High School Kids, These Days... Options

[Tung]

I am sick of the guy who obsesses over the girl: the songwriter, 3458345 telephone messages, love notes, picnics under the stars, the works. Girl breaks up with him and he mopes for the rest of his life. Love. no, loneliness, lack of confidence, insecurity.

And high school. face it. your high school relationships are probably going nowhere. "high school love." that's a contradiction in itself. rarely does one find "love" in high school, and when students claim to "love," it's usually merely an illusion created by their idealistic brighteyed and bushytailedness, as well as a need to feel wanted, or to attach themselves to something concrete. Or perhaps they're bored and feel the need to get caught up in the whole dating fad. After all, it does get them the attention they crave. They're just abusing the word to fit their own false, superficial situation.

So I ask you to think a little more when you confess "love." If there's one thing I hate, it's people who don't take things seriously about using the word love. And yes, i'm one of those people who takes everything seriously about using the word love.

[*Girthy*]

i dont believe in high school love either.
but i do believe in love.
i just don't think it's going to happen in highschool especially like that young.
maybe, i don't know.

[lidoxtitty]

love = ass

[RAWRstephishere]

If you havent noticed, the same people who say they are in "love" with a guy 3 years older than them also thing they can get pregnant without having actual sex.

[MissFits]

But what if y'all grew up together and you were like family (you knew them all your life) and you could really say you loved them? Like the way you love your best friend. But then you dated them for like two years, and you really fell in love with them?

I know a couple like that...they got engaged their senior year, and married their freshman year in college. They are both like 26 now and seem to be working out just fine, but yeah that's a rare, rare case.

My Fiance has been my best friend since we met in 7th grade, we started dating our Junior year. We graduated last year, and we are getting married next Halloween :)

I know that this is not always the case for everyone, but it does happen.

[xforgottenlove]

mmm well me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years and he's even talked about us being married and stuff in the future (in a serious manner). well, iono. but you're right. i don't know ANY couples at my school that have lasted this long. :/

[pinayprincess]

i can name a few couples that used to go to my school that have have made it passed high school and still together till this day.................... its called high school sweet hearts..... and anyways its HIGH SCHOOL... yeah not all love is serious, but let them learn it for themselves and pick it up on later... i mean two my aunts and uncles are high school sweet hearts!

[queen]

so, love has an age? when exactly do you think it's "serious" enough to really be love?

[dustbunny]

^ when they actually know what love is.


hugging in hallways, middle school flings, and crushing on people you've never talked to before is NOT love.

[queen]

i think true love can be found at any age. i mean there are people who've been married for years claiming love and end up divorcing. there are high schoolers out there who are able to find true love. i don't really think of it as a contradiction.

[salcha4u]

But what if y'all grew up together and you were like family (you knew them all your life) and you could really say you loved them? Like the way you love your best friend. But then you dated them for like two years, and you really fell in love with them?

I know a couple like that...they got engaged their senior year, and married their freshman year in college. They are both like 26 now and seem to be working out just fine, but yeah that's a rare, rare case.

Lol my friend's grandparents met their freshman year in high school and they still hold hands even till now.

[dustbunny]

i think true love can be found at any age. i mean there are people who've been married for years claiming love and end up divorcing. there are high schoolers out there who are able to find true love. i don't really think of it as a contradiction.

You're right, true love CAN be found at any age. However, the problem is that everyone THINKS they have found true love at a young age, which is almost always not true. Yes there are special cases obviously, since there are people who mature early, but does your average 16 year old teenager know what love is? let alone what color shoes they want to wear that day? the issue is not that love can only be felt at a certain age, but rather the distorted view of love nowadays. Teens assume they are in love because they what..hold hands? have sex? That is not love.

[Gigi]

^ I don't think you need to know what love is in order to be in love. Love has no real definition...if only a definition prevented you from experiencing anything, what would be the point of experimentation? You wouldn't need to experiment. You would know what it is. No one would go skydiving to find out how it actually feels like if they already know. Fact is, no one knows what love is for sure, and only the individual person can decide for themselves. And that usually involves some trial and error.

[queen]

i believe if a person is happy getting "butterflies" in their stomach when they see the person they think they "love", it's better than not feeling that way at all.

children may be naive, but they have the right idea. they know no rules or parameters, they just feel. sure, there are teenagers who superficialize it, but if they think they're in love then who are we to claim they're not.

of course, there are others who do abuse the word, claiming to be in love while cheating on their mate or having flings. in that case, i believe that individual is just being selfish. that's when the word truly is demeaned.

[Tung]

All of you who have shared your stories about people you know who met in highschool and are now married or whatever. That isn't the point. I said you can't really find love in highschool. Sure maybe they were together and met in highschool, and then continue dating in college and so on. I'm saying they most likely finally found true love when they were in college of after college or something. It most likely wasnt until there relationship lasted till college or after college was when they finally knew what love really is.

[queen]

^i guess that would just depend on one's definition of love.

i mean what is it really? why should it depend on time? does that mean people who have only been together for six weeks do not love each other as much as people who have been together for six years? i just don't think there's a time issue. sure, a maturity issue, but one can argue that there are just as many 20 something year olds that are as immature, if not more, than high schoolers.

[*ersatz*]

What if one person's in high school and one person's in college? Huh? Huh?

GOT YOUUUUUUUUU

[datass]

^hahahaha

tung youre so miserable though ):
(not saying youre pathetic)

[six]

let me tell you something that isn't obvious... you can't stop love mang! even superman couldn't stop it. ya'll cant deny it! i'm a phucin rider, you dont wanna phuc wit me~

[*Spencer*]

Uh Tung, don't you have a girlfriend? And besides, you're out of high school...who the f**k cares what these "high school kids" do anymore. It seems silly to dwell on something that you're not even involved with.

[Tung]

Yes i have a gf. And I care because 75% of cB is high school kids. And 90% of the threads they make on relationship forum is so ignorant. OMG I THINK HE LOVES ME BECAUSE HE JUST WAVED TO ME. OMG OMG. WHAT SHOULD I DO? And Spencer, seriously, get the f**k off my nuts, you been on my ass ever since the Kristina incident. Seriously f**k off.

[EmoEyelinerx]

Some couples can be in love in high school. Its just a rare case though.

-Omg A week ago I found out my school has the most teen pregnacys in our state lol

[pinacoolada]

It is possible though.
One can fall in love during high school.

I dated this guy freshman year. The 2nd week we were dating, he dropped the l-bomb. I laughed. Literally. I was like...er..sorry but, it's too early for that. You don't even know me that well.

I think in order to love someone, you have to know everything about them. I'm not saying you have to memorize their routines, habits etc...you just have to know them pretty well. You have to be able to accept their flaws, and even learn to love their flaws.

[pinacoolada]

^ what discussion?

[*Michelle*]

Tung... we have a zillion topics similar to this. -_-

WE f**kING GET IT - YOU THINK YOU KNOW WHAT LOVE IS! shut up. Please.

[Tung]

If there is, then why don't you close this topic already. And please don't tell me to shut up. If you don't like what i have to say, don't bother reading them.

[AimeeLynn]

I agree High school love isn't love...it's lust.

[*Spencer*]

Yes i have a gf. And I care because 75% of cB is high school kids. And 90% of the threads they make on relationship forum is so ignorant. OMG I THINK HE LOVES ME BECAUSE HE JUST WAVED TO ME. OMG OMG. WHAT SHOULD I DO? And Spencer, seriously, get the f**k off my nuts, you been on my ass ever since the Kristina incident. Seriously f**k off.

Not everyone is on your nuts like you'd like them to be. It's just funny that you think you're the Dr. Drew of cB. Let people do what they want. I understand you have an opinion and that's why I didn't say "hey, don't express it". You did, however, post about how you loved fat people and though a lot of people didn't agree, it's still there, isn't it? Yes. Just like you can express your hate towards fat people, high school kids can confess whatever love they have. But again, it's just a difference of opinion.

I don't know why you think I have something against you. It's called debating. Not agreeing with someone does not mean they are against you in every aspect, it's just differing opinions.

[Tung]

Uh. Spencer, Suz says to stop discussing about this on this thread, you know. Take it to PM. like you always say to others. Damn spammer.

[*Michelle*]

If there is, then why don't you close this topic already. And please don't tell me to shut up. If you don't like what i have to say, don't bother reading them.

Keke hokay

[Comptine]

I'm so sick of people saying high school love isn't love and you need to be older to know what love is.

So, if you don't date during high school and college, how do you know what love is when you're thirty? You're five years old and you know you love your parents, how do you know what love is?

Love is an emotion. It's innately within people to feel (though some people just lack it and a conscience). It's not a duty or a skill you have to wait till you're "old" enough to experience it. Some relationships aren't love but there are people who are in a committed relationship and love the other person. Yes, high school relationships don't usually last. But that doesn't mean the significant other or relationship didn't mean anything to the people.

I've been with my boyfriend for three years. That's a huge commitment when most other couples can't last a few months.

I agree High school love isn't love...it's lust.

My boyfriend and I were together for two years before we did anything serious. You're in high school too. How much more do you know about love and lust than I do or anyone else.

You say high school couples don't know what love is. How can you turn around and say you know what it is and they're wrong?

Get the f**k over it. You're not in the relationship. Let them do what they want.

[*Spencer*]

Uh. Spencer, Suz says to stop discussing about this on this thread, you know. Take it to PM. like you always say to others. Damn spammer.

Hot damn, how could I have forgotten? But don't call me out if you don't want a response. Spamming? THAT'S always your rebuttal if I say something to you. Spam this, spam that. Yeah, I've been warned for it before, but aren't you a bit hypocritical in saying that? Don't reply to this if you don't feel you are. We can just end it here and you can move on loathing me. It's fair.

[datass]

let me tell you something that isn't obvious... you can't stop love mang! even superman couldn't stop it. ya'll cant deny it! i'm a phucin rider, you dont wanna phuc wit me~

what's that bryan?

[lilsnoopy]

IN modern days *now* high school love is not going anywhere

sure, you can date throughout highschool, but are you really gonna marry that person? And if you do, are you actually not going to get a divorce since you jumped into something without thinking about financial issues, not meeting new ppl that you might have a potenital crush on, and child costs? True fact, we live in a society where young ppl dont realize what they are getting into since they marry too early. Being married and "being together" are too very diffent things, one that most young ppl arent ready to handle the emotional and differnt lifestyle they face.

And if you have known that person throughout your life, stay together fir more than 5 years of marriege,kudos then because your a rariety in our society.

[Kay-]

Oh my gosh, how can anyone say that you can't love in highschool? This is just idiotic. Love is love, there is no age or type. It's just love. You can't prevent it nor force it.

Sure, they might not last very long but it doesn't mean that you didn't love that person at one point.

[AimeeLynn]

Oh my gosh, how can anyone say that you can't love in highschool? This is just idiotic. Love is love, there is no age or type. It's just love. You can't prevent it nor force it.

Sure, they might not last very long but it doesn't mean that you didn't love that person at one point.

I'm sorry...How old are you?
Have you experienced it? Guys just want a short term relationships...Only rarely a long term. It's never love.. it's lust!
Love is when you know a person and be there as friend and not just your "boyfriend or girlfriend".
That's not love.
It's High school!

Love=Hook ups

[lilsnoopy]

Sure, they might not last very long but it doesn't mean that you didn't love that person at one point.

Thats not love then. Thats just having great affection for them.

In fact, I would hope that anyone underneath high school years would never experience love since love hurts, especially when you realize that you would suffer just to be with that person. High school should not be full of committment, not having to deal with the pain that comes with fun

[Kay-]

I'm sorry...How old are you?
Have you experienced it? Guys just want a short term relationships...Only rarely a long term. It's never love.. it's lust!
Love is when you know a person and be there as friend and not just your "boyfriend or girlfriend".
That's not love.
It's High school!

Love=Hook ups

Notice how the word friend is in the word boyfriend. That means they're both your friend and your lover. And yes, i have experienced it and i still do.
What does highschool have to do with anything? It's a place to learn, not a type of stage in dating.

Thats not love then. Thats just having great affection for them.

In fact, I would hope that anyone underneath high school years would never experience love since love hurts, especially when you realize that you would suffer just to be with that person. High school should not be full of committment, not having to deal with the pain that comes with fun

It's called life sucks.

[nosylilme]

Completely agree 100% with resplendence.

[Comptine]

I'm sorry...How old are you?
Have you experienced it? Guys just want a short term relationships...Only rarely a long term. It's never love.. it's lust!
Love is when you know a person and be there as friend and not just your "boyfriend or girlfriend".
That's not love.
It's High school!

Love=Hook ups

It's not like you have any more idea about love than she does. You're what... 16?

And how much about lust and love do you know about? In your 16 years of wisdom, how can you differentiate between love and lust? Do you even know what lust is?

Guys don't want long term? It's just hookups? Almost everyone who was on this forum have been with their beau for at least a year. I've been with mine for 3.

People need to stop talking out of their ass and get off their little soapbox. High school students do not know more about love than another high school student.

IN modern days *now* high school love is not going anywhere

sure, you can date throughout highschool, but are you really gonna marry that person? And if you do, are you actually not going to get a divorce since you jumped into something without thinking about financial issues, not meeting new ppl that you might have a potenital crush on, and child costs? True fact, we live in a society where young ppl dont realize what they are getting into since they marry too early. Being married and "being together" are too very diffent things, one that most young ppl arent ready to handle the emotional and differnt lifestyle they face.

And if you have known that person throughout your life, stay together fir more than 5 years of marriege,kudos then because your a rariety in our society.

WOW! Are you serious? That you date someone since high school, so there's a good couple of years of commitment there, and you call that jumping in without thinking about money costs? Sure, high school relationships don't last but if you can make it all the way to even think about marrying the person and actually doing it, something is going right there.

I'm not saying that high school stuff last. But if you really haven't been in a long term high school relationship, don't say shit. And even if you have, just cause yours turned out badly doesn't mean everyone else is waiting for you to demean their relationship.

[lilsnoopy]

WOW! Are you serious? That you date someone since high school, so there's a good couple of years of commitment there, and you call that jumping in without thinking about money costs? Sure, high school relationships don't last but if you can make it all the way to even think about marrying the person and actually doing it, something is going right there.

I'm not saying that high school stuff last. But if you really haven't been in a long term high school relationship, don't say shit. And even if you have, just cause yours turned out badly doesn't mean everyone else is waiting for you to demean their relationship.

I have. It was great actually =D

you and I are thinking on two differnt levels, two completely diffent things

[AimeeLynn]

Guys don't want long term? It's just hookups? Almost everyone who was on this forum have been with their beau for at least a year. I've been with mine for 3.

"Only rarely a long term"
That's good for them.
Plus all the guys I talk to at school admit that they don't want a real relationship.
I don't care I'm 17 and a senior...
I'm done with High School drama all that.

I'm not arguing about it...I'm just saying that in some cases YES there is love in a SOME relationships.

[Tung]

Thank you Aimee, lilsnoopy, Kay, resplendence. you guys understand.

[Tung]

Damn highschool kids.

[Tracy-14]

High school "Love"
Wow, catch a movie or two, hang around in school and maybe dance a couple of times at a school dance, and your in love.
Pft. What you say is true Tung,

And high school. face it. your high school relationships are probably going nowhere. "high school love." that's a contradiction in itself. rarely does one find "love" in high school, and when students claim to "love," it's usually merely an illusion created by their idealistic brighteyed and bushytailedness, as well as a need to feel wanted, or to attach themselves to something concrete. Or perhaps they're bored and feel the need to get caught up in the whole dating fad. After all, it does get them the attention they crave. They're just abusing the word to fit their own false, superficial situation.

[Comptine]

^ Wow. 15.

Lots of high school experience huh.

[miyashu]

in the high school i used to attend, 'love' was limited to:

"awww yeh i'd tap that."

from what i've observed, some kids just don't take relationships seriously. they walk into it, thinking all their problems will go away, or believing that they have found their one true love for the tenth freakin time.

i'm not putting down the high school kids who are in happy, commited relationships. in fact, long-term ones are rare these days.

[Joss-eh-lime]

I don't believe in high school love either, but why not be with the boy/girl you are attracted to? A lot of high schoolers get too caught up in their relationships, and thats when it goes wrong.

[JCLore]

im trying not to fall in love, having a gf is ok, but i try not to go beyond long hugs and a few of texts a week....other wise i might fall in love...and im not ready for such a commitment


now that i've read that again....it sounds really cheesy haha

[xCutUpAngelxxx]

I am sick of the guy who obsesses over the girl: the songwriter, 3458345 telephone messages, love notes, picnics under the stars, the works. Girl breaks up with him and he mopes for the rest of his life. Love. no, loneliness, lack of confidence, insecurity.

And high school. face it. your high school relationships are probably going nowhere. "high school love." that's a contradiction in itself. rarely does one find "love" in high school, and when students claim to "love," it's usually merely an illusion created by their idealistic brighteyed and bushytailedness, as well as a need to feel wanted, or to attach themselves to something concrete. Or perhaps they're bored and feel the need to get caught up in the whole dating fad. After all, it does get them the attention they crave. They're just abusing the word to fit their own false, superficial situation.

So I ask you to think a little more when you confess "love." If there's one thing I hate, it's people who don't take things seriously about using the word love. And yes, i'm one of those people who takes everything seriously about using the word love.

I was too lazy to read all the replies, but I just want to say that you're definately me hero of the day for posting that.

I'm so sick of kids at my school who go out with someone for, like, a month and are like "OMGG, I love you!I don't know what I'd do without you!"
I personally don't believe in getting into serious relationships like that in high school, because we all know they don't last very long.

So thanks for posting that, 'cause it's true.

[pedophile]

okay, so just because a kid is in high school, means they can't experience love? i say bullshit to that. yeah, sure, the majority of high school students are naive & believe in all of that love at first sight bullcrap, but high school students aren't the only ones. hell, a lot of adults think things that are quite foolish. anyway, love is an EMOTION. humans can experience emotion at any given age, including *gasp* love! it's absurdly shallow to say that just because of someone's age, they can't find true love. love shouldn't be about lasting thru college with each other; it should be based on how you sincerely feel.
now, i don't believe in all that love at first sight "omgzz, i'm in love with him although we haven't even known each other for a month" crap, but i'm just saying, not all high school students are like this, as like not all girls whom make out with another chick are gay.

case in point: love CAN exist at any age

[Edwinbarkhordari...]

Ive never said "I love you" to any girl that I have been with so far..I try not to overuse the word "love" as much as other people like to because sooner or later the word "love" won't mean anything it will feel the same as if you were to say it to a friend.

It's funny how people say High School relationships don't last...Ive been with my significant other for about 8 months now and going..we plan to make it MUCH farther than High School.

[Becks539]

I'm 15, I'll be turning 16 in 3 months. Half of you have probably already ignored this post just by seeing how old I am.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year now. And no, despite what you guys think high school relationships consist of, we're not like yay let's hug in the hallway and go to the school dance! We don't even attend the same school. I will not have sex until marriage and I have very strong morals.

I know I love him. I also know that I don't know everything there is to know about love. Love is a learning experience. It takes time. Love grows and develops, it doesn't just one day explode and you know everything. I know my boyfriend will be there for me tomorrow, next month, and hell even the next year. I'm confident of that. Our communication is strong and that's what makes us last.

I can see where you are coming from though, but you are being so steriotypical. You're generalizing all high school students to be complete idiots that say "I love you" after 5 minutes. You're also generalizing guys as to not wanting a long term relationship but not all guys are like that. As much as you don't want to believe it, people fall in love in high school and things work out. There are many instances where people last about 2 weeks and stupid people who swear they're in love after a month, but there are also many people who last a long time and actually are in love.

[teeners4]

Lol my friend's grandparents met their freshman year in high school and they still hold hands even till now.

aww that's real cute! i think it depends on the people in the relationship too. i've been dating my "high school sweetheart" for a year now after high school. but i don't think i could date him until i'm in my mid twenties and get married. it's just too long for me!
but some people can date for that long or want to get married/settle down earlier.

[mushiebeans]

i think high school relationships are more for experience. so that you mature. you have to get hurt to learn and if you dont try anything, how will you know? im probably not going to marry my current boyfriend, but it doesnt change that i love him. we might go our separate ways and marry different people. but its nice to think "oh that was a nice memory" than "what wouldve happened if i told him?" ... you know?

[mushiebeans]

I'm so sick of people saying high school love isn't love and you need to be older to know what love is.

So, if you don't date during high school and college, how do you know what love is when you're thirty? You're five years old and you know you love your parents, how do you know what love is?

Love is an emotion. It's innately within people to feel (though some people just lack it and a conscience). It's not a duty or a skill you have to wait till you're "old" enough to experience it. Some relationships aren't love but there are people who are in a committed relationship and love the other person. Yes, high school relationships don't usually last. But that doesn't mean the significant other or relationship didn't mean anything to the people.

I've been with my boyfriend for three years. That's a huge commitment when most other couples can't last a few months.
My boyfriend and I were together for two years before we did anything serious. You're in high school too. How much more do you know about love and lust than I do or anyone else.

You say high school couples don't know what love is. How can you turn around and say you know what it is and they're wrong?

Get the f**k over it. You're not in the relationship. Let them do what they want.

i agree with this. seriously. i mean, just because it doesnt last, it doesnt mean it wasnt real at that time. people change and thats why people fall in and out of love. whats NOT love is when people go out with each other and then break up saying "he/she wasnt who i thoguht she was" ... unless that she/he was just playing and the other was serious.
and love is all around.
watch the movie you dumbbutt. i actually thought that was a good movie. not in a theatrical meaning... well that too. but it was very good at sending the message that "love actually is all around"

[Tung]

yeah okay miss pissy pants don't double post.

[SummerSwt1527]

i do beleive that anything is possible weither it be high school love or not... i think that love can make it through alot.. and high school years count. i dont however believe in abusing the word love. i am currently single and i have abused it before, i dont think that it was right. therefore next time i find someone im going to wait until i really feel that way before i just start coming out and saying it.

[RissyMel]

Only the person that says they're in love really knows.
I wouldn't say that someone isn't if they really think they are.

[Heathasm]

imo love is when you dont mind waking up to your bf/gf's bad breath EVERY day, their bodily gas, really disgusting colds/flus, you know where im going with this...

[Marlons]

And high school. face it. your high school relationships are probably going nowhere. "high school love." that's a contradiction in itself. rarely does one find "love" in high school, and when students claim to "love," it's usually merely an illusion created by their idealistic brighteyed and bushytailedness, as well as a need to feel wanted, or to attach themselves to something concrete. Or perhaps they're bored and feel the need to get caught up in the whole dating fad. After all, it does get them the attention they crave. They're just abusing the word to fit their own false, superficial situation.

f**king finally a group of people other than agree with this. I'm sick of the word love. It's overused.

[vietbabiiix3]

I don't think anyone has the right to judge another person's relationship just by their age.

Love is something personal, and I don't think you can say to even a high school person "You're not in love kid." Because, we all have been through the same things. How would you know what love is compared to someone else? Everyone has a definition for love.

[Anephoria]

What is love exactly? Not everyone has the exact definition.Personally, I think high school students are still developing emotionally and are trying to define love for themselves. Love is like a constellation, not everyone has the same POV.

[rejakalu]

anyway, love is an EMOTION.

I thought love was an action.
Whatever. Anyway.


My Two Cents:

I agree. There's this one guy I know who started dating this girl at the beginning of the school year [like a week after they met] and he was all like, "AH I LOVE HER." And then he broke up with her and went out with this other girl and claimed to love her the first day they went out. It's totally bullshit. I'm totally against shit like that.

But I'm not against all dating at this age. My best friend started going out with this guy at the beginning of the school year, who we met the previous summer, and they were like SUPER shy at first. They didn't even kiss until like two months after they started dating, and they BARELY tell each other they love each other and stuff. So it's been about six months? Yeah. Six months on the 25th. And they're not retarded about it. So I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

[Joanne]

It annoys me when people say they love each other after a week of dating. But what REALLY annoys me (and totally grosses me out) is hearing about how a long-time couple was seen licking each others' faces in the hall at lunch. I think if I saw it, I'd totally just throw up.

[Tung]

It annoys me when people say they love each other after a week of dating. But what REALLY annoys me (and totally grosses me out) is hearing about how a long-time couple was seen licking each others' faces in the hall at lunch. I think if I saw it, I'd totally just throw up.

INORITE?!!

[venti-anemoi]

I am sick of the guy who obsesses over the girl: the songwriter, 3458345 telephone messages, love notes, picnics under the stars, the works. Girl breaks up with him and he mopes for the rest of his life. Love. no, loneliness, lack of confidence, insecurity.

AMEN. Perfectly describes this one guy I know. Annoying as hell.

On the note of love: I've never experienced it, and I do find it ridiculous when people declare love right after they've met them, but I disagree with the fact that it's impossible to be in love in high school.

And it's super creepy when you're on campus after school and it's all empty and you round a corner and see a couple swallowing each other's tongues. Ewww.

[Sandraaa]

OK. I don't get the concept of 'high school love'. Is it when you're dating someone who goes to your high school? When I was in high school, my boyfriends didn't go to the same school as I. I don't understand.

[bitchface20]

Thats a load of crap. People can love in high school, and it can be real, just because you didn't, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Besides, you can't judge them from what you see. You don't feel what they feel. You don't know if they are in love. this is jut your own opinion.

[Comptine]

OK. I don't get the concept of 'high school love'. Is it when you're dating someone who goes to your high school? When I was in high school, my boyfriends didn't go to the same school as I. I don't understand.

I believe "high school" describes age.... not... literal location.

[Bitterissweet]

I think you're baseing this all on sterotypes and being a bit pessimistic. :] You should think outside the box yah know? I know where you're getting at though.

[CrotchetTheLeper]

Yeah, you're just stereotyping people. It's like you're telling me I don't actually love my boyfriend.

Sorry, but I don't agree with that.

Although, I'm not saying there aren't people who act like that in High School, because there certainly are. But please don't say that EVERYONE in High School's like that.

[Ahmanduh2]

It is true that maybe half the couples at my highschool aren't going to last but there are still some that do. We may be young but that doesn't mean we're incapable of falling in love. So is it once you hit college, you're mature enough to know what love is? I think it is just different for everybody. Some high school kids are in these stupid relationships that remind me of middle school but then some are in a true, loving relationship. I don't even know why I'm saying this. It's not like I've really been in love.

[rAwritsgWeg]

I think thats a very general statement. As CrotchetTheLeper said, it is a large sterotype and you should've really thought about what you said before you said it. Or at least focus on something. You seem to have broadened this too much. But hey, if you want to attack others becuase they feel love do it. You said you understand and take love seriously so put yourself in their shoes. Becuase it doesn't sound like you understand love.

[pinacoolada]

I'm sorry...How old are you?
Have you experienced it? Guys just want a short term relationships...Only rarely a long term. It's never love.. it's lust!
Love is when you know a person and be there as friend and not just your "boyfriend or girlfriend".
That's not love.
It's High school!

Love=Hook ups

You generalize. As many have said on this thread, love knows no age. I see where you are coming from since a lot of high school teenagers throw the word around. But keep in mind that there are some who feel something so much more than lust, and keep in mind that there are teenage high school guys who aren't just after girls' bodies alone.

I will use myself as an example. The guy is also my best friend. We're 16. We know each other inside out, and we haven't done anything considered "lustful" for the 2 years we have been together, because we know that with our crazy hormones and all that, it will only ruin things. I can honestly say that I love this boy, not because of anything physical, not because he's like a little trophy I can show everybody, but because of who he is and because I can be whatever I want to be and he won't care.

Little corny, sorry. Just saying.

[misoshiru]

lol. but you're only 16.

[pinacoolada]

Yep. That I am. It's alright, you can laugh and think whatever you want to think. That's cool too.

[Tung]

^ is that your bf in your picture. he looks kinda emo.

[pinacoolada]

^ Eh. He cut his hair. Doesn't look like that anymore.

[Tung]

you got pix?

[pinacoolada]

Nah. He hasn't taken a picture of it yet.
That picture was two weeks ago.

[Tung]

ye ye...butt wat about neww pix.? where it att tho..?

meee cantt sayy anythingg...witout no pix...

[CrotchetTheLeper]

You generalize. As many have said on this thread, love knows no age. I see where you are coming from since a lot of high school teenagers throw the word around. But keep in mind that there are some who feel something so much more than lust, and keep in mind that there are teenage high school guys who aren't just after girls' bodies alone.

I will use myself as an example. The guy is also my best friend. We're 16. We know each other inside out, and we haven't done anything considered "lustful" for the 2 years we have been together, because we know that with our crazy hormones and all that, it will only ruin things. I can honestly say that I love this boy, not because of anything physical, not because he's like a little trophy I can show everybody, but because of who he is and because I can be whatever I want to be and he won't care.

Little corny, sorry. Just saying.

Me and my boyfriend are the same way.

[pinacoolada]

ye ye...butt wat about neww pix.? where it att tho..?

meee cantt sayy anythingg...witout no pix...

bawww.
do what? stalk him?

[aaayotiffany]

hmm, there's this IDIOTIC freshman in my school and she came to high school last august and she's had like five boyfriends. with every one of them she claims that she "loves" them and that they're "the one". but they end up breaking up like two weeks later. it really pisses me off and annoys me to death, these little kids who take something like this to a level where they can say they've "fallen in love" with every guy they meet.

but i do know a few couples that have been together since middle school and they've graduated college now. sure they might have been through some stuff, but point is that they made it. its amazing, it really is. but some couples last, some don't. and thats life.

i'm very glad to say that the guy i've been with is definitely someone special and i've honestly never met anyone like him. if life leads us to marriage, then we'll take that road. but right now, we're just taking it one step at a time.

[RissyMel]

My boyfriend and I got together last year, 8th grade we fought and stuff, and broke up a few times, like when I went to camp, and when he went to Portugal for a month. During that time, we both dated other people. We both realized we still loved each other. Guess what? We're 15. We made it through all that crap and were still together. Yes, we're in high school, but that doesn't mean we can't be in love.


hmm.

[Tung]

no NUB..u ain't in lovee..u guyz just committed...nub..
GTFO my face..!

[aybaybay007]

oh my goooddness!
i think about this every day when i walk through the hallways.
all these assholes like cuddling and making out and like "OHMAHGAHHDD I LOVE U!!"
and they like write on theyre notebooks like Mrs. rodgers. and instead of saying My boyfriend or My girlfriend they say shit like My wife and My husband. NO! NO! NOOOOO!!! stopp!!

[sububabiix33]

I am sick of the guy who obsesses over the girl: the songwriter, 3458345 telephone messages, love notes, picnics under the stars, the works. Girl breaks up with him and he mopes for the rest of his life. Love. no, loneliness, lack of confidence, insecurity.

And high school. face it. your high school relationships are probably going nowhere. "high school love." that's a contradiction in itself. rarely does one find "love" in high school, and when students claim to "love," it's usually merely an illusion created by their idealistic brighteyed and bushytailedness, as well as a need to feel wanted, or to attach themselves to something concrete. Or perhaps they're bored and feel the need to get caught up in the whole dating fad. After all, it does get them the attention they crave. They're just abusing the word to fit their own false, superficial situation.

So I ask you to think a little more when you confess "love." If there's one thing I hate, it's people who don't take things seriously about using the word love. And yes, i'm one of those people who takes everything seriously about using the word love.

that is so true.
its so pointless & being in high school it feels like the relationships are only getting worse.
now the guys "propose" to the girl.
in my opinion its just messed up shit.
:/

[GunsNRachel]

Maybe I'm wrong here, but it seems like you're stereotyping EVERY high school relationship. In which case, you're wrong. Not everyone is immature and thinks that love is when you hold someones hand and know them for two weeks. I've been with my boyfriend boyfriend for almost two years now, do I love him? Yes, I do, but by your standards I don't. But what do I know about love? I'm just a stupid high schooler.