not knowing a lot about sex, and being sexually active Options

[yupimchuck]

it really frustrates me to see a lot of young girls, or even guy, being sexually active, or having sex,
but not knowing anything about what theyre doing.

for instance, i have a friend
who had sex her first time, didnt use a condom and took the morning after pill because she was paranoid,
had sex the next day and no condom
she freaked out and took a pregnancy test about a week later, and then another


and asked me if she could go to the doctor and if they could stick their finger up her vagina and see if she was pregnant or not?

she also asked me if you could get pregnant from dry humping....


i mean, are you kidding?


i relaly do wish people just learned about what they were doing before they started doing it.

what are your opinions on this?

im sorry this is really confusing topic ot me and i really am unsure how to word it

i just feel like people not being knowledgeable is what causes teen pregnancies, abortions, stds, and "accidents"

[transcendentalis...]

i'm with you on this one.
it's quite baffling.

+ they teach you pretty much all of this in health.. or a good deal of it.

[*Michelle*]

I have to agree. Sex is like many other things; research it before you do it.

The education system may need to start putting sex ed. classes in lower grades soon.

[yupimchuck]

in my school, their is a health class
and during the year you take gym, you switch out to health a few times (but its 2 different health classes)
and you take gym your freshman year (in most cases)


and they dont teach you about these things
they teach you abotu how to avoid std's

and abstinence.
and what its like ot get pregnant

basically they try to scare you out of havign sex,
instead of teachign you about it.


whats sad, is that about i out of 10 girls in my school is pregnant or has been

[arghrawr]

This kind of reminds me of that first episode of Reba where Cheyanne thought she could only get pregnant once a month...It's funny on the show, but it's scary to think about how many kids are fooling around and they don't even have their facts straight.

[hiromi]

We really should bring Sex Ed. to lower grades. Teach them extensively so we can have less idiots procreating with each other


(idiot may be a strong word, I suppose. Sorry bout that)

[ClaudelGFX]

How about you Guru's of Sex start a new topic named Sex Class ?:))
It doesn't really matter that much if you use a condom or a pill, because there have been lot of cases with ppl getting pregnant with any secure things ever existed, when it comes to sex and pregnancy, its all about the man, cuz the penis is in charge of that job, So first of, before getting into any acts, ask your BF if he really knows what's he's doing and secondly IF he has any condom, IF he doesn't, you should have one and pills. Its well known that mens are kinda forgetfull when it comes to condoms so its your job to, to think about all the consequices and thinks you should be prepared before you jump in bed.

I for one, used a condom only once in my life, didn't liked the feeling so since then i don't use condoms anymore, i just know how to control myself, and for sure noone got pregnant of all the sex "adventures" i ever had.

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

i agree on this one.
babies makin babies.
thats what it is!!
>.<

[yupimchuck]

How about you Guru's of Sex start a new topic named Sex Class ?:))
It doesn't really matter that much if you use a condom or a pill, because there have been lot of cases with ppl getting pregnant with any secure things ever existed, when it comes to sex and pregnancy, its all about the man, cuz the penis is in charge of that job, So first of, before getting into any acts, ask your BF if he really knows what's he's doing and secondly IF he has any condom, IF he doesn't, you should have one and pills. Its well known that mens are kinda forgetfull when it comes to condoms so its your job to, to think about all the consequices and thinks you should be prepared before you jump in bed.

I for one, used a condom only once in my life, didn't liked the feeling so since then i don't use condoms anymore, i just know how to control myself, and for sure noone got pregnant of all the sex "adventures" i ever had.

i mean i dont use condoms either. im a girl but yanno
but i have sex responsibly

and if i do end up getting pregnant i realize that it was my choice and ill live with the consequences

[*karmakiller*]

I think the bottom line is it's dangerous.

The place where I live has the highest amount of reported STDs in the state, so I know all about people being irresponsible. A lot of young people are gulliable and trust the wrong people. (Like a guy telling his girlfriend it's okay do this and that.) I'm surprised that people aren't educated on this stuff before they do it. If they don't teach the stuff in school than I think parents should take on the responsiblity of telling their kids about sex.

It's not always fair for some person who isn't educated about to get an STD that they'll never be able to get rid of, or get pregnant because they didn't know to use protection.

[ashxx69xbaby]

over all she needs just not caring about her self basically. she wants to ruin her life let her do it. i agree w/it all. she duz need to be educated more on sex but some parents arent gona sit down and talk with their kids about it. shes being paranoid basically. she needs to understand the effects of what happens. i shouldnt be the one who talks at all cuz i had sex for the 1st time we used a condom and i got pregnant. srry to say this but ur friend needs to stop having sex if she dont want that to happen to her. honestly girl u need to tell her FLAT out. thats waht friends are for to be honest. and if she dont like it tell her to go to her momma

[Comptine]

How about you Guru's of Sex start a new topic named Sex Class ?:))
It doesn't really matter that much if you use a condom or a pill, because there have been lot of cases with ppl getting pregnant with any secure things ever existed, when it comes to sex and pregnancy, its all about the man, cuz the penis is in charge of that job, So first of, before getting into any acts, ask your BF if he really knows what's he's doing and secondly IF he has any condom, IF he doesn't, you should have one and pills. Its well known that mens are kinda forgetfull when it comes to condoms so its your job to, to think about all the consequices and thinks you should be prepared before you jump in bed.

I for one, used a condom only once in my life, didn't liked the feeling so since then i don't use condoms anymore, i just know how to control myself, and for sure noone got pregnant of all the sex "adventures" i ever had.

I think your post shows that you are just as ignorant as the girl mentioned in this topic.

First of all, a condom can break yes and the pill can fail yes. But with today's amount of contraceptives, there's no excuse for stupidity. The pill rarely fails. The most common side effect of the pill is not failing to prevent pregnancy but it makes the women sick or lose their libido. Condoms break but even that is not that common.

Second, you don't use a condom cause you don't like it? But you say you have self control? Do the girls have birth control? That's a stupid risk to take. That's the kinda of risk uneducated young boys take. "As long as I pull out, no mini-mes."

We really should bring Sex Ed. to lower grades. Teach them extensively so we can have less idiots procreating with each other rolleyes.gif


(idiot may be a strong word, I suppose. Sorry bout that)

I agree. At my high school, Health is taught during Junior year but that's useless. I know for a fact that many of my peers were already sexually active or taking drugs or drinking.

I think abstinence only sex ed classes do more harm than good.

[towntown2]

People take sex so lightly these days, and it's so crazy!
It used to be a big deal to have sex, but now everybody can do it with whomever they want whenever they want without a care in the world.

I'm against pre-marital sex, but if somebody wants to do it, just know the risks and consequences before you get into it.

[yupimchuck]

over all she needs just not caring about her self basically. she wants to ruin her life let her do it. i agree w/it all. she duz need to be educated more on sex but some parents arent gona sit down and talk with their kids about it. shes being paranoid basically. she needs to understand the effects of what happens. i shouldnt be the one who talks at all cuz i had sex for the 1st time we used a condom and i got pregnant. srry to say this but ur friend needs to stop having sex if she dont want that to happen to her. honestly girl u need to tell her FLAT out. thats waht friends are for to be honest. and if she dont like it tell her to go to her momma

i have tried ot tell her this but she doesnt listen
but i wont give up on it
and she used to be the no sex before marriage type
thats what bothers me

[ClaudelGFX]

I think your post shows that you are just as ignorant as the girl mentioned in this topic.

First of all, a condom can break yes and the pill can fail yes. But with today's amount of contraceptives, there's no excuse for stupidity. The pill rarely fails. The most common side effect of the pill is not failing to prevent pregnancy but it makes the women sick or lose their libido. Condoms break but even that is not that common.

Second, you don't use a condom cause you don't like it? But you say you have self control? Do the girls have birth control? That's a stupid risk to take. That's the kinda of risk uneducated young boys take. "As long as I pull out, no mini-mes."
I agree. At my high school, Health is taught during Junior year but that's useless. I know for a fact that many of my peers were already sexually active or taking drugs or drinking.

I think abstinence only sex ed classes do more harm than good.

How i am "ignorant"? rofl that made me laugh
I believe we haven't had sex ? have we? lol so you don't really know anything about me in the first place. What i've posted was purely my opinion, but hey? everyone has one right?

PS: I can't have sex with someone i don't feel anything for, to me that's like having sex with a doll.

[HakunaMatata]

The education system may need to start putting sex ed. classes in lower grades soon.

My first sex-ed class was in the 4th grade, and while I'm sure that scared off a few people, at that age the class was focused mostly on puberty and not sex.

basically they try to scare you out of havign sex,
instead of teachign you about it.

It's just that a ton of people find it hypocritical to say "Don't have sex. And if you are, then use a condom." I think that's a prefectly fine thing to teach, and that's how it's taught where I live, but there has been backlash, and as far as I can tell, most schools won't teach that theory and, like you said, just scare people.

And as far as people not doing their research - totally true. They really, really should do their research. However, I do have to say that I'd give the girls asking the obvious-to-us questions a liiiiitle (really, just a little, thought) credit, because I know I have a little bit of a history to be a ditz and when you're scared and unsure, especially about something as serious as sex (assuming the girls asking know it's a serious issue), you can't exactly think straight.

[xFaith]

Those people are stupid. It's terrible so many young girls get pregnant because they don't know anything about it.

[ClaudelGFX]

[lovescream]

I think the Sex ed. classes really need to be like, rethought about because everything they teach is shit that either we already know or they don't teach us crap we don't know but should.

Anyway, I think that's absolutely stupid. I'd expect everyone to have sex ed. to at least know to have safe sex. Or, you know, at least know that you can't get pregnant unless there's an actual vaginal intercourse. But you know, if she wants to have sex w/o a condom, it's her fault. Her problems.

BLAAAAH. I also blame the messed-up world and messed-up media for showing teens so many sexual things. curiousity kills. :x

[RAWRstephishere]

I agree with having sex ed a lot younger.

In fourth grade, its about puberty not sex really.

They should have it in middle school, before a lot of people go out and have sex.

Also, I think its really stupid how people think sex isnt that big. My friend wants to have sex before she is married, mostly I think, because two of her "best friends" have already had sex. We are only 14, and I dont want her to make a mistake and get pregnant.

[olitarxush]

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[*Moderator*]

Its the darn teenage hormones I tell you. I have to agree with you completely. So many people are victims of their own sex drives. I'm pretty sure half of them don't have a clue what they're getting into when they do. They should start putting sex ed. in lower classes. I had it in like 4th grade, I believe.

[MissCuppyCake]

Wow! My Middle School Had Sex Ed In 7th Grade.....I Agree That You Should Tell Your Friend Straight Out.....Well There Are Way Too Many Girls And Boyz Running Around Having Sex Not Knowing What They Are Doing.....If They Are That Horney Then They Should Just go Buy Some Porn.....lol
They Should Only Be Doing This..........Hahaha

[*Steven*]

Well what did ya expect, condamns?

[fathomlessdame]

i agree, more sex ed classes in like middle school. and parents shouldnt be able to opt their kids out of it (how stupid is that?)

we had sex ed type classes in 5th, 6th, and 8th grade. 5th was more about puberty and so was 6th (never got the reason for it two years in a row..maybe cuz not all the elemetary schools did it differently? And 8th grade was like, look at all the STD shit you can get from having sex! and they gave us a baby to carry around for 2 days..actually, we made it.. but it was just like whatever.

and then when i changed school districts i had a class, Healthy Living (which you can take whenever during high school..you just have to take it.) and we did a unit on relationships and sex and stuff... but it was really stupid and i didnt learn much from it that i already knew. and the stuff that we should be told, that i already knew, wasnt covered..

[1angel3]

I think that's silly but she have to have an long talk with her mom or anyone willing to talk, how old is she? She should start learning about STDs by now in school, maybe she would have second thoughts.

[yupimchuck]

I think the Sex ed. classes really need to be like, rethought about because everything they teach is shit that either we already know or they don't teach us crap we don't know but should.

Anyway, I think that's absolutely stupid. I'd expect everyone to have sex ed. to at least know to have safe sex. Or, you know, at least know that you can't get pregnant unless there's an actual vaginal intercourse. But you know, if she wants to have sex w/o a condom, it's her fault. Her problems.

BLAAAAH. I also blame the messed-up world and messed-up media for showing teens so many sexual things. curiousity kills. :x

you know there is a chance you can get pregnant from anal sex right?

I think that's silly but she have to have an long talk with her mom or anyone willing to talk, how old is she? She should start learning about STDs by now in school, maybe she would have second thoughts.

shes sixteen
and she constantly comes to me to ask me things
and id ont mind
but i swear she pills the questions out of her ass.

and she says she asks this "nurse" at her work stuf like she asks me
but her "nurse" has been wrong so many times. so i dont really know what to say to her

she confides in other people so shes not as paranoid basically

[HakunaMatata]

you know there is a chance you can get pregnant from anal sex right?

Wait....how? It's the wrong hole. :/

*goes to read Anal Sex topic*

[fathomlessdame]

uhh, maybe somehow the semen can get into the vagina since its in around the same area? but i doubt it

[RAWRstephishere]

you know there is a chance you can get pregnant from anal sex right?

Dont think so..

[EmoEyelinerx]

I agree with you completely. I think they should talk about sex/std's etc. in lower grades especially. I also blame the media etc. for showing so many sexual things. Curosity kills. Its the person who goes and haves sex without knowing what their getting into, fault.

[animalinside]

i dont think ive heard the part about getting preggo from anal but i know its the top place to spread stds

[Crash2]

There should be sex ed in the lower grades. Kids are forming relationships earlier and earlier (here, at least) and they may get curious and want to experiment. But if they had that BG info they might be able to make better decisions regarding sex.

[nosylilme]

you know there is a chance you can get pregnant from anal sex right?

I've never heard of that before. Maybe if the semen leaks out to the vagina??

[towntown2]

I've never heard of that before. Maybe if the semen leaks out to the vagina??

It's possible, yes.
Although there is a better chance of getting infected because the rectum is the dirtiest part of the human body.