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 Nov 27 2007, 08:40 PM
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What if your in the scenario where you and your significant just got into a small argument about lying to each other but after awhile you guys agreed to stop lying.
Then he says I love you for the very first time in his life. But after agreeing not to lie, you can't really say I love you back because you don't. What would you say? What would you do? |
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Nov 27 2007, 08:48 PM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
Don't tell him that you love him if you don't feel that way? I'm not really feeling this story. It's so vague and out there and it depends on your relationship. Lying in a relationship doesn't seem to be a good thing but you're calling him as your "significant other."
Anyway, if my boyfriend were to do that, like lie to me for the whole time, I would not be with him, and I would most certainly never reciprocate his, "I love you." |
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Nov 28 2007, 09:11 AM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
Depends how long and intimate the relationship is.. Or how far it's progressed. Even if the significant other says "I love you", one does not know for sure how strong that "I love you" truly is. Numerous times have I heard people toss around those three little words, and it becomes meaningless shortly after.
If those meaningful words are not truly felt by you, then don't say it. Even if he means it or is lying. If you don't truly feel it, then don't say it. And I concur that the scenario does seem vague. Even if the significant other means what s/he says, there is no obligation to reciprocate. But once again, it depends on the circumstances. |
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Nov 28 2007, 12:51 PM
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My boyfriend told me he loved me quite early on, before I knew I loved him.
When he said it, I just poked fun at him saying he couldn't possibly love me after only a few months. Don't ever feel pressured into returning that which you simply can't for now. |
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Nov 28 2007, 12:59 PM
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i never really loved any of the guys who told me they loved me. BUT i had to say it back or they would have gone nuts...
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Nov 28 2007, 02:04 PM
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^No, you don't have to say it back.
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Nov 28 2007, 02:12 PM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Nov 28 2007, 03:04 PM)  ^No, you don't have to say it back. one time i didn't say it and then they said it again as if i didn't hear them. i dont want to imagine if i told them the truth. but that's a main reason why im not dating |
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Nov 28 2007, 07:53 PM
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It really depends on the situation and the specific people, but I honestly believe that if you don't mean it, don't say it back.
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Nov 28 2007, 11:24 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
I guess you have to tell the truth. Think of this, would you rather lie to him and have him find out in the future that you don't feel the same even though you said you did or telling him you don't feel the same and that you didn't wanna lie?
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Nov 29 2007, 12:31 PM
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Don't say it back yet. Tell him the truth, which is that you don't love him quite yet but most likely will in the future. Also, him saying "I love you" is not an acceptable excuse for all the lies he's told you, so don't accept it.
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Nov 29 2007, 01:18 PM
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Be truthful to yourself. Don't say it because you don't feel it. Don't tell him you don't love him flat out. Just say you need some time to sort out your feelings or don't say anything at all.
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