girls are.. relentless. Options

[xblast196]

only vote after you read the story


k this is going to be freakishly long, so bear with me.


when me and her started going out, everything was fine! then she decided "she needed a break". she told me "i'm not going to see another guy." lie. she did. turns out, it was her ex. she tells me she still has feelings for her. i'm not one to get upset over this kind of stuff, but lying to me does rustle my feathers.

then, we started going out again. somewhere along the relationship
she told me "when we first started going out, i didnt like you. i was desperate." i was crushed. i didnt talk to her for 2 days.

we were still technically going out, i never ended it. then she went to a waterpark. at this waterpark, apparently she let another guy like be "all up in her grill". she let him kiss her, and grab her ass.

this was enough for me. i ended it right then and there.

she called me, balling her eyes out afterwards.

"please take me back... i'm really sorry and i deeply regret it."

somewhere in that conversation she told me "remember that guy at the waterpark? well, he's kinda my boyfriend" or something to that extent. she then carried on about wanting to have two boyfriends and how i'll be #1. i said no.

she dumped him.

we began to go back out (third time).

now at this time, it was that god aweful week for a female.

enough said.
it ended on day two.

she then called me, balling again.

"i'm really sorry! you cant take me seriously when i'm on my period! plesae take me back! you mean the world to me!" so on and so forth.

so, i said yes. (fourth time.)

(i'm quite gullible.)

things went well for... like a week.

she then called me (apparently she was drunk, but i dont believe it.)

"ugh i hate you! it's over!"

so, i took that as a break up.

again, same story.

"i was out of it! baby you know i wasnt serious!"

this time, i didnt take her back. i grew smart.
(it took a while)

last week she called me.
somehow or another she got upset with me and told me to "go f*** yourself." "i never loved you, get out of my life."

basic stuff like that.
i ended up crying. it takes a lot for me to cry. i didnt even cry when my 14 year old dog died.

she's a persistent little bugger.

now, she wants me back "more than ever"

"baby i love you! you mean the world to me! i cant get you out of my head!"

frankly i'm confused.

now with all that being said, i now have to tell you about her friends and other misc. stuff to take into consideration before voting.

*all of her friends dont want me to go out with her. they all think she's annoying and they dont like how she treats all of her ex's.

*she's 17, i'm 14. 'nuff said.

*she refuses to talk to me in school, only over the phone or through friends/notes.

*she told me to tell her one of my crushes. it just so happened to be one of her best friends. whenever i talk to her she's always like "oh well why dont you go talk to your crush instead of me?

alright. now that you've heard the story, please vote. this is a huge problem for me, and i dont know what to do! :\

thanks so much.

[Flaunted]

When i read this i feel like.. she only wants you to be around her cause she doesn't want to be alone/ single. if she goes to the extreme spectrum of loving you and hating you in a blink of an eye, its like she doesn't really mean it.
Also, that is soo stupid that she won't talk to you in public!
this girl sounds really lame.
Go for the best friend!!
If her friends don't even like her whats the prob :P

[LovableGullible]

if she doesnt want to talk to u at school and cheated on you
Shes not worth it

[omgomgKATHY]

ew gross. You should hook up with her friend!

[RAWRstephishere]

I didnt even read half of it, and I know you shouldnt go back out with her.

[xblast196]

you guys (er.. girls) make it sound so easy.

her friend is taken. and i dont have a single chance.

[jue]

Is this even a question? Don't get back with her. How many times do you want to go through all the cheating and stuff?

[xblast196]

it's not like i want to...


but she's like the best thing that's happened to me.

[LovableGullible]

There are other fish in the sea.

[jue]

Doesn't seem like a best thing from what you've described. She obviously doesn't appreciate you and it seems like she's just using you. IMO, it's not worth giving her another chance.

[transcendentalis...]

what the f**k?
every single damn thing she's said to you was pathetic. all the stuff she does is pathetic. she's not the best thing that's ever happened to you, unless you've just been living in hell for your life so far. either way, she's hell personified.

i don't get why girls like her even exist.

[nosylilme]

it's not like i want to...
but she's like the best thing that's happened to me.

there, you said it yourself. you don't want to. why put yourself through that crap? you deserve better. you're only fourteen, afterall. you've got plenty of time to meet other people.

[xblast196]

what the f**k?
every single damn thing she's said to you was pathetic. all the stuff she does is pathetic. she's not the best thing that's ever happened to you, unless you've just been living in hell for your life so far. either way, she's hell personified.

i don't get why girls like her even exist.

it's not everyday a fat kid with acne finds a girl who likes him.

i think i'm a nice guy and all. i really do. but the worse part of it all is that girls dont see that. all they see is the crap on the outside, not the good stuff on the inside.

ugh.

[jue]

She's not the only girl you're gonna come across in your life. I rather be single than toyed around with.

[xblast196]

i guess you've got a point.

[LovableGullible]

it's not everyday a fat kid with acne finds a girl who likes him.

i think i'm a nice guy and all. i really do. but the worse part of it all is that girls dont see that. all they see is the crap on the outside, not the good stuff on the inside.

ugh.

well they must not like you for the right reasons. the girl you dated was really shallow. girls who like boys just cause they look good tend to end up with the jerks. Yeah the pretty boys might be getting all the love right now but its like they go through girls you know quick and i dont think you want that right? I suppose you want a girl for a real relationship and thats what you need a girl that will like you for the right reasons and not the right and not play you like she did and toy around.

[Relentless]

Yup. Girls are .... relentless.. (x

When I was reading the whole story, IMO, I would never want to be with her at all if I were you. The 2nd or 3rd try, i would've gave up on her.

She has commitment issues and she needs to settle that. I don't think you should go out with her. Besides you're only 14, it's better to meet other people than just her, and she's 17 who can't deal a relationship.

[charlg93]

''then, we started going out again. somewhere along the relationship
she told me "when we first started going out, i didnt like you. i was desperate." i was crushed. i didnt talk to her for 2 days.''

after she said that you should of dumped her!!!! i know how you feel but mine was worse, i said yes and went back to this lad 6 times. and then in the end i got so sick of him i dumped him. u can do better. and so could i, and i realized that. but u have to realize that to. she's not worth it. x

[blacknailpolish]

it's not everyday a fat kid with acne finds a girl who likes him.

i think i'm a nice guy and all. i really do. but the worse part of it all is that girls dont see that. all they see is the crap on the outside, not the good stuff on the inside.

ugh.

It sounds like thats the only reason you keep going back to her. Because you think she likes you and you're just settling for her because you think you can't get anyone else. Trust me when I say there will come a time in life when all the right girls for you will like you for the right reasons. This girl is definetly just using you. Really, I wouldn't even give her the time of day if I were you.

[Amaranthus]

She sounds like a hoe; I don't like her.
Your wasting your time with her. She thinks it's a game to play around with people, especially nice people like you (I'm assuming you're a nice guy). She's annyoing and manipulative, and frankly, I wouldn't her to be with you no matter how many times shes apologized. There's someone out there for everyone; don't gamble it on just one person.

[transcendentalis...]

who the f**k voted yes?
you're just gonna get crushed over and over again.

[shalalasusan]

Hell no.

You're too forgiving. :)

[minioligo]

She's just playing around with you...and possibly only wants you around for security. I hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but grow some balls and tell her that enough is enough. You're gonna find someone out there that'll treat you with more respect and love than she probably ever will. :]

[xirisx]

i totally agree get rid of her shes bad you sound decent..

[xblast196]

you guys are right.
i need to tell her "enough is enough"

thanks. :)

[pinacoolada]

OMG.
I can't believe you're actually considering another relationship with her. =O
She's obviously messeed up. She doesn't know what she wants, she's unstable, and you deserve SO MUCH BETTER.
Forget it dude.

[pinacoolada]

^Maybe you should get a life. You obviously lack one.

[*Spencer*]

I was in the same situation, and from my experience, it's not good to give it another go. I still hang out with the person it was with, but we have a lot of friendship/jealousy issues. Trust me, it's still ongoing and it's been about a year and a half to two years. I thought I couldn't live without her, but she played too many games. If I were you, stop letting her back in. Like me, it'll just hurt you in the end.

[pinacoolada]

thanks kid but i'm content with my great life =)

*thinks*
yeah you probably do enjoying touching yourself all day while people refuse to go out with you =]

[lilsnoopy]

How can you even associate yourself with her
-_-"

I wouldve through a brick at her mailbox

[akjsd]

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[Call911Quick]

You know, I'm gonna be honest, I think that seeing as how she's probably a junior/senior, and you're in 8th grade, that she lost a bet.

Something along those lines. Like you know, you "girlfriend" goes and tells her friends all about how gullible you are and plays around with you just for fun. Something along those lines.

Looks aside, even if the dude was really good looking, I doubt any senior girl would date a 8th grader.

[xblast196]

first of all, that will be enough arguing in this post.
second of all, i'm a freshman.
third of all, i've decided not to give her another chance. but now she wants to know if i'll at least go to homecoming with her. i think it will complicate things, but she insists it wont.















and to the whole "ugly" thing.

i'm not attractive, i'll be first to admit that.
but however i do practice good hygiene.

i do take daily showers.
i do smell good.

and to the person who thought she lost a bet:

probably.
but that bet has cost me in the long run.

so, new question.


should i go to homecoming with her?

[minioligo]

by saying yes, you're only gonna let her mess around with you even more. :x

[salcha4u]

yeahhh trueee. i think thats why you dont have a girl either eddie. LOL

ROFL

Hey I know your sig picture AHAHAHAHAAHHAA

[nosylilme]

so, new question.
should i go to homecoming with her?

nonononono.

[LovableGullible]

don't go to homecoming with her, you're just going to complicate things believe me. she might get the wrong idea.

[xblast196]

ok, thanks for the input.

i just wish it was that easy to stop associating with her at all.
but, that's a perfect world.

and my/our world is FAR from perfect.

oh well...

[fugu]

If possible, go for cold turkey.

I despise my last ex for some personal reasons and know I can't talk to him or deal with who he is as a person without busting out in some argument. He tried to patch things up with me a few days back after a year of silence between us but man.. Last thing I need is to deal with him for the rest of my days.

Same goes for you in this situation. She's too much problems for someone a few years older, forget feelings even if she holds a lot of the things you miss. So just lay it out for her that she's no good for you because of the cheating, lying and any other crimes people usually wouldn't want to find or forgive in a person. You'll find better folks out there if you try hard enough and when you do, you'll think back to this and wonder why you even thought about giving that crazy chick ANOTHER chance.

[transcendentalis...]

homecoming? haven't you learned anything?

that bitch... you really should just get rid of her. and i don't mean by not associating with her at all.

personally, i would have at least kicked her out of the metroplex by now. it's really not difficult.

[xblast196]

it's really not difficult.

yeah, it is.

[LovableGullible]

^ it's not difficult. Just don't associate with her. Your life will be a whole lot better. I don't know maybe you'll miss her or whatever but just think to yourself what she was doing to you, playing you. I mean seriously do you want to associate with someone that was playing you?

[transcendentalis...]

yeah, it is.

i'm talking about kicking people out of the metroplex.

i kicked out my martial arts teacher, mentor, basically older brother AND best friend because he would not leave me the f**k alone. did i want to? hell no. i told him practically everything about my life and he used me. i was so damn furious i made his life hell until he moved. do i still love him as a friend? yeah, i do, a lot. he helped me through a lot of things.

point is, if it's unhealthy for you, you get rid of it. shove those feelings aside.

[xxlipglossxx]

I don't even know you and I can tell you that you're way too good for her.

Don't put up with that bullshit.

[EmoEyelinerx]

f**k that, dont date her. She isnt worth it.

[xirisx]

DUDE!!! what are ypu thinking your just giving her hope by saying yes you dint want her to think your still intrested say no

[Joss-eh-lime]

wtf its called a SUMMARY.

[ReggieM]

shes 14 ugh that sounds so immature. And she is immature even tho i was 17 two days ago =), ur a man and shouldnt put up with whiney girls leave, and find your self a woman.

[barbieeedollxo]

don't date her..
she will only continue to cause problems.
you deserve better than that
& she's def. not worth all that pain.

[*jeanna*]

i believe that people break up for a reason.

therefore dont kick a dead horse or whatever they say lol