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 Nov 22 2007, 03:47 PM
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okay i have a problem... i like two guys at the same time, one of them is my boyfriend, but at the same time i also like one of my guyfriends. I love my boyfriend to death,but everytime my guyfriend and i hangout/go on dates, both me and him(guyfriend) got more and more comfortable with each other and fall more and more for each other, but my guyfriend wasnt really sure if he really wants "us" to be well.. an "US" relationship... but he really really likes me though... and my boyfriend? well... yeah we both love each other really much, but theres only one problem... he lives in the different state from me. Now whenever me and my guyfriend are seen "together" everyone assumes that we're already boyfriend and girlfriend... and last night he said that he misses me, and that he would always think of me, and he would talk about me to his friends so much now... does that mean that we are in a relationship? should i just wait for him to ask me out? or should i just stay with my boyfriend? well.. correction make that "ex" for now i dont know what to do... anymore...
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Nov 22 2007, 03:53 PM
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Wtf? You have a boyfriend whom you claim to love yet you also claim to be in love with another guy. Um, just because he says he misses you doesn't mean you're in a relationship. And if you're considering accepting to be his gilfriend and already consider your current boyfriend as your ex then I think you should definitely break up with your boyfriend (PHEW). Actually, what you need is a break. Clear your head and make up your mind.
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Nov 22 2007, 03:54 PM
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QUOTE(Smilessss @ Nov 22 2007, 03:47 PM)  does that mean that we are in a relationship? should i just wait for him to ask me out? If he never asked you out officially, then no, right now you're not in a relationship with him. If you're already referring to your boyfriend as your ex, then it sounds like you know you want to break up with him. Have you met him in real life? And does your boyfriend know about how you feel about your guy friend? |
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Nov 22 2007, 03:54 PM
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 YUNJAESU<3 Group: Official Member Posts: 1,291 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,275 |
You aren't in a relationship with your guyfriend because he didn't officially ask you out yet.
Well, since it is a long distance relationship, are you committed to it? Who do you love more? Who are you more comfortable with? Who can you picture yourself being with? I would suggest the guy friend, though. |
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Nov 22 2007, 09:44 PM
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You don't love either of them.
So, I think that solves your problems. |
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Nov 22 2007, 10:25 PM
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 Resource Center Tyrant Group: Official Member Posts: 2,263 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,306 |
I don't see how this should even be a problem. There is no "clearing" to do; you are committing an emotional affair, and this isn't fair to either party. Do yourself a favor and don't get involved in relationships if you feel this way.
You are asking strangers on a forum if you should break up with your boyfriend. The way I see it, if you were actually serious, it wouldn't such a quick, "yes" or "no" response amongst forum members. Let it go altogether. |
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Nov 22 2007, 10:59 PM
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 AKA RockIt Studios Group: Official Member Posts: 2,286 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 421,809 |
there's a easy solution to this: you're not in love with either of them.
there's a big difference between loving somebody and being in love. |
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Nov 22 2007, 11:03 PM
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 That's what she said. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,559 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,200 |
I find it kinda hard to believe you're in love with two people.
 Long distance relationships are hard to manage and you have to be committed to it. To answer your question, who do you like more? Is it worth breaking up with your current boyfriend to be with your guyfriend?
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Nov 25 2007, 11:22 AM
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okay this situation is pretty much solved XD... lol it turned out that my bf(my ex now) has someone following him so much and telling crap about me behind my back and telling everyone crap about me behind my back, so i kinda got tired and dont want to go through the drama again, shes been doing this eversince last year...so i just told him to go with her even if he doesnt like her, but i told him to at least try,and at the thanksgiving party, i told my guyfriend about it, and guess what? he asked me out so now we're going out *n.n* happy ending eh? hopefully we'll last long <3333
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Nov 25 2007, 01:04 PM
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Good for you.
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Nov 26 2007, 12:09 PM
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 The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Nov 22 2007, 10:25 PM) I don't see how this should even be a problem. There is no "clearing" to do; you are committing an emotional affair, and this isn't fair to either party. Do yourself a favor and don't get involved in relationships if you feel this way. You are asking strangers on a forum if you should break up with your boyfriend. The way I see it, if you were actually serious, it wouldn't such a quick, "yes" or "no" response amongst forum members. Let it go altogether. Agreed. You are only going to do more harm than good. |
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Nov 26 2007, 02:05 PM
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You know what, this happened to me once. It really pissed me off. I was a boyfriend who trusted his girlfriend enough to not freak out when she's with other guys. She got attracted to that other guy and kept hanging out with him. He feels kept developing. We both learned a good lesson. Fuck this, it offends me. I'm rarely offended by stupiditybut this reminds me of my past. You're just another stupid bitch who's riding on feelings.
You say love your boyfriend? Well then stop hangin' with the kid who you're having feelings for. You have to be an idiot to not realize you have control over this situation. You're letting yourself fall for this kid. It's in your hand you fucking moron. Shit, I want to put my fist through the wall right now. I'm glad everything worked out. In the future, don't use the word love. Your former relationship was nothing. Don't make it seem more than it actually is. |
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Nov 26 2007, 02:10 PM
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The Resident Drunk Group: Head Staff Posts: 8,623 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,266 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Nov 26 2007, 02:05 PM) You know what, this happened to me once. It really pissed me off. I was a boyfriend who trusted his girlfriend enough to not freak out when she's with other guys. She got attracted to that other guy and kept hanging out with him. He feels kept developing. We both learned a good lesson. Fuck this, it offends me. I'm rarely offended by stupiditybut this reminds me of my past. You're just another stupid bitch who's riding on feelings. You say love your boyfriend? Well then stop hangin' with the kid who you're having feelings for. You have to be an idiot to not realize you have control over this situation. You're letting yourself fall for this kid. It's in your hand you fucking moron. Shit, I want to put my fist through the wall right now. I second that....This man is full of knowledge meng! |
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Nov 26 2007, 10:02 PM
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agreed, love is NOT a word you should use lightly.
i'd call that a fling, infatuation, like. but once you're in love, you better be decicated to that person for a lifetime. but everything worked out fine, so i hope you two last a while |
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Dec 2 2007, 10:17 AM
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I second what he said up there, this is pretty offensive to me, as well. I've been through the same thing, except I'm a girl. I trusted my boyfriend not to hurt me while he hung out with girl after girl after girl, and his "best friend" turned out to be the one he cheated on with the majority of the time. There were a few others thrown in there, and they all knew damn well that we were supposed to be together. Of course, I never knew about it until he accidentally blabs that he might have gotten an STD, and it sure as hell wasn't from me. Luckily, that was in June... I hadn't seen the dumbass since April. It's kind of a f**ked up situation.
So you dumped the boyfriend and you got with the friend? Wow. I hope you get every little thing you deserve. |
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