Confusion Options

[GRomanovEsq08]

ok so im a guy that has way too many girl who are friends. And now im totally confused about my sexuality. I like the idea of a relationship with a girl based on true romance and the sex as well. But on the other hand I like guys . And mostly like them for their bodies. All my life everyone has discriminated me being gay because of what i sounded like(and to tell you the truth i do have a girlie voice but not really girlie). And once people heard me talk they thought i was gay. I dont know what to do I have fantasies about guys mostly but thats just the sex. For girls i imagine to have a relationship. I know you guys can choose for me but i was wondering for some help. In the end ill have to make the decision.

[LadyXTor]

You're bisexual.

[GRomanovEsq08]

well thanks for that, im the kind of person that has fun and doesnt care what other peopl think. so im gonna have to come to turns with that in myself and tell myself im bisexual. Its myself thats having a hard time facing that fact. maybe if i told my parents it would help me more. (fyi my parents are okay would be okay with it)

[Relentless]

Maybe you're just bi-curious at the moment. Eventually you will find out you're sexuality later.

[GRomanovEsq08]

maybe , it could also be because i havent had a girl in about a year and im just exploring other options do to pressure on what the world thinks i am.

[*Moderator*]

Oh, I hate all these labels. I mean, you're probably bisexual. You like guys for lust...but you like girls for love. Society just makes us think that we're supposed to go with the opposite sex. Of course at the moment, you're hesitant to believe you are what you are.

[GRomanovEsq08]

yeah labels suck.

[x_curse_of_the_c...]

I think your normal. Most people have fantasies like this its totally normal. I don't know what you wanted to hear since you don't like labels.

[GRomanovEsq08]

well i really dont know what to do.

[x_curse_of_the_c...]

What do you mean? If it was me I would experiment have sex with a dude and see if I liked it if I did then I would continue. I think you may have an issue with the whole gay thing like maybe you don't approve of it? I don't know.

[Juris Khan]

i think what you're experiencing is completely normal. if you had to be labeled, i think it would be bi-curious. it's the best conformative label. it may turn out to be that you're bisexual, judging on what you've said, but i also agree with x_curse_of_the_curves_x that perhaps you should experiment sexually with both sexes. i dont mean go out there and be a slut, of course, and of course, you should be protected, but perhaps just see if you like both guys and girls, both personality wise and sexually, etc. i'm afraid this will come of as shallow, but i think it's really the best thing to do. you know, if it helps, i went through the same thing, and it took me a little bit of experimenting and time to decide, and i know what i am. even though labels can be limiting, they can also help as guidelines, and i've found that i'm bisexual. but it took me a while to figure it out...about 2 years, acuatlly, so dont be distressed if it takes you a while to figure it out. it can be a very hard thing to figure out and it can be distressing too. like you said, it could be pressure from others. i had that too. lots of people always were saying "he's gay, he's gotta be" so i know what its like to have pressure too...and this pressure could influence your decisions...it's good, though, that your parents would accept it, cause for me, even though they say they would, i know that inside, they'd be really upset about it...that was part of my problem, but it should make it easier for you...anyways, i think i've rambled enough, and i hope this helps...

[EmoEyelinerx]

Agreed^