthday you'll move out. It's a little harder than that, dude. I'm 19 and not ready to move out yet. |
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