Awkward Best Friend Relationships Options

[teishya]

I'm sure that most of us have had this happen sometime in their life before...when you best guy friend tells you that he has a crush on you, and you aren't sure to stay best friends or go on to having a relationship.

as for me, i've had this happen not once, but twice.
i have a best friend, let's call him bob, and he really is my best friend and is always there for me. however, after homecoming, he confessed to me but i denied my feelings and preferred to stay as friends. a month later, i find out randomly that he's going out with one of my other friend. i was shocked, because we were really close even after homecoming and he didn't tell me anything.
during his relationship with my friend, we became distant and i became best friends with my other friend, jim. now bob and my friend broke up a month ago, because our group found out that she liked another guy. bob, being the nice guy as always, decided to break up with her but stayed as her good friend and came back to me as a best friend.
two days ago, i told him earlier that i liked jim, but that i knew that he would never like me back. bob, being supportive, tells me to confess to him next week before he leaves.
now last night, we were just talking when i noticed in his profile a quote about 'never leaving feelings left unspoken, unnoticed, yada yada.' and so i asked him. later i find out that he sorta likes me again. and with a really weird flashback, i told him that i don't know if things can really work out between us, and that i sorta don't want to stay as just best friends, and if i really do like jim, but i basically left him hanging.
and now i'm confused on what to do, because i don't know what to say to him, and i'm not even sure of my own feelings. i don't want to make the decision of choosing between them, but i don't want to hurt bob again. any advice on what i'm really feeling or what i should do would be really helpful...
and i'm sorry for making this long, dull, ginormous rant. lol

[*ersatz*]

So, did you actually tell Jim, or...?

Anywho, if you are confused about your feelings, you shouldn't be with anyone. Until you can actually sort out who you really want to be with, don't start anything.

[teishya]

no...but bob told me to tell jim this week before he goes off for a one month vacation..

[towntown2]

Do you like Bob?
You've gotten yourself into a pickle, here.
Personally, I don't think you should've asked Bob if he liked you again.
That's just like picking at a scab that almost healed.

Just..leave the situation be.
The best thing to do right now is just wait.
Continue to be Bob's friend, but don't talk about romance [with him or any other boy] for a while.

[treschicgeek]

Just..leave the situation be.
The best thing to do right now is just wait.
Continue to be Bob's friend, but don't talk about romance [with him or any other boy] for a while.

I agree. Don't worry about it too much or else your decision might be too rash. I'd still be friends with both of them, but if it gets awkward, don't be afraid to address it or despite what your decision is, you'd be screwed if you don't talk about it. But ONLY talk about it if your friendship gets awkward to the point where...say...you wanna tell them something, but you're afraid it'll affect your relationship if you decide to date one of them.

Gah. Leave it alone, eventually when your mind is clear you'll be able to come up with a good decision.

Sorry if that's too...general. I'll probably edit this later if I can be more specific.

[EmoEyelinerx]

So, did you actually tell Jim, or...?

Anywho, if you are confused about your feelings, you shouldn't be with anyone. Until you can actually sort out who you really want to be with, don't start anything.

Agreed.

[teishya]

Thanks guys! :D

...well, things between me and Bob are okay now, I guess. I'll probably just try to sort out things in my head before Friday (the day Jim leaves). Bob & I are hanging out on Friday, first and probably last hang out of the summer. And we're probably avoiding the subject, but I'm not sure what's going to happen...lol. I guess we'll see. But thanks for everything!