Boyfriend help., Confused feelings. Options

[omfGWEN]

Hey guys,

You probably wouldn't know me, I'm kinda new I just started an account, but I was googling stuff last night & I stumbled upon this forum thing. Well I thought the concept of Girls & Boys lockers were cool. So I signed up.

Anyway, I kinda have a problem.

Tomorrow is my 10 month anniversary with my boyfriend. I'm 14 and he's 15. Lately, he's been acting different. Like.. say we tried something new. Aside from all the kissing, something like 3rd base.. I thought it would bring us closer together in a different way, but he's kinda been acting different.

So I'm confused, was he using me, or is our relationship just slowly disappearing.. If you wanted to know how he's been acting different, I noticed that he treats me like his friend, not his girlfriend?

For example, I'd suggest something, or say something, and he would be like, "See that road that? Just stand in the middle of it for a while ok. Just a while." & he'll point to the road and slam his fist into his hand. He speaks like this to his friends, and he'll tell them to suck it up or harden up when they say something.

I know he's joking, but I don't WANT him to treat me like I'm his friend, I want him to treat me like something more? I don't know how to get about this to him, because I know for a fact he's joking, but I can't stand it how he does it all the time, and I don't want to talk to him about it because he'd probably think I'm a freak because he's just JOKING. I hate it how everything comes down to how he's joking, but when I say something, he'll be like "Wtf?" & then stand in front of me with his back facing me and say to his mate on purpose, "Hey, hows it going?" & I'd be standing there, ignored.

Most of the time he says, "Im joking, I love you." & kiss me or something, but I don't want to be hearing "I'm joking" all the time..

Now I'm confused because I don't want to be treated less, yet I'm still in love with him. Maybe we're changing, he's changing, but I'm not. Maybe also for the fact that he's comfortable around me, that's why he's treating me like his friend. But I really don't know. & I just want to be normal with him again.

Just normal.

[salcha4u]

I'm bumping this bcause I feel bad that no one else answered.

Anyway, I'm pretty sure it's a small bump in your relationship, 10 months isn't like...a small amount of time. It might not necessarily be you, but something else in his life. Maybe he feels insecure about something or he's just having his time of the month like usuallll. I mean, man, boys are such jerks!

[godly]

boys are such jerks!

just because your last boyfriend cheated on you doesn't mean all boys are jerks. tung is most def. not a jerk!

[transcendentalis...]

if you don't want to talk to him about it, you're pretty much screwed.

just go up to him, grab his hands and look him straight in the eyes, and tell him how you want to be treated. that's the more kind, sincere way to do it.

however, if you were me... i storm up to people, grab their shoulders, make direct eye contact, and pin them against a wall. "hey, we've got an issue. this isn't how it's supposed to be"
for anything, for anyone.

also, don't be trying new things if he's been acting different. for all you know, he's seeing other girls and you're just a benchgirl now. why go further unless you're completely sure, or if you don't like the way he treats you? mental business comes first, not physical.

i made the mistake of going further when i didn't know how he felt - though that was the reason i went further. we both wanted to be sure and we were both confused... which ended up horribly. though since we were still best friends and nearly twins, all went well in the end.

[EmoEyelinerx]

The only thing you cant do is really talk to him. Ask him why hes acting like your just his friend, and tell him that you dont like it.

[tokyo-rose]

A lot of people say they're just joking after they say or do something mean, but that doesn't make it okay for them to keep doing it if it really hurts you. You need to have a good talk with him and ask him why he's being different. If it turns out that he sees you as just a friend now, take a break and see how it goes. If you find that you're better off without each other, break up. Just don't let him keep treating you this way.

[salcha4u]

tung is most def. not a jerk!

Sorry, I didn't mean to diss your last bf.

[jammylise]

You guys need to talk seriously
and you need to tell him ALL JOKING ASIDE
and you need to talk to each other thats the best way

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

shouldn't this be in like relationship or something?

[kinjak1tty]

like the others said...but yeah that one joke he is always saying..if its fine sometimes, then let him know that so he doesn't stop joking.

[*Michelle*]

Moved to relationships.

[Tung]

I'm not a jerk. I'm the biggest sweetheart ever. =]
Yup Yup.

[nothin]

its okay tung, i'm here for u baby

[charlg93]

talk to him about your problem, and if he doesnt understand...

dump him