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 Jul 25 2007, 11:49 PM
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I'm 20 years old...My mom still controls almost every bit of my life...I hate it, and it gets really frustrating at time...Mainly when it comes to my relationship with my boyfriend...She's so afraid to let me go anywhere with him. Its nothing personal...She's met him and she likes him. Its just the fact that he's a guy that f**ks everything up. She's afraid that I might make a "mistake". I understand completely where she's coming from...She's actually my step-mom. Therefore, she feels as if anything happens to me, she'll get all the blame and everyone will think she did a bad job raising me...
What really kills me is that my boyfriend hates the fact that we barely get to see each other...I really don't want that to be the reason our relationship diminishes. |
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| *Michelle* |
Jul 25 2007, 11:54 PM
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Well, if you depend on your mother for financial support, that's your own fault. If you want real freedom, I suggest you get the hell out of there and get your own life.
If you, on the other hand, are NOT financially dependent on your mother, than you seriously gotta take control of your own life and tell your mom you need to. You're a grown-up; you need your space, and you need your freedom. |
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| *Moderator* |
Jul 25 2007, 11:55 PM
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You're almost 21, which is like the legal age for doing anything. I think you should just sit your stepmother down and talk to her. Obviously, you're not a little kid anymore and she has to learn to accept that. You have to tell her what you told us. You have to inform her that she doesn't need to raise you anymore because you know what you're doing. She'll never know if you never speak up!
COMMUNICATION! Good luck. |
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| *SinfullySweet* |
Jul 26 2007, 12:04 AM
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Do you really love this person? If you do, I really think you shouldnt let anyone get in the way. The heart wants what it wants.
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Jul 26 2007, 12:04 AM
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You should talk to her about it. Tell her that she can trust you not to make a "mistake."
I dunno if that helps 
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Jul 26 2007, 12:04 AM
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you really need to talk to your mom. let her know that her controlling behavior is putting a strain on your relationship. also let her know that she's done a great job raising you and that now you are 20 years old, she should trust you to be an adult and make your own choices. |
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Jul 26 2007, 03:12 AM
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Jul 26 2007, 12:35 PM
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 Hi, Im Brook. Group: Member Posts: 1,774 Joined: Mar 2007 Member No: 508,383 |
Your twenty, your not mamas little girl anymore. You need your space and freedom. Sit her down and talk with her, tell her everything you told us, tell her you know what your doing becuase she raised you good. She should trust you, your now an adult and you can make your own decisions.
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Jul 29 2007, 05:42 PM
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Show her that you're mature, can support yourself well, and leave out of her shadow.
You havent done enough to show your responsiblity and strong female adult? Otherwise, you'll able to leave your mom. |
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