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Feeling attracted to my friend's girl
Walker75
post Sep 6 2007, 03:55 PM
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Hello there! Newbie here, Hope you can tell help me with this problem. So here’s situation...

A friend from work met this beautiful woman at a party some months ago, they seemed to get along very well that day, you know, talking and dancing together (great dancer by the way) having some drinks and so on, so he asked for her number and she gave it to him, my friend called her some days later and both agreed to go on a date together. (I believe you know the drill). After their going out together, he will not stop talking about her, kept telling everybody at work how beautiful and great she was. Well, the first thing that draws your attention about her is that she’s not American but Latin American, Colombian actually. She moved to the States about 6 months ago due to her studies. Anyway, they’ve been going out together for a month and a half already, but only as friends, he hasn’t made any move yet, even though he claims he likes her a lot.
Over the past days, I realized that I’m beginning to feel attracted to her too, but who wouldn’t? I mean, 5’ 7”, beautiful brown skin, awesome body, long black hair, black eyes…stunning, if you’ve seen Colombian women, you will have to agree with me.
During this time, I have had the chance to talk to her, when going out with her friends and mine, and noticed that she really is all of the things my friend says she is… smart, sincere, and fun. That’s why the attraction. So far, I ‘m not a 100% sure about the way she feels about him, but I believe that she just sees him only as a friend, I could be wrong though. You never know when it comes to women, but what if I’m right? This would give me an opportunity, but I know inside that it wouldn’t be fair to do that to him besides, I know the guy for 3 years and he’s a really good person, I would hate to be in the awkward position of choosing between his friendship and her…. OK maybe I am overacting a little, there’s the chance the she might not want anything to do with me either, the thing is that I’ve never been in this kind of situation before, that’s why I don’t know how to deal with it.
That said, what do you think I should do? Talk to him about my feelings towards her or wait around and see how things unfold between the two of them, what if things don’t work out, should I start thinking about making a move only then?

Any advice?
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post Sep 6 2007, 04:49 PM
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If your friend likes her, I don't think it's such a good idea to try anything because it may ruin your friendship. _unsure.gif
 
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post Sep 11 2007, 03:30 PM
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I think you should talk it over with your friend and see if he REALLY likes her. You dont just want to go off and ask her for a date when your friend likes her, thats not a very good idea and I assume he will be pretty pissed. So yeah, the best thing for you to do is just talk to him about it so you dont make anyone feel awkward.
 
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post Sep 11 2007, 04:08 PM
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In the past, when my guy friends liked the same girl, they'd be like, every man for himself. I really don't think that's the way to go. Your friend already has dibs on her in a way since they're dating, even if it's casual. I'd wait to see how things work out with them. It'd be really bad if you made a move and she rejected you AND your friend hated you wouldn't it? whistling.gif
 
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post Sep 11 2007, 08:40 PM
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Talk to your friend about it. That's what I would do in that situation see whats going on between them and if he says ok go for it (and not seeming like he's just saying that) then go for it.
 
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post Sep 11 2007, 08:55 PM
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I think it really depends on how much you value your friendship with the other guy. If you're willing to throw it away for this girl, then every man for himself. If you're not, then just talk to him about it. If he's only been casually seeing her for 1.5 months, it's not like she is taken or anything.
 
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post Sep 12 2007, 03:46 PM
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It seems to me that everbody agrees on talking things over with him. I know that that is the right thing to do. So I guess I'll do it. Thanks for the comments. I'll let you guys know how things end up.


 
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post Oct 3 2007, 07:21 PM
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slap that hoe
 
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post Oct 4 2007, 01:47 PM
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this is SOMETHING you don't do!!!

I'm going through this right now with my boyfriend and my friend who claims to be my BF's best friend and they met THROUGH ME!!

In the rules of dating, you never get too close to who they are dating or pursuing... not only will it fcuk up the relationship between the 2 dating, but between you and your friend!
 
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post Oct 4 2007, 03:49 PM
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No don't do it. It's wrong. Stick that banana back in your pants. It wont do you know good.
 
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post Oct 4 2007, 03:57 PM
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man hit that shit..you acting like she's a virgin or something..Key word "Met at a party!" your friends loss and tell him that no girl should come between you two aka "bros before hoes".<-- great cover up.. ^_^ and get that infatuation out of your system.
 
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post Oct 4 2007, 05:42 PM
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talk to your friend first and wait ti'll he has absolutley NO feelings for her until you ask her out.
 

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